How will you handle a spoiled brat son?

Question

My son was being spoiled by my mother. I'm a single mom, my son is only 5yrs old and yet I'm having a hard time to dicipline him.

Answer 1

hi Suzie i have 3 children all boys they are close in age and i dont anyone crossing the line.....you should talk to your mother about this but dont blame her for everything its OK to spoil him on material gifts sometimes but spoiling him when he does something wrong is not a good way of showing love you should take away priveleges,spank him if you must but if he has mental disabilities then dont there is no way to stop it BUT if he is a normal kid you should be a good mother and smack him in his hands

Answer 2

The best way to go is to be firm. Whether you believe in a swat on the bottom, or time outs, do not be lazy. When he makes a mess, he has to clean it. If he yells at you, he has to be told that is not right, and punished. The most crucial thing is never say, oh, its okay if hes naughty here or there. Cause then hes naughty everywhere. You need to stick to a pattern. Naughty behavior=punishment. Good behavior=rewards. And stay true to it all through the day. Your son will get away from thespoiled behavior with your help. There are also many books on disciplining your child. Find the one you feel good about, and use the techniques. If they do not work, try new techniques, but ignoring and allowing it, is going to make him spoiled well into his teens. God be with you as you bring him to be the son you know he can be.,

Answer 3

It will take time, just stand your ground DO NOT GIVE IN.
Also, don't let anyone undo your parenting attempts.
I am also a single mom with 3 kids and visite with grandparents and dads who spoil them and often encourage the kids no go against what I say, It's triple the work at times having to not only play both roles but also having to battle other people trying to make your job harder.
Be consistent. taking away toys and priveleges works well, but make sure he knows you're serious, you give in once, it'll be hard to get back on track.
There is great material out there to help handle specfic problems.
Good luck!

Answer 4

Well I'd agree with others - a good smacked bottom and then a sit down serious talk about what behaviour is and what is not acceptable and the latter goes for your Mother too!
When I was a girl my Mother told me what to do and I obeyed her or else! When I had my own children I was responsible for their discipline - she was welcome to assist in that but it was on my terms because they were *my* children and *my* responsibility and she came to realise that when I pointed out how she had raised my brothers and me (very well I might add).
Best wishes,
Joan.

Answer 5

The key is to always be consistent with whatever you do always make sure you are eye level with him when you discipline him so he can see you and that you are serious no matter where you are if he acts up set him in time out for five min and let him know why hes in trouble walk away. if he gets up put him back without saying anything . a few times this should work also let your mom know you are working on raising a productive member of society and she has got to stop giving him his way.

Answer 6

Sit down with mom and have a few words about what is going on and what you expect. Yes, grandma is going to love him but making him spoiled and unruly is not going to work. Your rules need to be your rules.

Answer 7

You have to be firm, very firm. He will figure out that he may get spoiled at grandmas but not at home. I know its hard, but spare the rod and spoil the child is a good rule...

Answer 8

the first thing stop your mum spoiling him it will not be helping. Then be consistent in punishing bad behaviour. Don't do it occasionally you have to do it always. It will only get harder as he gets older so get on to it NOW. If your mum won't stop spoiling him explain that you will have to severely limit her contact with him till she can stop

Answer 9

I would spank my kid. Spanking works wonders for brats. Spanking will not work if the kid is mental ie. ADD or something else. But, if the kid is normal and just a brat, spanking in a controlled and measured manner for his benefit is ok. Libs hate this, but a good reason our nation is going down hill.

Answer 10

Bust his A S S! Then have a talk with him, then have a talk with your mom. Get a hold on that right now or you will have H E L L with him for the rest of your life! He has to understand you are the main authority in his life. So he will always show you respect as he grows up. Your gonna have to let your mom know that too, that may not be pretty!