I have been spending time with a guy from work and there is a major attraction between us. At first he said we couldnt be anything more than friends because of the eleven year age difference (I am 25 and he is 36), but then changed his mind and said we should give it a try. We went on a few dates and things went really well, but now he is saying we are at different points in our lives and its not fair on either of us. Despite saying this, he still wants to hang out with me and makes comments about how he likes me or how he doesnt trust himself alone with me. I really like him and the chemistry is amazing...Should I pursue this or am I just going to end up getting hurt? Is this such a huge age difference?
2006-12-25 17:49:04 · 12 answers · asked by Katie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Idealisically, I would like to say love have no age difference. But realistically we know, huge age different meant different in thinking, hobbies, interests, physcial and many other things. And the major problem is physical. We all know man peak period is at 25. At 36 is going down hill for 10 years, but your peak period is at 35 years old. By then, he is already 46 years old. Of course, if you think you two can over come these problems, then you may want to try it out.
2006-12-25 18:12:17 · answer #1 · answered by Tan D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Katie: chemistry is one thing and feeling the Sonic Boom in your ear is touchy. It could be just raw sex he is interested in. He may be a sugar daddy and enjoys your company. Regardless, I will play it safe. Keep the kisses dry and his hand out of your panties and see if the relationship continues. Your age difference is not a problem. A generation difference is a problem. Just control your hormones and keep the swelling of your ovaries at normal size by use ice cubes, and you will be find + stay in full control of the situation and you will not get hurt.
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2006-12-25 17:59:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-18 23:59:22 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband is 20 years older than me---I love him so much that it's hard to describe. We are perfect for each other. We were also at different points in our lives but those points kind of converged.
I wouldn't let myself get too involved unless he starts coming your direction again--I mean if he stops saying stuff like you are at different points. That he can't trust himself around you doesn't really mean anything.
No, that isn't a big age difference at all.
2006-12-25 17:56:21 · answer #4 · answered by MamaCat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if two people really like each other then age makes no difference at all. but if one doesn't have the feeling the other has it would be like any other relationship and someone is going to wind up getting a broken heart.
2006-12-25 17:59:04 · answer #5 · answered by Richard S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age is not a problem if both of you put in the effort to have a memorable relationship. Both of you need confidence in order for this relationship to work out well. If one party is not going to put in the effort, then I don't see why the other party need to maintain the relationship
2006-12-25 21:43:58 · answer #6 · answered by Forgettable 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I love my boyfriend who is 14 years older than me. I'm 23, he's 37. We don't care about age. Besides, we are of different nationalities.
As long as you know that you love each other... fight! Serious, long-term relationships never work easily.
Good Luck!
2006-12-25 18:03:06 · answer #7 · answered by Ami 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the age difference is no big deal. What would be a big deal to me is his believing the age is a problem. You could get all attatched and then he withdraws because of the age difference...
2006-12-25 17:52:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it can be a problem. My parents have a 10 yr age gap and they're doing pretty good
2006-12-25 18:01:18 · answer #9 · answered by niq_mau 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not think so. You just have to watch for the mid life crisis as he will go through it first.
2006-12-25 17:52:01 · answer #10 · answered by foodguy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋