You have only tried one medication. You need to go back to the doc and get things re-evaluated. Also you should reconsider your feelings about religion and consider talking to someome who has had a near death experience and can help you come to a better understanding of things.
2006-12-25 17:16:11
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answered by Anonymous
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How did your parents die? I really do not have "the" answer for you but maybe some support...
I am 44 and 2 years ago Dec 29th my father died suddenly, he had not been ill before hand. He was living 1 state from me in his retirement secluded idaho home.
8 months later my mom died.. Dad was 66 and mom was 62. I do not believe you ever get over a death of someone close to you.. You just learn to live it with it pretty much, and that is not easy.
And now with the holidays it makes the pain worse. I could not celebrate any of it this year! I slept all day on thanksgiving.. For some reason this year is harder than the first year.
I miss them terribly!!! It HURTS.. And sometimes I feel angry, but I have learned that it passes.
You may be having other issues with anger than have nothing to do with their passing.. Or was there before and got worse to where you really noticed it aftert hey died.
You just have to give it time, and use therapy and the meds, and keep at it until you do feel happy again.
Blessings
2006-12-25 21:57:41
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answered by Mommadog 6
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Well you are going to have to want to get back to a normal life. It as been 8 years since you parents died. I don't know your age, that could of helped. You should go back to therapy and work this out. You have some real issues here, that you need to resolve, other wise you would not be getting angry all the time. And becoming more and more disfunction. I am not going to tell you to turn to religion if that is not what you are up to but you know it would not hurt to put a little faith in god. He can work wonders for you with out you even knowing it. I have lost a son in a fire over 8 years ago, and my daughter lost her secound son , they say he was murdered while she was at work. And the two year old brother saw it. So as you see we have some really serious loses here too. Your parents would not want you to be this disfunctional, and angry all the time. They are looking down on you and smiling. Like they say, God only crys for the living. Cause we are left behind with the sorrow of the passing of our loved ones.. While they have gone on to the heaven, and are looking down on us, and watching over us. They too get sad when they see that you are said. You really need to go back to therapy and work through the issues you have with their passing away. My father was only 39 when he died, i was very young, so was my youngest sister. It was hard for us, and he still think of him, but you must remember the good times. The happy times. Know that they are in a good place and someday when it is your time they will be waiting there to welcome you.
PLEASE TRY TO GET BACK TO A NORMAL LIFE, AND SEEK HELP, PROFESSIONAL HELP. I really think that your parents would want that for you, and they would want you to live out your life happy, and having a family of your own. So think about it and go back and talk with a therapist. Take the time to honor them, and their memories each year, and at special times of the year. They will always be with you , and in your heart.
By the way Merry Christmas........
2006-12-25 17:33:07
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answered by Ladyofathousandfaces 4
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holidays suck when you lose someone you love...my mom was killed twelve years ago...and I haven't gotten over it ..just maybe learned to live with it a little better...as far as getting back to normal ...I don't believe when a chunk of you becomes missing that the normal before can be the normal after....what I do..is try to look at each day as a new day and try to find something good about it..some days it doesn't seem possible but I try anyway.....as far as anger goes...I used to be consumed by it....after a time(long time...years)..it seem to wear itself out....I still get angry but it comes and goes...it doesn't stay like it use to....
I am sorry for your loss and I wish I knew what could help...but I don't....time has seem to help me...but it has been a long hard road...but I am better this year than I was the last..and each year that goes by....the anger and sadness seems to lessen a little...
2006-12-25 17:39:04
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answered by LeftField360 5
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Bless your heart!! And I do understand what you are talking about. THE ANGER, is almost overwhelming at times and I don't even know who I am angry at. I don't know your age, but I do think that has something to do with it. I hate the holidays also for similiar reasons. But I do know that each of us are here for a reason. I do believe in God and I know that he doesn't give us more than we can bear. Do you have other family members you can trust and talk to? I feel really sad for you and I think that you need someone you feel comfortable talking to and trust talking with. And therapist just don't cut it when it is this personal. I wish you good thoughts and happiness. And I wish that I could be more help. Look within yourself and make a list of the things that make you the happiest and be honest. That always helps me to see things in black and white. Just a suggestion!!
2006-12-25 17:21:33
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answered by Cindy Roo 5
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You are suffering because you are still,, very much in grief,,no doubt! I do not know all of the details,,etc? How you lost 2 parents in 8 yrs.,,together,, separate,,same year or not? What does matter is that you MISS them so much, and THAT, I will and do,understand! It does take alot of time to begin,,sort of feeling,,Normal after such a tragic Loss,,and some days you feel that you cannot cope! That too, I believe I understand. Get on your knees and PRAY,,as I will for you! Take love and care of yourself,and God will take care of you,,Promise!
2006-12-25 17:54:16
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answered by DORY 6
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I am so sorry to hear about your loss. WOW.
I am wondering if you have any siblings and how they are handling it.
Sometimes it's difficult to get over things when we have stuffed our emotions down for so long. If you haven't spoken about it much or in depth you may not have properly grieved.
After talking with someone you trust just to hear yourself talk about it, can somewhat desensitize yourself to the trauma of it. Not that you will ever forget, but lessen the pain or anxiety that comes from thinking about it.
Good Luck. Even tho you aren't religious, I'll say a prayer for you.
2006-12-25 17:17:20
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answered by Anonymous
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Ok so you don' want to become to religious huh. Well if you don't mind can i pray for you I'm a Eucharistic minister at my church. Don't worry i wont preach. You do not want to hear any preaching. My dad passed away 4 years ago i was taking care of him. Both of my sisters moved away from here but i stayed. I took care of both of my parents especially my dad he was very sick. At the time of his death i went with my niece to take a car back to a friend and he passed away. When i got there he was gone. The people of hospice said that if i would've been there it would hit me very hard. Which is what i think happened to you but you know what i learned to accept that he is in a far better place than you or me. Your parents are not hurting nor are they ever going to be sick. Just accept and talk to god not pray just talk to him he will listen. May God Bless You. And take care friend. Your loss is for naught. Your grief will be less.
2006-12-25 17:56:29
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answered by jmc 2
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i can understand ur situation as im also without my parents,but they recently died.It is the toughest moment of ur life.but im living,eating,laughing.No one can die wth the dead ones.i am sorry to say but i dont think so tat u r deppress only 4 this reason even after 8 years.Try to scratch the main reason.Im sure u can &there is.if u cant live then it means that u are not alive.open ur eyes and face the facts of this real world.Dont close ur eyes like a pigeon in front of a cat.
2006-12-25 17:43:58
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answered by Iffat A 2
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I agree with Angie. Some meds work on some people and some don't. MOST psychiatrists will tell you mental health is still a matter of trial and error even yet. Try counceling along with the meds if you aren't. You have to let go even though it hurts or you will never be the same.
2006-12-25 17:18:21
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answered by Anonymous
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