The guy I am with I have been with him for about a year( on and off). He makes me happy but then he gets me upset. Sometimes I feel like I can't say anything to him like in his head its his way or no way. I feel like I have to act like a different person around him.
He wants to start a family with me but I want to be able to communicate with him about anything before that. He makes me very happy but sometimes I wonder if he is the right person for me or not. We are two complete opposite person. He is more of a style like person and I am the complete opposite and i feel sad that I have to constantly keep up with his style because he is "well known" around his way- so that put pressure on me. He is out going and I am shy- I like to keep to myself. I dont like being in crowds and i know that is a factor that he dont like about me.
2006-12-25 17:22:26 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I failed to mention the reason why it has been on and off was my fault. I wasn't sure if i wanted to be with him or not, but he was waiting for me calling me everyday.
2006-12-25 17:34:19 · update #1
If you are wondering if he is the right person for you maybe he isn't. They say opposites attract, but you should never have to not be yourself around anyone! Not too many people like being in crowds anymore, I know I don't. He sounds like you need to change for him, but he wants to stay like he is. Relationships are give and take and sounds like you are doing all the giving and he is doing all the taking. There should be compromise in a relationship and it doesn't spound like there is too awfully much compromising going on on his part. Can't advise you on whether to leave him or not but I know I would dump him in a heartbeat, if he couldn't accept me for the person I was.
2006-12-25 17:31:48 · answer #1 · answered by myninny54 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No.
This doesn't sound like a very good relationship to me. Let me point out a few things to help you understand why.
"with him for about a year (on and off)"
Any relationship that has been on and off and on and off and on and off lacks one thing -- commitment. If you can't get along and stay together now, what is going to make you stay together when the bills can't get paid and the babies are crying and he gets laid off his job and the car gets totaled? There are so many uncertainties in life... a relationship shouldn't be one of them.
"in his head its his way or no way."
This is not a healthy attitude for him to have, and in the future it could become a very destructive one.
"two complete opposite"
Opposites may attract, but it is what you have in common that will keep you together -- especially when it comes to morals, values, goals, aspirations, and pasttimes
"that put pressure on me"
Someone that puts pressure on you (whether purposefully or not) about style and fashion and being in large crowds when that is not who you are obviously doesn't respect and accept you for who you are. It sounds like he wants you to be just like him. Is that something you're willing to do?
2006-12-26 01:29:50 · answer #2 · answered by wnk 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should not be with someone with whom you feel you have to act like a different person around. When you find the one for you, he will love you for who you are and he will make you happy all the time not just some of the time.
2006-12-26 01:27:25 · answer #3 · answered by AussieHel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think tying the knot is not something you should do if ur having this kind of thoughts. Having a family means ur gonna see this guy, every day thereafter, or until you divorce, or whatever. A family is something you shouldnt even be considering. and dont hide your true emotions, if he likes you, your good to go, if not, break it up, cry for a week or two, delete him from your cell directory, and then, man-up, life goes on, with or without, at least thats what she said.....
2006-12-26 01:31:43 · answer #4 · answered by myFEARisALIEN! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
opposites do attract, but i have been in your situation before, life can be a lot easier and there is someone else out there who will make you happy and don't have to pretend to be someone your not, it's a hard decision but if i were you i would stop the relationship while you can and find someone else to love that will make you a lot happier
2006-12-26 01:25:36 · answer #5 · answered by Cassie M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All I hear warning signs...please let him loose, he's good for nothing. Next year it'll be better.
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2006-12-26 01:26:40 · answer #6 · answered by Sabine 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you don't feel right around him then that should be your answer right there...if you don't feel comfotable around a man you shouldn't be with him specially after a year...
2006-12-26 01:30:14 · answer #7 · answered by Gordita de Oro 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u are off and on with him w/o marrige how are u gonna handle that with kids and everything else?
2006-12-26 01:26:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
that man is a gigolo
2006-12-26 01:24:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
jus sit down and talk to him.MERRY CHRISTMAS! =)
2006-12-26 01:25:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋