I recently started dating this one guy who is out of this world!!! He's the sweetest guy ever!
A year ago I was in an awful relationship and ended up getting really hurt. When I'm with my new man I keep expecting him to do or say things similar to what my last guy did. Keep expecting him to end it. But he never does! Instead he does things that my last guy would never do. How do I keep from comparing him to my last guy? I'm stressing out!!!!
2006-12-25 18:18:38 · 16 answers · asked by Nicolatte 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First you have to get over and past the old guy. He is still on your mind or you would be moving on. Once you touch fire you know it's hot and are a little weary from then on, but to avoid it all together isn't fair. They are different people, would you want him to compare you to his ex?
2006-12-25 18:21:14 · answer #1 · answered by dana j 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be patient with yourself. It is very hard to come out of something bad and go into something good. Don't judge the new guy because of the old guy. Just enjoy yourself and keep telling yourself "hey I got a good thing going here" Good Luck
2006-12-25 18:28:16 · answer #2 · answered by justcurious 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Things he might do could be similar, but turn your attention awaay from the past and let him swoon you...it sounds as though he already does...I'm in the same boat...my new bf is the bestbud of my ex...he waited a year and a half for me and he's amazing!just let go of what's gone~ best wishes
2006-12-25 18:21:53 · answer #3 · answered by haleybopster 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is natural. Alot of people carry excess baggage. If you want to keep this great guy and not force him to leave you...you have to find a way inside yourself to put aside all that old stuff and realize that you are worthy of being loved.
2006-12-25 18:26:20 · answer #4 · answered by goodgrleason 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mentally slap yourself the next time you start thinking like that. The longer you've been together, the more you'll forget about that other guy. I've been through the exact same thing.
2006-12-25 18:20:29 · answer #5 · answered by T.M.Y. 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Accept your sweetest guy as he is.Stop comparing.keep telling yourself that this boy is better than the previous, and enjoy his company.
2006-12-25 18:26:13 · answer #6 · answered by ANU U 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
think about what you have. a guy that makes you happier than you ex guy did. except him for what he is and forget about comparing him with your ex. you can't compare apples and oranges as the old saying goes.
2006-12-25 18:25:24 · answer #7 · answered by Richard S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have trust issuesa, just let the new guy in and stop thinking he will do the worst, you have to learn to open up again, it is really hard but try giving him some credit
2006-12-25 18:20:25 · answer #8 · answered by Cassie M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
fORGET THE OLD STUFF AND OLD GY. REMEMBERING THE OLD STUFF MEANS U R HANGING ON TO THE PAST. IF U LIKE THE NEW GY THEN IT IS OBVIOUS NEW THINGS WILL B SAID AND DONE, EVERYDAY, EVERTIME. IT IS A NEW EXPERIENCE AFTER ALL. LET IT HAPPEN AND ENJOY !
2006-12-25 18:34:59 · answer #9 · answered by viren k 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move on...quit thinking of the past. If you just cant...get pro help. You may need it.
2006-12-25 18:25:13 · answer #10 · answered by rose 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋