I was in a relationship with a guy for about 3 years before I found out he was bisexual. It made me really paranoid about who I was dating. I've been dating a new guy for about 6 months and he asked me about going through the back door. I don't know if I'm paranoid and just looking for something....or does that mean that he may swing the other way as well. What do you think?
2006-12-25 18:02:14 · 13 answers · asked by angie20k 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
A lot of males (and females) like it in the "back door". It's not an uncommon request, and no it does not mean that he is gay, bi-sexual, or anything else. It might just mean that he enjoys that sort of activity, and is looking for something other than good old, traditional vanilla sex. If you are open for it, go for it with him, if not, express it to him. Either way, don't assume that he's gay, bi-sexual, or anything else, simply from a request like that.
2006-12-25 18:07:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him your fears due to your last experience. Be as honest as you can be with him. If this scares him off, he was not the right guy for you to begin with.
That being said, just because a guy might find that pleasurable does NOT indicate he is bi or gay. Males receive arousal and pleasure from having their prostate stimulated; something women can never experience. Gay, bi or straight, it still feels good to them. This could very well be why he is asking for it. Do not assume, ask.
2006-12-25 18:05:43 · answer #2 · answered by Go Coogs! 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No i think a lot of men would be happy to give anal sex a go. Many strait men seek it from a woman in a relationship. I think there is no basis in determing if he is bisexual or gay because he wants to do this. You can ask him however!
2006-12-25 18:06:30 · answer #3 · answered by Tropicalboy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys these days just like exploring. It doesn't mean he's gay. However, you do have a right to be concerned. There are to many diseases going around and who wants to be with a man that's not all man.
2006-12-25 18:07:10 · answer #4 · answered by Who is it? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not if he wants to do it to a woman. Lots of straight guys like to have anal sex with women. I think it maybe a different sensation. Maybe it's tighter or something. This has nothing to do with being gay. If he had gay or bi tendencies he would express interest in other men. Alot of gay men like receiving oral sex. If your boyfriend likes you giving him oral sex does that make you wonder if he's gay or bi? Of course not.
2006-12-25 18:39:12 · answer #5 · answered by DawnDavenport 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it doesn't mean he's gay. You would be surprised at the amount of men obsessed with the back door
2006-12-25 18:09:52 · answer #6 · answered by punkvixen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That does Not mean hes Gay.
2006-12-25 18:05:22 · answer #7 · answered by RR 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He just wants to experiment, has nothing to do with being gay. Even if he wants you to penetrate him it still doesn't mean he's gay. What's wrong with trying new things?
2006-12-25 18:14:11 · answer #8 · answered by ncaachamp 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Some guys just like it--it feels different. Some guys just want to know if you'll let them.
If he wants you to penetrate him, he might have homosexual tendencies, but otherwise, probably not.
2006-12-25 18:07:23 · answer #9 · answered by Iris 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No - it just means he likes the "back door".
2006-12-25 18:05:29 · answer #10 · answered by karespromise 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋