My husband compromises his religion?

Question

My husband is a JW in training. He was raised as JW but has never been baptised. He began to do Bible study when we first got together and I was okay with that. We have been married for 2 1/2 years. He told me he didn't believe in celebrating holidays, so I would ask him to attend holiday dinners with my family (he didn't have to eat or participate in anything). Just his presence meant a lot to me. He said he couldn't. I left it alone for a while then realized that he compromises his religion for his own benefit. He has went to birthday parties for his friends twice that I know of. Last week his job had a x-mas party where you had to bring a gift. He didn't do that part, but he at the food they provided (sandwiches). He said they cannot eat the traditional holiday foods during the holidays (turkey, stuffing, etc.). So this x-mas I tried it again. I asked him to come. He said no. He went to his friends parents house to watch the football game. They all celebrate holidays.

Thanks for the responses. May I add that I even tried to compromise with him earlier last year. The JW's had a conference (their yearly thing) and he asked me to go, knowing how I feel about the JW's and their beliefs. I thought about it and said what harm could it be? You know how you were raised and you know what you believe? So, I agreed to go and we even went out to dinner with a large group of JW's after the meeting (it was around Easter time). I asked him to come to a holiday dinner and he refused to go. I explained that I went to the conference with him to show support and because I am his wife. I didn't really want to but I decided to take the first step in compromising. He said he didn't ask me to go and that I don't have to go ever again. Once again, he said he couldn't do it.

Answer 1

Some who call themselves "Jehovah's Witnesses" actually are not, and may even bring reproach upon the organization. It's sad and regretful when that happens, and when the person actually *IS* a baptized Witness then his congregation elders can and should counsel him.

But a person such as is described in this question does not qualify for baptism as a Jehovah's Witness. It is difficult to imagine that his worship is sincere.

This questioner should not assume that the husband understand his wife's issues, and she should explain them calmly and explicitly. As a followup, the questioner may be successful in helping her husband improve by writing these Scriptures on post-it notes and scattering them about the home:

(1 Peter 3:1,2,7) If any are not obedient to the word, they may be won without a word through the conduct of their [spouses], because of having been eyewitnesses of your chaste conduct together with deep respect. ...You husbands, continue dwelling in like manner with [your wives] according to knowledge, assigning them honor as to a weaker vessel, the feminine one, since you are also heirs with them of the undeserved favor of life, in order for your prayers not to be hindered.

(1 Corinthians 7:3,4,16) Let the husband render to his wife her due... the husband does not exercise authority over his own body, but his wife does. ...husband, how do you know but that you will save your wife?

(Matthew 15:6-8) You have made the word of God invalid... You hypocrites, Isaiah aptly prophesied about you, when he said, ‘This people honors me with their lips, yet their heart is far removed from me.

Learn more:
http://watchtower.org/e/20010108/article_02.htm

Answer 2

You should ask him why his friends are important enough to compromise for, but you, his wife, aren't high enough on that ladder. However, you did marry him knowing he was raised JW and wouldn't celebrate the holidays. On the other side of that coin is the fact that he married you knowing you do celebrate the holidays. I would think there could be some middle ground the two of you could meet on. Perhaps he could attend family dinners that are the least objectionable to the JW faith.

Answer 3

It sounds to me that he is still not sure what he wants to accept as far as beliefs. He may be taking baby-steps in becoming a jw and has not made his mind up. You should ask him what his intentions are. He is a grown man and can only decide for himself. I think he is being antisocial and inconsiderate of your feelings. I have known of jw's who have attended xmas family gatherings but have made it very clear that they are not there for the celebration of the holiday. And if that is respected by you and your family then it is not a compromise to him.

Answer 4

My husband compromises his religion?

Answer 5

Do you mean Jehavoah's Witness (i.e. they can't celebrate anything?) You said it yourself, he compromises his religion for his own benefit. What else do you need to know? He's selfish and inconsiderate of your feelings. He will probably just get even worse as time goes on. Dump him while you can. I'm sorry you didn't realize this before you married him though :(

Answer 6

What is your question?

Do you want your husband to be more religious? I

f not then, you should be happy. He will have more time for you.

If yes, then you are in religious trap the whole humanity have suffered till now. This century is more knowledge based than faith based so make wisdom.

Do not believe and spend time in ignorance. All the best.

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Answer 7

Is he an unbaptized publisher?

If not, he is not yet officially a JW so to say there is no problem with that. It is a good effort on his part to practice the teachings but as he is human (weak) like all JWs it is understandable to feel that way and act like that.

You may know that he is having difficulties, yes, i know also its difficult for you but i hope he resolves his faith soon. =)

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