I really dislike playing games. If I like a guy, I have no problem saying it and I don't like waiting around "for the chase" and whatever else goes along in the whole game playing scenario. But what I'm finding is that all the guys I don't like seem to like me more and more (maybe because I'm so distant) while the guys (okay, this one guy) I do like seems to like me less and less (maybe because I'm so direct). Guys, why is this? I thought I was doing everybody a favor by not wasting time. I'm not easy (I'm actually waiting to "be in love" to do the do) so it's not like he had his way and then disappeared. But anyway, for future reference, if I do end up chasing a guy away, is there anyway to make him interested again?
2006-12-25 17:27:18 · 12 answers · asked by ♪ ♥ ♪ ♥ 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think you've stumbled across one of life's little undeniable truths that everyone seems to have to learn the hard way, and that is this...
"as a general rule, people always want more of what they know they can't have, and when they have it, they tend to neglect it."
a sad one, I know... but it's true... but like every rule, there are exceptions...
most guys and girls absolutely live for the chase, but then there's people like you and I who hate playing games... who realize life is too short to play games...
bottom line... when you end up in the relationship that you forsee lasting for the rest of your life, you should not have had to play games to get there... my advice is just be yourself and don't change how you act what-so-ever... eventually you'll find a guy who realizes how lucky he is to have someone like you in their life...
2006-12-25 17:43:00 · answer #1 · answered by luke 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My friend - you've got it down pat... the game playing is just that... and it causes far more problems than fun... and I do admit that it can be fun... the chase the conquest...
But really, any mature guy is going to really appreciate you being upfront - hey dude, I like you goes over great with those of us who've been around and actually want a relationship.
The guys who get into the game playing are either immature, or just don't get what it takes to really have an intimate relationship with a woman.
You sound like you've got it together - don't blow it because some of the guys you're attracted to are idiots.
Heck - I'd love to meet a woman like you, with your openness and honesty.
That's the kind of woman I'd marry.
-dh
2006-12-26 01:32:32 · answer #2 · answered by delicateharmony 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Play PS3, Wii or Xbox 360 rather than playing with ur relationship. Its much easier and very fun to play. Play Sims2 and some games like that cuz its like a real life. U can learn from it. Good luck and a Happy New Year!=)
2006-12-26 02:28:43 · answer #3 · answered by BOND, JAMES BOND 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing more than guys hate... than women playing games.
Men want to know where they stand and it has to be explained very clearly to them as they are not very subtle. It has to be black and white.
Playing games to get what you want is OK... as long as you don't contradict yourself and confuse them. By that I mean... don't pretend to be someone you are not.
A lot of men are little insecure boys and cannot deal with a woman who knows what she want and goes after it. They need to be in control. So perhaps... you need to back down a little and let him believe that he is in charge. You will need to do that through your marriage as well... otherwise it will fail.
Men loves the chase... the more you ignore them... the more they will run after you. Women are the same... which is why most women on this website are trying to get the attention of a man who ignore them.
For every man who ignore them... they are probably two men who would give their life to be their boyfriend... but they don't want to know about those.
2006-12-26 01:44:26 · answer #4 · answered by Aussies-Online 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your direct-ness is overbearing and he'd prefer to have the upper hand in getting together with someone. Maybe they have been in situations in the past where a girl fell for them real hard, and it bothered them to let them down and hurt them, and just don't want that same scenario to repeat itself.
2006-12-26 01:30:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you're in a relationship with a REAL man, you do not need to play (head) games. Only children play games.
2006-12-26 01:30:25 · answer #6 · answered by Feeling new @ 42 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you have chased a guy away, there is NO way to make him interested again.
now, stop looking.
join a club that interests you, from square dancing to scrabble.
couples that play together stay together.
2006-12-26 01:30:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
absolutely not, i'm just like you. i don't like playing games, i especially didn't like when i failed at one of the "games" my girlfriend played (not sexual) she had to report to all her friends about my inadequacies. it is really irritating. I don't like the whole waiting for the whole game - chasing - scenario. that's just my way about it. ya feel me. 1
2006-12-26 01:37:54 · answer #8 · answered by Mic Beezy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it's not good to play games
2006-12-26 01:46:29 · answer #9 · answered by purplepennyduck 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm marking this to see what people say, because i have the same ridiculous problem. god do i hate men.
2006-12-26 01:46:22 · answer #10 · answered by Amelia 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋