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Question

i have had a serious relationship for quite sum time... we have had sex many times but no oral... is it okay to ask for oral sex???

Answer 1

if she is willing to.

Answer 2

One guy touched upon the correct answer.

Is it possible that your partner also wants it, but like you, is nervous about asking for it?

To a certain extent you run the risk of coming off looking like a pig if you simply ask for it.

The best thing to do is to just dig in and do it yourself. One of two things will happen. She's either going to slide down and get comfortable, or she's going to tense up, close up, and at least you now have the opportunity to talk about it.

If this is something that is unknown to both of you, remember she has a couple things to deal with, that for the most part, you don't.

Just because she tenses up, that doesn't mean she doesn't want it. It might only mean that there are a couple of issues that have to be addressed.

First of all, no it's not gross...

Second of all, she does not smell gross down there, but rather, she smells wonderful down there, and her scent make you horny as hell for her.

And third she tastes sweeter than hell, and you love it! (it may help her to look directly in her eyes, take her hand and hold it tight, and implore her to let you continue, that you really to love it...)

Think about the thought process going on here. She's not thinking about how great you are going to make her feel. No! She's going to be all wierded out, worrying about how gross YOU think she is down there.

She's never had anyone that close down there, or more specifically, she's never had a nose, eyes, and a mouth that close down there, and that's got to be very unnerving for the first time.

Now...

If she let's you. And you do a somewhat proficient job (don't bite) and she really enjoys it, loses her inhibitions, relaxes, and decides she wants you to do that more often; doesn't it seem like a normal reaction that at some point she's going to want to do the same for you?

This is the more empowering way to initiate a woman into oral sex. You take the initiative. You alleviate her fears. You show her what fun it can be.

And lastly, you do some research. Watch a couple lesbian pornos. Watch the tongue techniques, and try to remember a couple. Don't go in there blindly, not having the slightest idea what the hell you are doing.

Answer 3

Yes, by all means it is fine. If you were with your significant other and their was something that you weren't doing, like stimulating her breast for example and it was a real turn on for her, would you consider it wrong for her to ask if you would? Why do you feel that it would be wrong to ask for this? Have you been taught it was a dirty act or degrading to women by someone? Be warned though, if she hasn't done it by now, and you say that you have had a serious sexual relationship, then she most likely doesn't want to do it, or hasn't done it before and is afraid. Either way, be gentle when asking. For example when you have both been making out and are turned on, kinda bring it up by saying something like "Hey baby, their is something that I have have been thinking about for awhile and thinking about you going down on me, gets me so worked up, I can hardly stand it. It would be so sexy and I was wondering if you would wanna try it." If she has never done it before and is afraid to because she doesn't wanna feel like an idiot or whatever, don't be afraid to reassure her. Tell her not to be afraid and that you will tell her what feels good and what doesn't. Tell her no one is perfect the first time and that you would never laugh or make fun of her. What ever you do, DO NOT just blurt out " hey baby will you suck my ____?" In my experiences, when younger, that doesn't work unless the girl is pretty sexually aggressive. In most cases, if they are that aggressive they will do it without you having to ask. Also you say that their has been no oral sex. I take that to mean, that you haven't went down on her either. Don't be afraid to take the plunge and perform on her first. This way she can see, you are willing to do this for her. Once you learn to do it correctly, she will realize why you would ask her to go down on you. It can only help with your chances of attaining one of the great sexual pleasures. lol Good Luck! Edit: Oh and to mariefel q. If you think it isn't worth it, you have not had it done correctly. I would try it again, cause you are missing out.

Answer 4

If you have had sex you shouldn't have a problem getting oral. Just be prepared...you only get as much as you give in return.

Answer 5

If you dont ask for that, you will either dream of it or you will try to find out if your partner enjoys that kind from around. Dont swingle things by turning circles around the original question you intend to ask, just say it. It will be tough, but what if she wanted that the whole time ;)

Go for it, you got nothing to lose and only to gain.

Be brave!

Answer 6

if you give oral it is only fair that you should receive it ,if it the first time she has ever done it then let her do what she feels comfortable with but tell her when it hurts so she'll know not to do it again

Answer 7

yes dude. ask. tell her, give me a bj. go down first. initiate it. send her an e mail pic of a dude getting a bj. make it fun with whip cream. yes its okay to ask for oral. did i mention its okay to ask?

Answer 8

ask for? probably not the best way to go about it.

Find a way to hint or mention that you think it'd be sexy or something, it might be better than just asking straight up haha.

Or maybe make the first move towards it by doing it for her O.o

Answer 9

i'd be approaching it more like " Hun, would you ever consider trying new things ie: oral etc"

and LET HER THINK about it ... dont pressure

if she agrees, she will do it ..

Answer 10

You should defiantly ask. But remember if she scratches your back you better scratch hers. Good Luck.69

Answer 11

If it hasn't happened by now, your partner may not like it. It doesn't hurt to ask.