I tell my old man we should just go on a wing and a prayer. We have enough to move and rent a place, and we have the worst neighbors in the whole world.When you are in a no win aituation, and people will not be fair and treat you right, and you see your kids being snubbed by other kids, cause their parents thnk your wierd, would not you kust say, "IM OUTTA HERE!"
My husband tells me all the time, "wherever you go there you are, but I want to be who I am somewhere else!!!
What would you do???
2006-12-25 20:59:46 · 13 answers · asked by wehweh 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
You do as you say - go on a wing and a prayer. I did that with my daughter and it was the best thing I ever did. I had no help or encouragement from any family member and I was so depressed. Sure I would have to go on relief for awhile, but I did find a good job faster than where I was before and would be living in a much safer place, too, for my child's sake. You never know unless you try. Tell your husband: "I'm outta here!".
2006-12-25 21:07:03 · answer #1 · answered by miladybc 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you have a car.? If you do. Then GO.
Nobody is ever in a no win situation. There are always better days ahead..
Remember no credit is better then bad credit. Its easier to get it then fix it. Take what you have in cash, pack up the car and leave.
Find a different city and stay there. Truck stops have showers that you can use for around 5 dollars each time. Or a rest stop for free. It is comes to that and you REALLY want to move.
Get to a new city and rent a P.O. Box so you have an address, sign the kids up for school. Find a hotel that has a kitchenett or find a place that will rent to you.
Find a dollar store or a goddwill store. Those places are really cheap. Most kids in school can get free lunches and some are starting to have free breakfast. I did when I was in school and I told everyone the breakfast was cause I didn t like my mothers cook or she had to get to work really early.. Helped with being embarressed.
If I were you i would go some place warm incase you have to live out of your car for a while To save money. DO NOT FEEL EMBARRASSED AT ALL.
We have all been there.
And the husband with the 'where ever you go there you are' is a BIG FAT COP OUT. meaning he does not want to leave and can not come up with a better excuse.
Good Luck and i am here for you if you need someone to complan about things to.
2006-12-26 07:45:56 · answer #2 · answered by LadyCatherine 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know why your neighbors think you are weird or worse yet why they won't let your kids play with theirs. You may have done something to harm you and your families reputation, and by no means am I judging you. I think for the kids sake and it sounds like yours also, that you guys have nothing to lose and everything to gain by moving somewhere new and getting a fresh start. If you are conducting yourself in a way people don't trust their kids around you, then maybe you should try changing to accommodate the happiness of your children. If you are just poor or look weird and people treat you like that then they are ******* idiots and you need to move anyways. I grew up in a small ignorant *** redneck town and people there were the worst. Moving for me was the best thing ever. I live in Denver now and there are so many different people and different cultures here that my children will never treat people indifferent. I sold cars for a long time and half the population has bad credit including yours truly. Your husband needs to be more supportive. Memories last forever not money. But money is better sometimes in bigger cities.lol Good Luck.
2006-12-26 05:13:29 · answer #3 · answered by cargirldawn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have enough to move, then I say move. You can get a job anywhere you go and be better. Sounds like you would like to better yourself. There are so many 9 month courses at so many community colleges. Take a course that will allow you to get a job that is totally different from what you are doing right now, you never know where it will lead you. And it would also make moving with no credit easier if you were able to get a better paying job. Whatever you decide, make sure it is what is best for the kids, and not just the easy way out for you and your hubby.
2006-12-26 05:20:04 · answer #4 · answered by Haveitlookedat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't move just because of a few people, maybe houses, not out entirely, unless you live in small town and haven't this option. Then again who knows maybe moving would be the best thing in the world. Maybe you are weird. Nothing wrong with that. You have to live with these things wherever you are, your husband is right about that.
2006-12-26 05:18:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have any family who lives in another place? Maybe you could stay with them for a couple of weeks until your husband gets a job there.
2006-12-26 16:12:42 · answer #6 · answered by drshorty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go without your husband. Why doesn't he support you? Doesn't he see how unhappy you are? What's keeping him in the rut you say ya'll are in? Does he have ties there? Or is he just not as ambitious and concerned for your kids' futures as you are? He can be replaced - do what's right for you and your kids. He'll follow if he's decent - if not, get a sugar daddy (lol) or have faith in yourself and do it alone!
2006-12-26 05:03:28 · answer #7 · answered by bree 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Bad credit is one of the worst problems to have... however there exists a solution.
I will hereby talk from my personal experience.
I did debt consolidation a couple of years ago, however If I had to do it again I would pay to some minor details,
if someone wants to get out of debt today it is pretty easy with a debt consolidation plan, however it may get a bit tricky at times, I suggest you get as much information as possible online on this first,
a good place to start in my humble opinion is astraight to the point ebook with question and answer I found :
http://umgarticles.atspace.com/debt-consolidation.htm
if it helps kindly remember me in your voting!.. cheers!
2007-01-03 01:42:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to have a plan...because if you just leave ... with no resources, you will probably end up in the same situation...
you gotta save your money...
do you have relatives/friends that can help direct your path?
best wishes
2006-12-26 10:20:05 · answer #9 · answered by Winters child 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I had the means to try for better, I would... regardless of where I was at the moment =P
2006-12-26 05:02:39 · answer #10 · answered by tamaleman33 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋