How do you know if your relationship is really real? I have been hurt in the past to the point where I am cold inside. Its like I dont give a dame. But I dont want to hurt my man. He is a good man with a good job(mechanic). He tries to give me everything and wants to have a family with me. I am greatful for all he is trying to do for me, but i just feel like its me. He wants me to love him but I can't even utter the words without sounding fake or looking weird, but I feel like I do/ or may love him. he's a pretty boy so i am afraid that one day I may not be around or we get into an arguement and he may do something to hurt me which I want to avoid. He tells me he love me but I just don't believ him. It sound so fake to me.
2006-12-25 18:04:32 · 7 answers · asked by Ally R 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Do not rush into telling him you love him when you do not genuinely feel it. You will know when or if you are ever in love with him. He may just not be the right person for you.
I suggest taking it slow. Explain to him that because of your past experiences, you need to take it day to day. If he really does love you, he will understand and be patient with you. If he is just playing you, he won't stick around. You won't have gotten as emotionally invested at that point and it will be easier to move on. Don't discount him though just because he is a "pretty boy". You may be the girl he falls for. I would be cautious at first until you have genuine feelings. Do NOT tell him you love him until you really do. Trust me, you will know if you do.
2006-12-25 18:08:46 · answer #1 · answered by Go Coogs! 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I REALLY don't know.
I REALLY do hate when people make up fake things to me and for me. They are REALLY telling me that they have no RESPECT for me and REALLY do not appreciate the things i give them. It's like they block me out because I am REALLY not good comfort for them. Even tho I do try my best to help them RIGHT but yet they still disrespect me even tho I REALLY do not deserve that punishment.
Love Amie A
2006-12-25 18:44:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, how long did it take him to say I love you. And maybe you should just have some alone time right now, maybe some counceling, not jump into the dating pool so quickly. Or if you really love him, stay with him and go to counciling.
2006-12-25 18:14:14 · answer #3 · answered by shoe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like you have major insecurity issues. Love should not feel "fake" and if it feels like you are faking it, then you probably are. Please get yourself some counseling -- it sounds like you had some incredibly hurtful things in your past which you are not able to get over on your own.
2006-12-25 18:07:35 · answer #4 · answered by wnk 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm glad you care. I think that is a good start. i don't know if i can give you any advise, but make sure you have what you want before you start a family. don't have a kid because you think it might help you love him. it won't. good luck. i wish you the best.
2006-12-25 18:13:18 · answer #5 · answered by sicmonkey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
and Yet you call Us Guys Jerks.
2006-12-25 18:06:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
its real
2006-12-25 18:07:17 · answer #7 · answered by Fuck you Yahoo Answer Staff 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋