My boyfriend and I have been dating for over 2 years. It has been implied (through small comments we have both made, and by comments and observations made by our families)that we will get married, however we have yet to formally talk about marriage. We just have not had that conversation, I am in my mid-20s, he in his late 20s. I recently finished up a extensive graduate program and he has been working on advancing his career, so the timing of actually getting married/engaged is a few years away. However, I want to intiate the conversation, b/c i just feel it is the right time in our relationship to at least start thinking ahead to that point in time and coming to terms with what we want for our lives. So, how do I go about bring it up? Until now I've been quiet b/c i don't want him to feel like i'm rushing the issue, b/c I definetly not ( i want to send the next year establishing my career) Any ideas?
2006-12-25 18:24:35 · 4 answers · asked by Answer Girl 2007 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if you want to concentrate on your career too, then why bother with marriage talk. if things are fine as they are now, why bring it up. you two are basicly living together, so what would marriage accomplish, dont let others pressure you.
marriage certificate is a piece of paper, when hte love is already there, that paper dont mean much.
maybe your bf, wants to be more secure financially, cause wedding take money to have. and maybe he wants financially security first before asking for marriage.
2006-12-25 18:33:22 · answer #1 · answered by sharma 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you are financially set, then marriage does seem like the right time. You both are young, in love, and seem to know what each other wants. But, now that you just finished your graduate program, maybe engagement is best for a year or 2. Getting married at the right time is one thing, and rushing into things and regretting is another.
2006-12-25 18:30:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Focus on your career if that is what you really want right now. You never get this time again. Although I am happily married, I wish I had done more with my career. When you're married it's hard to focus on alot of other things outside of your family. It you guys have goals set before you....take care of them then tie the knot. It doesn't hurt to know what he feels about marriage but don't let other persuade you into thinking you are suppose to all of a sudden get married.
2006-12-25 18:33:25 · answer #3 · answered by goodgrleason 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DONT GET MARRIED until you have a real career and your financial backings to get ever get out.
Marriage sucks...period.
And divorce is expensive and evil!
2006-12-25 18:27:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋