well we have been together for a year and a half hes older than me and we are kinda long distance due to his job..im still in high school and all but i really care for this man and i would like to start talking to him with more of my heart but id like to start with this (see above) so i can see how he feels about it too..im just neriouvs and would like some help on what you would think
2006-12-25 17:04:05 · 13 answers · asked by dreaming 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If this is really someone you want to be with the rest of your life, you will need to learn to communicate openly and honestly. Just let him know how you feel. If it makes you feel better, you can preface it with "Hey, I don't know how you'll react to this, but I just wanted to be completely open and honest..." That way, he has a bit of prior warning, and he'll know that you aren't telling him because you are expecting a ring.
2006-12-25 17:06:36 · answer #1 · answered by wnk 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well sex will bring you closer, but it could also drop the hold you have on him if is ultimate goal is just sex. Which if he proposed he most likely isn't after just sex. Do you have an engagement ring on? Is the date set? If yes, technically you already belong to him and he to you so if you had sex with him, you would still be his "wife". However, as most people no longer follow God's laws, no one sees it like that anymore. How about this, tell him that you want to get married now, at a justice of the peace or private ceremony someplace. Just to make it legal, but that you still want to plan for a wedding. You don't even have to tell anyone, just get married and keep it a secret if you want. But the important thing is God will know, and you will have saved yourself for marriage (which is wonderful by the way). If he refuses, then sorry for his luck. Let him wait. And if he doesn't wait, then he wasn't the man for you. Good luck.
2016-03-29 06:47:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As you are still in high school and he is older and their is distance due to his job, it sounds more like a crush than love.
For many guys, when a girl rushs into saying "I love you and want you to marry me/spend the rest of my life with you" it will drive them even if they really like the girl because the don't want the burden or drama of being the "bad guy" or because they are not ready for that type of commitment, but likely even quicker since you are still in high school.
Best thing to do would be to continue to communicate and see each other as much as possible and when and if he is ready for the next step of the relationship, he will let you know.
2006-12-25 17:28:11 · answer #3 · answered by bottleblondemama 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, you are in high school....think about spending those days studying. only a year of a long distance relationship and you want to spend the rest of your life with him.????i dont think so. why dont you try graduating and going to college and getting yourself a good job and maybe then, you can think about being with this grown man.
2006-12-25 17:10:18 · answer #4 · answered by goldie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not be saying anything like that to him. Let him tell you if he wants to be with you for the rest of his life. And make sure this job causing a long distant relationship is not another WOMAN. Because it is very possible he is with someone else.
2006-12-25 17:09:53 · answer #5 · answered by Mimi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's natural to be nervous about these types of conversations but you need to know where he stands and if you're both on the same page. So, I would just say something along the lines of, " Where do you see yourself in X amount of years?" He'll answer - and then you can incude where you see yourself in the same amount of years and what your goals are... ie; getting married, having children, etc... and see where he takes the conversation.
2006-12-25 17:08:35 · answer #6 · answered by karespromise 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you need to set some goals in life first. Like what type of career you'd like, places in the world you'd like to visit, things you want to achieve. Then ask about his goals in life. If his goals don't include marrying his lil high school playtoy, then save yourself the embarrasment and don't mention it. Whatever you do don't make the most common youthful error most do. Don't use sex as a way to communicate.
2006-12-25 17:07:56 · answer #7 · answered by ZX3R 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him exactly how you feel and what you want and see what he wants. I would not beat around the bush, as they say, and just come out with your total feelings on the relationship. Better now to find out what it is that he wants too. I hope all works out well for you.
2006-12-25 17:09:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Point out that you love him in your own little romantic way.
Remember things that you both have done together and the times when he goes misty eyed. Remind him of the moments and tell him that you want to feel that way forever, with him!
2006-12-25 17:19:16 · answer #9 · answered by Esther T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i hate to tell you this, 90% of marriges end of in divorce!!!! get to kno his insticts towards you, because brain is controllable and does and says what he wants to say or do,but insticts are human nature and uncontorallble but HARD to find so if u feel his insticts want you to be the other half of him, thats all i gutta say, im glad i found this at a young age and still am young. everything that glitters aint gold!
2006-12-25 17:14:18 · answer #10 · answered by TAHOE GUY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋