Okay my dad is adding on to are house and there is this guy helping him.
at first I didint think he was cute, but know I have a magor crush or whatever.
but the prob is he is seven years older then me!!!! but he's really cute!
I cant tell any one!
And it feels wrong!
PLease give me advice!!
2006-12-25 17:12:44 · 14 answers · asked by brooke h 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm so confused!
2006-12-25 17:13:27 · update #1
I keep trying to tell my self I can't like him!
But it never works!
I just can't help it!!!!!!
2006-12-25 17:19:40 · update #2
How old is it to get marryed legaly?
2006-12-25 17:24:55 · update #3
That last bit sounded stupid, I was just think about when my parents got married. (actully i'm looking at a scrap book)
2006-12-25 17:26:06 · update #4
You sound very young but the problem is that you can't help what you feel. I'm 50 and I still remember pining away, listening to "Love can make you happy" and crying my eyes out. It didn't matter that I was too young, it still hurt like hell. So I'm not even going to try to tell you to stop liking him, because you won't.
Instead, you should talk to your Mom. I know you think you can't but she's probably not too old to remember her first crush and may have something you can get involved in that will get you away from the house when the guy is there. If you talk to her in a mature way, she should understand. (Be sure to let her know that the guy hasn't said or done anything that will get him in trouble. That you just have these feelings that you don't know how to handle. - You don't want to get this guy fired or locked up. He can't help what you feel. Is he married? He may have a family of his own so don't act on what you feel. No good can come of it!)
See if you can hang out at a friend's house or help your Mom. If she has to go return stuff at the store, go with her. Just get out of there until you can control yourself.
The hard way is to ask your Mom to help you have a talk with the guy. I know this sounds crazy, but he will most likely tell you that (no offense) you are too young for him or he has a girlfriend, wife & family, whatever, but that he is flattered that you feel this way.
There is nothing wrong with the feelings you have as long as you can learn to direct them toward someone who is closer to your age who enjoys the same kinds of things you do. Once you can redirect these feelings to a more reasonable boy, you will be able to go out and have fun with him.
One last thing, this is just one of those lessons we have to learn to become adults. You will like many guys... believe me! And you now have to start learning to make good choices. I know I sound like an old fuddy dud giving advice you don't want to hear, but I am talking from experience. You probably are not ready for the consequences of starting something with this guy. I know. Things can get bad really fast and when you are young, you are not ready for the big problems that can come. Start with the smaller problems first and learn to deal with those before you start messing with guys who can go to jail for liking you.
I know it's hard to hear this, but please make the right choice for yourself and your delicate heart. It's just learning, so let it take baby steps before trying to run. The rewards will be worth it.
You are strong and smart and you can handle this. I have faith in you,
Diane
2006-12-25 17:43:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, I feel like i like this guy thats 7 years older then me to he is totally hot and i know it is hard to deal with.......I really dont know what you should do all except for flirt and talk see what you can do see if u think he would ever think u were attractive and could be someone he loved ? You never know my best friends parents were 13 years apart So dont get down to quick it could work out
2006-12-26 01:25:45 · answer #2 · answered by happy_go_lucky 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Iam guessing you are VERY young. Dont date someone because of a crush, but rather on their values and compatibiblity. You wont like or understand that untill you get older, but i would leave that alone. He will either try to use you, or leave you when he has got what he wants from you if he is that kind of guy.
2006-12-26 01:18:10 · answer #3 · answered by SonicCube123 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's an eternal and spontaneous bonding between two living beings
2006-12-26 02:34:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its ok if u hav a crush on him but its just a crush, once your house is done he will be gone and out of your life. it just an Innocent crush that will go away. it feels wrong caz he is just a little to old . it will ago away dont worrie
2006-12-26 01:18:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Are you underage? Don't worry and don't do anything--once that guy goes away your going to forget about him.
And you aren't stupid either--I hope the guy isn't flirting with you.
2006-12-26 01:23:51 · answer #6 · answered by MamaCat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
havent ur ever heard that song nothing but a number
lol
i talked to 21yr old girls when i was 16
2006-12-26 04:51:19 · answer #7 · answered by super_hottie_16 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as long as your not too young (legally) he isnt too old, tell him you have acrush and want to go out sometime, if you want to email me we can talk about it, i had a similiar situation
2006-12-26 01:23:22 · answer #8 · answered by Hanna J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yess omfgg yur so stupid get a life and stop crushing on random pple like that.
2006-12-26 01:18:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
i have the same problom ,just ask him out but dont let anyone know thats wht i did! (it works)
2006-12-26 01:17:08 · answer #10 · answered by panda2006_2007 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋