Am i alone?

Question

has anyone else out there ever been raped or molested by someone they know, loved, and trusted? or am i just alone--it feels like it...

Answer 1

No, you're not alone Lolo. In fact you'd be surprised at how many women and children carry this burden.
See if you can pluck up the courage to talk to someone. A friend, a counsellor, your priest if you're religious, anyone you can share this with. They don't have to say anything wise or have some great 'cure'. All they need to do is to listen while you talk and start to let the horror out.
Good luck Lolo, I wish you healing and peace.
Jon C

Answer 2

Since the dawn of time, women children and babies have mannaged to find the lowest of male scum.

I Was raped by an adult male friend when I was 10. Molested by my best friends father. Shown the 'love fluid that makes babies' by my aged uncle when I was 12 who then wanted to 'teach me ' how to use a condom while out walking one day (he was so angry when I made use of passers by to stop him).

I never spoke to anyone. I later took on an odd persona, which I have since found is not unusual, in that I saught dodgy situations and became promiscuous. I had my male friends. Girlfriends husbands and boyfriends. I'm not proud of it and how I never got an STD I don't know.
I did end up pregnant. I also found myself a stalker in someone who just couldn't realise he'd been used.

It sounds like this is still new for you. you realy do need to talk about this, or you may end up going the way I did. Even if it's in the anonimity of a chat room, you must talk and off load. Face to face support would be best. Ask (via phone if needed) your doctors surgery or NHS direct for numbers in your area.

It's not all bad. I am now monogomous, married for nearly 20 years, two lovely teenage children. You have already and will continue to survive this. I am contactable, although work long (and odd) hours.

Answer 3

No you're not alone at all. I was molested when I was a kid by my step father. 1 out of 4 woman have been molested or raped. I'm not sure on the statistics of men but sexual abuse happens to them as well. Check out this website for more statistics and ways to find help http://www.rainn.org/
It's a scary thing to go through by yourself. Don't be scared to find help. You could even join a support group for people who have been sexually abused.

Answer 4

Truthfully, I have not been. I know a girl-my sisters friend, who was raped at the age of 6. She's been messed up(not to be rude) since. Also, many people who you probably don't know, have been. You're not alone. Molesters build trust, love, so their target will not suspect anything of them.

I'm sorry you feel that way, you're not alone though.

Answer 5

I was raped by my boyfriend when I was 14. He was almost 20. He hit me as well. I never knew such violence could exist and felt utterly betrayed by him and his actions as I'd been going out with him for 6 months and he was definitely my first true love. I'd never felt the same as I did about him before or even afterwards. I still feel that I'm alone in this although I know that others have suffered at the hands of someone they know, loved and trusted.

Answer 6

your not alone, its far more common then people realise. for me it happened 5 years ago when i was 16, he was someone i trusted, i still think about it every day, it still effects my life, me as a person and my relationships, especially trust.
the hardest thing is speaking about it, but it helps if you do, you can call the rape crisis they are very supportive.
most people feel alone but its probably cos people don't talk about it.
it can take a long time to get over or even a life time and you may never be the same person as you were before it happened but if you can try to stay positive and speak to someone about it then it can make things easier and you may eventually learn to live with it, I'm still trying.
keep happy and don't bottle it up, theres people who can help you, do a search on the net for local helpline numbers.

Answer 7

You are definately not alone, I was raped constantly as a child and have been raped on 3 occasions, and had one sexual attack as an adult. I know how you feel, its only because noone ever talks about their experiences, its easy on here because youre annonymous really, but I have felt alone ever since I was a child. If you ever need to talk email me anytime, I will always reply. and remember you are not alone. Love and hugs

Answer 8

I wish I could vote 100 times for this question. It is by far the most sensible question that will be ever read.

The answers are just as thought provoking.

I hope you feel a little lonely after reading these responses.

I feel like posting a question about this question to every other category on Yahoo! Answers just to get people reading it!

Answer 9

No your not alone, there are thousands of people who have been abused as you have.

Have you talked to anyone about this? if not you must,this is not something you have to live with without support.

God bless and be brave, talk to someone,even the police if necessary.Your doctor will help you as well.There are also rape crisis centres. Don't be afraid it's not your fault.

Answer 10

def. not alone, millions are but it's always hidden, behind closed doors.& it does mess you up but you become stronger a s result.

I just wanted to say thank you to >3 daneille ; spot on, abusers build trust so no-one will suspect anything, they also ALWAYS blame & tell their victims it's their fault.
God bless you, don't ever feel you're the only one.
& don't let this ruin your life, if you need to deal with it, do so but I made the mistake of thinking that has happened to me so I'm messed up 4 life, that is not true, & I'm learning to put it behind me & enjoy my life again.