0k i like this guy he is one of my brothers friend i like him because he has respect for me he is so out going and he so much fun to be with i sometimes just wish i could have that universual control like the movie click and just pause the whole freckin world just to kiss him in the lips .. anyways i just wish that i can tell him how i feel and i want to but at the same time i dont .....i dont no if i should tell him how i feel because first of all i d0nt n0 h0w he is g0in t0 feel about me second of all becuase i d0nt n0 h0w my brother is g0in to react if we d0 g0 out .. but the main problem is that h0w d0 i n0 if i sh0uld tell him because i d0nt want t0 get hurt.. what should i do ?
2006-12-25 19:10:44 · 17 answers · asked by bbbb 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No, don't tell him you love him right now. Just start a conversation with him and slowly bring up the subject of maybe you and he going out sometimes. You can get his reaction to that, then either follow up and give up on the idea. I would certainly try to talk to him first. Good luck.
2006-12-25 19:15:55 · answer #1 · answered by Dyan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Somehow, somewhere, you may get the chance to take him to oneside soon enough. Surely, you must get some idea if whether he feels similar towards you? Dont force yourself into doing something you are not ready for. I know you WANT him! But, you may have to wait until the moment feels right and it'll be kind of spontaneous, instead of planned. Though you are in a sense planning "Something", let it happen at a time/place where you just think "this is it".
Your brother? Well yeah, it could be little embarrassing at first, cause it's one of his friends, but he can learn to live with it, if things go further with you and his mate. He'll probalby think "OH GOD" if he finds out lol. But he'll get used to it.
For now, enjoy his friend as you have been and see if you pick up signals from him, check out his body language towards you (not too obviously). LIke does he tend to stand near you? Does he look at you in a certain way when you're chatting (quite intensely), just he joke around you, try to make you laugh? Obviously he likes you, there is no doubt there, but you want to know if he REALLY likes you. He may well think the same...
Just let nature take its course, but just make a few extra efforts as well. Tease him a little bit.
You'll figure it out, little hints, little teases, you don't have to push it too far, or go overboard, just wait for those moments where you feel right to do something.
As for outright telling him? See if he starts to react more strongly towards you. but if it's already been going on for a while and you really feel the need that it's time to tell him, then sure, as I mentioned, you'll find the right moment to say something to him.
I would definitely not tell him you "love him", that'll come across as too much and freaky. But if you feel you want to let him know at some point directly, then you can just simply tell him that you really like him, but that it's awkward for you to admit this, as he's a friend of your brothers and ask what he thinks of that.
Something to that affect. It's nice that he has respect for you and you enjoy him so much. I know it's hard, because when you like someone that much, you are terrified if your enthusiasm for them, may not be returned by them if you admit how you really feel.
If only one could just KNOW. So, just wind up to it, let things build and take it step by step, but continue to relax and have fun with him. He may surprise you by saying somethign to you first!!!
2006-12-26 03:35:50 · answer #2 · answered by Gus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is a curios thing. For each individual it is a different thing and as you get older what love is to you will also change. For now just be friends with him as well, if you start to move closer on a more personal level than you will have all the answers you need.
2006-12-26 03:13:51 · answer #3 · answered by heavy_cow 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
may be you could wait for some time? try to speak with your brother, not directly about the guy, but using some hints... Don't tell the guy you like him first, he should win you, should aim for you, otherwise just leave him alone. There are lots of good guys in this world, some of them like us, others - don't, some are meant to be with us, others - are not.
2006-12-26 03:19:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is what I think.....
Don't tell him how you feel cuz you never even went out with him and that might scare him off. Instead just wait tell he'll ask you out. love is worth waiting for!
I wouldn't worry about ur brother....he might not like it...or maybe he won't care. It depends on ur guys sis-bro relationship. Anyway just think how u would feel if ur bro fell for one of ur girlfriends.
hope this helps :)
2006-12-26 03:21:28 · answer #5 · answered by Alie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do u know if he has a gurlfriend honey if he does and u want to get your man u gotta make a plan to break them up or if you dont want to do that then dont if he doesnt have a gurlfriend then just ask him whats he got to say but dont act nevous if he says yes and your happy im pertty sure that your brother will be happy for you
2006-12-26 03:18:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had/have this same problem...I didn't ask my brothers friend out cause me and my brother are GREAT friends and he and his friend are GREAT friends to so I didn't want to ruin anything between anyone...but then Zach(bros best friend) found out l8er that I liked him cause my bro told him and we went out then...so i don't know really sorry just take a chance.
2006-12-26 03:16:45 · answer #7 · answered by dewthedude7 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be first to express to a guy that you love him. You can instead express...' I have feelings for you '...or ' I care for you ', " I have interest in you ', ' I adore you ', (adore is another word for love, yet safer to express in this case). A man may say ' I'd love for a woman to tell me she loves me first '...yet in the long run...he really wants to express it first. There are other ways to encourage him to feel safe and secure of your feelings that will more comfortably open the environment for him to express to you.
2006-12-26 03:16:05 · answer #8 · answered by onelight 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first talk to your brother about it tell him how you feel. he might give you advice like if he is good for you or not. also he tell you straite forward if hes a guy you should be dateing. being his friend your brother knows how he is and true self. then go from there.
2006-12-26 03:16:20 · answer #9 · answered by warlord_chick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think that u should tell him b coz this can create problem between ur bro and him and u should first try to find what is going on is main then u should do something else
2006-12-26 03:18:21 · answer #10 · answered by Jayant 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋