there is a guy I know for like three months. I like him so much, but each time he tries to kiss me, I just can't. he so wants to take me for a date but I'm afraid to go cus I feel he would want to do it with me and I am not ready. Sometimes, I feel maybe he is just a friend for me, so that's why I don't wanna kiss him. how can I make sure that I love him or not, and would I loose him if I don't go out with him and don't kiss him?
2006-12-25 20:37:37 · 17 answers · asked by Alex 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am 20, have never kiss anyone before, and didn't have sex. But I like this guy so much, and wanna make myself do it :(
2006-12-25 20:39:38 · update #1
Take your time! You don't have to rush into anything. You can date him and get to know him without kissing him. As time goes by you may become more comfortable with him and want to be more than just friends. Until then, don't let him pressure you into anything you are not ready for.
2006-12-25 20:43:12 · answer #1 · answered by pink.vixie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i know this for sure ,if he a real dude , not just try to get some, you won't loose him if you don't do things he ready/want to do meanwhile u are not ready or want.
a real dude suppose respect what a lady want and understand it, so please don't be a silly girl and do whatever he want, u don't want be a minus in front of great guy in case this one is not ( i hope i'm not confuse you : ) )
if this dude really like you i think he'll try to understand you better and talk to you instead of try to kiss you all the time : )
go for the date and see what happen but again remeber what i tell u above plz remember.
oh ya honestly personally speaking is kind of hard to love someone you don't really know so don't worry about that part.
and after you know this guy better, if you wake up one morning and the first thing on your mind is this dude then , you might like him, just take it slow.
no need to rush you still young
have fun and be safe.
2006-12-26 04:47:39 · answer #2 · answered by mazdaspeedprotege 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well 1st & 4most u shouldnt MAKE yourself do anything that pertains 2sex or love. These things come naturally and are not planned because they are controlled by feelings that we dont control. So if you're confused as 2whether u truly like him or not, on an intimate level or not, allow yourself 2 go out with him. And 4SURE, dont put a guideline around your realtionship or set expectations, 4him or you. Thats all unncessary work that is going 2leave u feeling nothing but obligated 2follow thru with something that may not feel right at the time. And if he's any bit worth your while, he'll respect you 4what u want, or maybe dont want.
2006-12-26 04:46:40 · answer #3 · answered by Trinity 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it makes you sad to think about losing him, but also, about losing your innocence, which is more important to you?
Your innocence should be saved until you are totally in love, and married. If you really are in love, than it seems kissing him would be happening a lot, and not something you dread.
You clearly like him ina friendly way, not romantic. And, he wants more, but, you do not. So, the answer is, you tell him that you value him AS A FRIEND, but, unless you decide different, he needs to not kiss on you. Tell him, if you change your mind, you will let him know. If he keeps pushing, find a new friend, preferably a ga, so no hanky panky need get mxed up in it.
When you find Mr. Right, believe me, there will be a lot of kissing, and no sad faces either!!!:)
2006-12-26 04:47:00 · answer #4 · answered by wehweh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being afraid is all part of the game. You need to be sure of his intent and if he respects your feelings. A kiss does not mean that everything else will follow. But ignoring his advances totaly and not sharing some compassion with him may send him the other way. He may think that he is not good enough for you. Be frank with him and tell him you feelings. If he is a stand up guy and a possible future mate he will understand. If not dump him.
2006-12-26 04:49:15 · answer #5 · answered by William D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will lose him because you are showing him signs that you don't want to be with him. If he is thinking this way why not tell him how you feel.. if he really loves you he would understand.
and for your problem.. you will have to face it because no one would date you as kissing and "doing it" is a sign of affection and of course a realtionship! But since you sometimes tend to think that he is a friend to you then be apart for a while. think about it.. if you miss him then give it another chance.. a kiss is nothing so be confident! and don't be scared! If he isn't the right one then look for another! Open another door! hehe..
Good luck then!
`sha"
2006-12-26 04:43:08 · answer #6 · answered by silverbutterflies 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Kissing is not a big deal. I think you are too immature to be dating if you think that kissing is "like end of the world omgness of all the time!" Just be his friend until you are ready to date.
2006-12-26 04:40:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
In cases where youre not sure u like the other person for more than a friend, its best to not proceed. When u really like someone, you always know so.
2006-12-26 04:41:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he likes you for you and not just for the sex he may want, you will not lose him if you are not ready. Don't have sex with someone if you are not ready. Even if you do, he may lose respect for you and move on anyway.
2006-12-26 04:56:12 · answer #9 · answered by thom h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if I was visiting New York city for the first time and I hailed a taxi....I would tell the driver where to go and on the ride to my destination, I would ask questions about the city so to get an idea about the place.....
2006-12-26 05:01:35 · answer #10 · answered by sayasyoulike 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋