This guy rejected me but signals he likes me, what do I do?

Question

Workplace romances...not good...

Anyway, there's this gorgeous guy at work. He's 17 (I'm 19), hates his mother and lives away from her, and nice (usually). But he's being tedious lately.

He was so flirting back with me. We'd have play arguments about nothing. I started it. We also talked a bit. He seemed to likes me...

Anyway, I came in on my break day to work and said hi to him, and irritated a manager for disrupting him. Next day I thought "maybe he'll bother to say hi to me". Nuh. Not a word, I wasn't worth it. Then I roundabout asked him out. He was "too busy", but it was his dismissive tone that got to me. I got pissed off at him, & since he's been been downcast.

It's been icy lately, he's been upset and gets happy when I'm about laughing. I SWEAR he hangs around me but says NOTHING!!

I'm a bit fed up with this stalemate. Despite the screwness, I like Guy 1. I could talk to a girl friends with him to say something to him or something? I dunno. Should I,or just move on?

There's a bit more now..This other guy's been following me around all day, teasing, chatting, then all of a sudden he coaxes me to dance to the store music! The BOSS sees, says to keep your personal life on your own time, then teases me..

Guy 1 and 2 show off their juggling skills with stock, 2 disappears, I run into him, 1 reappears, 2 pulls 1 aside for some reason...

Later, I swear Guy 1 was going to talk to me- I was walking out the staffroom, he followed me, I stopped to hold the door for him, then he stopped.

Guy 2 comes out tonight for work drinks and talks/teases me. When I don't talk to him much and its clear nothing will happen, he gets an excuse to leave.

I'm thinking atm to not do anything- 1 isn't saying anything.

I saw Guy 1 today..for the first time, I got all shy, and he did the same!

I just want something to happen, deep down I really like Guy 1 but I don't want to wind up with nothing because Guy 2 is great, is allowing this to go on wrong? (outside of work)

Answer 1

the screwness IS part of his package.
what you could do , is to hold off your longing , for the sake of being selective, ( self protection ).
what i found is that if i engage the person i am interested in. in a lot of my thinking, questionings (by being honest with my self), the reality of the other person soon comes to the surface. and the trade off is that i get to see her for what she is. by being honest only with my self. hold your horses and be patient. if its a rolercoaster now ..... check him out first. and than decide. yes no yes no yes no yes no ....................
scan him first less stress might be better in yor relationships, too much is usually too much. i hate to see a girl hurt,
ps dont u trust yor feelings? ( use signs ) and have fun
there is this girl @ work , that sends me the vibes that she likes me , but she is very domineering, and that scares me , even though she is very attractive i will not go into a relationship with her because she hides her truths. plus she is a taurus and i am libra so it feels like too much fighting between us. so i will pass thankyou.
sometimes no is better than yes. in a long run. bla bla blabla......enough of me.
@ the end of the day it is always yor decision. bite yor time.
are u trying to save him? from him?

dont forget your self in this cruel business of saving.
i feel you say that he is a good guy, and so he is , and that you feel sorry for him and maybe angry @ his mother, but even i had to embrace the unspoken lessons of life that my mother tried to give me.
my mother was always abscent in my life, though we lived under the same roof, and i wanted my mother to be with me.
lesson for me :? i gues: try not to be sooooooooo attached to women.
she ( my mother ) did not tell me that , i had to think about it. actually it just came to me now, and it makes a lot of sence to me.
anyway this is getting a bit long winded so, try not to get your fingers burned to often, and be more confident about yor self, thats what i mean about "your feelings" ( where YOU STAND ON THIS ISSUE ?)
anyway , last thing you need is for some guy chucking a tantrum @ work because you two are having an argument in your private life.

Answer 2

There is an old saying. Never **** where you eat. I see where this is going and it will not be a happy ending. When someone is really good looking, we tend to let things slide. Being hot is great in attracting people, but to have a fulfilling relationship it's not enough. Secondly, him being 17 does not help, and not because he is younger than you. Yeah, I've heard it before, "Age ain't nothing but a number." Being 17 is no joke. The kid needs time to mature. Also, women tend to mature much faster then men. I can promise you that once you get past the initial hotness, he will be irritating. Also, strained family relationships is not a good sign of things to come. You are asking for a heap of trouble. If you try to get with him and do, you will be on here a few months later trying to rectify your damaged relationship.

My advise to you is to move on. Let him mature. (Moving out of the house at 17 doesn't necessarily mean you are mature.) You are having problems trying to establish a friendship let alone a relationship. You should not make time for drama in your life. Your time is too precious. Don't overlook his foibles and flaws because he is good looking. I promise you will be happier if you moved on. I wish you good luck in finding your man.

Answer 3

Yeah those are signals, but than again hes probably just looking for a good friend. Or he isnt sure maybe if you just giving him time and keep being the same you were before this happen will make him change his mind :)

Answer 4

Hi Sis,

Maybe you should wear sexy, skimpy dresses to get his attention. When you are at it, give him a note to follow you to a discreet place maybe the toilet. Once there, give him a hug and kiss him on the lips. That might get him hots for you. Or maybe you should guide his hands to your breast then sigh or moan like a woman in heat does.and see whther he respond to your advances.

Answer 5

hmm. well first do not do what i'm about to say and get mad at me if it dos not work i'm just trying to help ok.

i think you should ask him if he likes you

if yes then ask him again if he would like to go out i.

if he dos not like you then try to get over him.

if he sead yes to both questions then good your in

if yes to question one and no to question 2 then he might be shy or not ready to date. if this happens then give him time he will talk to you when he is ready

Answer 6

Sounds like it means he doesn't want to take you to a movie, but if you want to go over to his house and watch one while he tries to get down your britches, then he'll do that if he has nothing better lined up.

Sorry, but it sounds like that's it.

Answer 7

well if you like him well but my advice is move on you must have mis understood the signs

Answer 8

u sound like he is a retard?i dont like retards myself they **** me off cos they are so slow(learning disability)

Answer 9

He's a player...forget it, don waste your time

Answer 10

forget about the rejection.
maybe he was just scared.
OR.
you can tell him he's an idiot for rejecting you
and forget about him.
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