we got engaged last year,he had a girlfriend before i came into his life ,he said she ditched me...now we were going around but i got to know about his new girlfriend,i was so broken ,i didnt know wot to do,i couldnt set him free,i gave him a second chance..now my problem is tat i cant trust him anymore,i am not sure tat he will not repeat this again..but he says that he has changed now n will never ever do this again,wot should i do?i am so confused as i love him.
2006-12-25 20:15:47 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This is a problem of attachment and "ownership," not love.
It's a hard one to work out, but one that is important to work out.
Follow your heart/instincts. For any relationship to work, there has to be a lot of forgiveness on all sides, but relationships can be made to work if they are important enough to you.
2006-12-25 20:27:15 · answer #1 · answered by Sincere Questioner 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to report that this man seems to have a commitment issue. He always seems like the kind of man that has to have a female in his life at all times.
I would personally have to tell you that I know that you love him but, you and no one else could be sure that he would not do this to you again.
You have made your feelings, and yourself accessible. He now knows that he could pull this nonsense, and come running back to you.
I would say to you that you are still very young, and believe me there will be other men, and proposals. If you must stay with this man then you need to set some boundaries.
If you let this man continue to march all over you. You will be dammed in a marriage.
2006-12-26 04:20:40 · answer #2 · answered by Meko 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't give it a second chance. If you two were engaged, he was suppose to be comitted to you. The surest indicator of future behavior is past behavior. You're only 20. Do something nice for yourself and forget about serious relationships for a while. Think about something you would love to go and go for it! Men are like buses honey, one comes around the corner every 10 minutes. Don't settle for less than exactly what you want...you are worth it. Godloveya.
2006-12-26 04:19:24 · answer #3 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Guys have a saying, "You can't turn a ho into a housewife"...I think us females need to start incorporating that mantra into our relationships with some of these no good men out there. If he's done it before, he may do it again. And I know our maternal instincts make us want to love them into fidelity, but we CAN'T CHANGE THEM. Let this one go, honey. Sorry you're going through this.
2006-12-26 04:20:22 · answer #4 · answered by mybootyisthatbig79 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once a cheater always a cheater. Dump his butt. If you are ever in seattle...hit me up. At least I'm nice and don't cheat.
2006-12-26 04:18:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋