i use to go with this boy who i grew up with in a way. but hes a cheater and the reason why we brake s up is because he cheats but this time he seem so real and ready to be a man and be faithful with me but im scared that he go do it again and i really truly do love him, talk to him everyday just everything. so he asked me to be back with me what should i tell him?
2006-12-25 17:25:52 · 11 answers · asked by Nell 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I believe that once a cheater always a cheater speacially if you have let him get away with it more than twice. I also believe in second chances but I'd move on after the third time. Its hard to leave someone you love but it's harder to keep him and allow him to humiliate you, respect yourself and think "fool me once shame on you fool me twice shame on me"!
2006-12-25 17:36:09 · answer #1 · answered by lana 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go with what your heart says. I am in the same boat and people here and everywhere are going to talk down and say dont forgive him but in the end, its YOU that needs to make the decision. Its not that people are trying to be mean, they just want to help but in most cases, a cheater will cheat again and I know that but my ex never gave up on the battle of fighting for me back in a years time after I rejected him so many times and he has proven that he is sorry to me and thats where I made my decision. As for the people who tell you different, they just care. What would you tell one of your friends in this situation?
2006-12-26 01:32:42 · answer #2 · answered by blah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well my friend, if you are asking, then that gut reaction that God gives us to determine right from wrong is telling you this isn't a good situation. Why not give yourselves some time for each of you to discover who you are as individuals and what you want in this world; sounds like you haven't had much of a chance to meet other people, experience what makes you happy and then you will be strengthened to find your way. This fella sounds young and immature which isn't a sin, but just not settling down material. If in fact you are both quite young, why not give each other a little breathing room and maintain your friendship, then reassess just what you both want. This will save you both a lot of heartache and help you see a whole lot clearer. I send you sincere warm wishes for all kinds of goodness to come from this for you.
2006-12-26 01:36:00 · answer #3 · answered by OPTIMIST 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With what you were saying this guy has a history of cheating and now all of a sudden he has seen the light and will never cheat again????........not to likely! If you take him back(huge mistake), it's just a matter of time until it will happen again. Cut loose from this guy, life is to short and there are a lot of good guys out there.
2006-12-26 01:33:16 · answer #4 · answered by wheelerdr44 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you crazy!!!!! If you know hes a cheater then why take him back. Of course he will do it again, he knows he can do it now and you will still take him back after. Don't be silly, get rid of this dog and find a man who will be true to you.
2006-12-26 01:30:29 · answer #5 · answered by AussieHel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not yet go. Wait - and ask him to wait a bit. If he is true about being faithful, and he is interested in you sincerely, he'll wait with you. You can be friends for awhile...you don't have to be hot'n'heavy to prove anything. Take it slow. And keep your distance while you test the waters.
2006-12-26 01:30:50 · answer #6 · answered by twicewise 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take some time to think seriously about this.He should feel that what he is doing has an impact on you and that u may never be with him again because of his behaviour
2006-12-26 01:30:30 · answer #7 · answered by Samara 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh my gosh..let me start from the beggining..*ahem* these questions like this are asked every single day--no wait! let me rephrase that: every single MINUTE. so i suggest you be quiet and it's not peoples jobs to help girls with their boy problems ok? all you can do is just BE YOURSELF AND DEAL WITH IT!! does not matter what other people think! dont believe them! pay no attention! they can't control your life! just be you! now stop asking about boys and how to talk to them ok? clear? good.
i'm out. peace. happy new year.
2006-12-26 01:30:49 · answer #8 · answered by ♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a little confused by it all.....But I say ,follow your heart
2006-12-26 01:28:24 · answer #9 · answered by Mary Mary Jane 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dont answer that soon, let him prove that loyalty first with your own heart
2006-12-26 01:29:02 · answer #10 · answered by AutumnMemoirs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋