Ok, I'm 21 and single and every guy I've met lately it just hasn't worked. Several just wanted one night stands which would be great but I'm more of a relationship type person. I'm not saying I'm ready for marriage but I want to actually go on more than one date before a guy expects me to sleep with him. I seem to attract all the wrong guys for me, is there something wrong with me? I mean my friends and everyone say I'm attractive and nice but yet I can't get a nice guy to see me, what do I do?
2006-12-25 16:56:41 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Haha, No I'm more of a shy girl, that's why I can't figure out how I attract all these one night stand guys. I don't dress to impress or anything. I'm rather quiet until I know someone.
2006-12-25 17:07:10 · update #1
If you start doing things you love, guys will come. Never lessen your standards for a guy, or because you're lonely. It hurts more later.
2006-12-25 17:01:56 · answer #1 · answered by tigrelis28 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Maybe you should look at about what YOU WANT and not just take those who show intrest in you, if you are working in a confined area and all the men decide you must be gay because won't sleep with them on the first date, you need to cast a wider net and forget those losers. You never have to have sex with a man until you are ready and want to. And yes, there are plenty of men out there who neither want sex the first time, or want to date a woman that does. That group will also be less likely to have STDs.
2006-12-25 17:04:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why do you have to be with somebody now? Enjoy some self time. Focus on your goals and what you want out of life. You probably got another 15 years of good looks to land a hot guy. Enjoy your youth for now. Most of the guys in your age bracket are full of raging hormones and want one thing. If you continue to focus on this now, by the time you hit 26 or 30 you'll be damaged goods from all these loosers, then Mr. Right won't want you.
2006-12-25 17:19:34 · answer #3 · answered by ZX3R 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The men that you attract may have something to do with how you present yourself. Do you dress to impress? Do you flirt a lot? Do you crack jokes or make light of sex? These sort of things can give guys the wrong impression about who you are and what you're looking for.
Also, WHERE you look for guys can give the wrong impression. Generally, guys in clubs and bars aren't the ones that are looking for serious relationships. Are you looking for guys in places that you feel comfortable in? Places that you would like to be? Look at your own hobbies and interests, get involved in them, and you'll probably find guys that are more of your taste, with common interests and hobbies.
2006-12-25 17:01:56 · answer #4 · answered by wnk 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i think of that however that's achievable for the guy to have initially replaced the way he replaced into appearing to thrill or galvanize you it somewhat is in basic terms as probably which you have been blinded via your thoughts. you enjoyed him so which you observed him to be suited. regrettably, no one is suited and that's amazingly subject-loose for 2 people who like one yet another to try this interior the beginning up of a relationship. that's what some call "The Honeymoon era." that's amazingly uncomplicated to continuously be the sufferer yet the two relationships and conflicts require 2 persons. with the intention to paintings by way of disagreements you will be prepared to take duty for issues you have completed incorrect. sure, the international could be a greater useful place if we taken care of one yet another as friends and it may be incredible yet too undesirable that's different from that. which would be why we've created the assumption-approximately a utopia.
2016-10-18 23:58:25 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to be very flirtatious and would attract all the wrong guys. Try talking to a guy that seems nice and hang out with him and your friends before going out on a date with just him. This will weed out all the bad seeds. Friends can usually help ya find the good ones.
2006-12-25 17:02:05 · answer #6 · answered by Actually it's Ashley! 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Guys like 21 year olds...They will promise anything to have a one night stand...You believe in relationship, then try to look for a regular kind of person, look at his personality, look for good and bad things and weight the good things vs bad things in that person...be nice but not outgoing...
2006-12-25 17:05:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It has to be the guys you are attracted too...you should try something totally different by going out with someone you don't actually see yourself with and then see how the date turns out...
2006-12-25 16:59:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are absolutely. You OWE a man nothing just because he bought you dinner and took you to a movie. I don't feel men show the women they date the respect necessary to make her feel like a complete woman and someone they want to spend time with. That attutide turns me off completely and I would never date him again. It would make me feel rather whorish to say the least.
2006-12-25 17:09:45 · answer #9 · answered by smcdevitt2001 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Make a profile at a dating site like yahoo personals. You can write what all you are looking for. There are other men out there looking for the same as you as well.
2006-12-25 16:59:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
how r u dressing? how r u talking? what signs r u giving out 2 these men? u know, men r simple creatures so u cant B 2 complex, or they just dont get it. check those things out, then C what kind of guys u attract.
2006-12-25 17:03:41 · answer #11 · answered by HustleGirl 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋