My parents are very traditional and I have know idea of how to tell them how old he is. Does anyone have any suggestions? He has never been married and has no children. I feel that he may be the one.
2006-12-25 21:11:54 · 29 answers · asked by Ashley_LS 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i really think and believe that age diffrerence does not matter in TRUE LOVE
but think about it when you guys marry.. you guys will want to do different thingss
becausee
your guy have experienced ALOTT more than you have and you will still be young and want to explorer more stuff
but your guy wouldn't.. cuz that's just how life workss.
but if you turly LOVEE someone.. i know thta you are willing to do ANYTHING for them..
but all i am saying is that.. beforee you make any final decisions.. just think,,, and look at the future that's going to be ahead of you...
and after that even if you think he is te ONe then go for it..
but true love does not come that easily
2006-12-25 21:17:36 · answer #1 · answered by smoothie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure you are doing the right things yourself so you can bring this person into your life. Remember your family will not be able to accept him if you haven't made some sort of life plan. If you can't find a way to do it now, you probably haven't done your homework. Values are good, but they are like advertisements. They are everywhere. Don't jump too quickly into anything. Sometimes things work, sometimes they don't. Check his FICO Credit score, and it wouldn't hurt to got to www.privateeye.com to see if he has any skeletons in his closet! At least you can find out where he has been for the last 22 years. It won't cost you anything either. A 40 years old person can accumulate a variety of work histories, showing instability, impulsive behaviors, and etc. When it comes down to it people can be a bit deceptive when they see a younger person coming. Find out his intent, by this I mean find out what he really wants from the relationship, marriage or ? Remember when your 65 he'll be 80, but then again it can work out. I was burned in relationship like this. So dot your "I's" and cross your "T's". Another thing, before you start getting intimate, both of you should give the gift of a clean life history, Get an STD test for all the bugs. One mistake can cost you a lifetime!
2006-12-25 21:30:26 · answer #2 · answered by JAY S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are many people that are in this situtation.Tell your parents how you feel and they will understand..But let me share with you a story about a few people I have known that have been in the same situtation.Men after they reach oh about 50 tend to slow down and take it easy.If you have children then you will more than likely be the one to take care of them while he takes it easy ..also when he is 50 you will be in your 30's and you may want to travel and he is probably going to be a home body.. and older men have a tendency to be a little more controlling but this is just few things that are negative..Ok now for the others.. He will always more than likely be true to you .Its great that you have the same values..He will be very good to you because you are younger and he feels good about you because you are attracted to him..He also has a few good years in him before he starts to settle down like in not wanting to do anything.I was climbing mountains at 44 now at 52 im slowing down a little but still got a lot of things that i want to do.I am just relating some experiences that I have heard of..But now some more positive..I have seen marriages where the guy was older and the woman alot younger last for many many many years.. So its just how you feel ..Just look at the prospects of the years to come in advance then make a move to do what you feel is right for you .
2006-12-25 21:23:35 · answer #3 · answered by LL B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's not a big deal. Women mature faster than men anyway and once you're a grown up, you're a grown up. 40 year old men are great! He will have a few clues, he will be mature and obviously, the fact he's not been married or has kids, and you both share the same values, he sounds a very good bet to me.
I don't know if you should tell your parents his age, other than invite him around to meet them. I notice that people nowadays seem a lot younger for their years than they once were. 40 now is not nearly as old as it used to be. Not sure why that is.
Best wishes and definitely, hang on to him!
2006-12-25 21:18:51 · answer #4 · answered by Gus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
and this is a problem why? You are 25 - it's your decision. IF it is REALLY what you want to do. I suspect that it is NOT or you would not have any problem with him or his age and your parents would be inconsequential.
In other words, if you have ANY reservations, and it is obvious that you do or you wouldn't hesitate, you need to end things. At age 40, he doesn't need to be wasting time with someone as immature as you are! Let him go.
Why, at age 40, has he never been married? Because he's never found the right one? How can you possibly think you are who he's been waiting for 40 years for?
2006-12-25 21:17:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is that a problem. Many women have awesome relationships with older guys, And also , an older guy is less likely to be a lust filled party animal, more likely to be stable, and ready to take good care of you!
Traditionally, your parents would probably think that age difference is rather small, is there an age gap between them? In the olden days, women nearly always were married with older men who had the means and maturity to care for them properly. As long as he is good to you, go for it!
2006-12-25 21:18:02 · answer #6 · answered by wehweh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for it. age does not matter, unless if he was like 40 and messing with a teenager, then it would be a big deal. He might be really mature though, maybe he's good for you. Try it out and see. And your parents, i don't know about them, all i can say is they are not the ones dating you so they don't know what you want and all that other stuff. Other wise good luck and Happy Holidays!
2006-12-25 21:17:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anestyalaska♦ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age should not matter. I am 40 and my girlfriend is 33, but my parents are liberal. Also you can tell if he is the one. You can tell although it took me awhile to learn this. If you 2 can talk and I mean really talk and trust each other. You are almost there. The things is your parents will know too. Don't stress to much and be yourselves around them.
2006-12-25 22:08:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
so what if he 40 , the question is are you sure he is the one, how long u know this guy , you meet his family yet, where do you know him?
i hope you not asian , but if you are
i'm just try to mimick your parents : ) they going to ask you this question might as well prepare yourself with good answer right
bring him to your parent and introduce him as a good friend , get him to hang out a lot with your family if your family like him already is easier for them to approve on later day.
oh ya if you asian, hopefully he is a succesfull in financial world, for some reason asian parent think guy should be successfull in that matter especially when you still single and 40
well anyway try the good friend plot it might work;
good luck and you still young , you got nothing to loss :+
2006-12-25 21:22:52 · answer #9 · answered by mazdaspeedprotege 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't see any problem having an age gap of 15 years between the man and his woman. The most important thing in a good relationship is compatibility.
2006-12-25 21:24:47 · answer #10 · answered by Arnoux 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋