would you be mad at your man if he is drunk by dinner time every night and only bathes every 2 days?

Question

I can't stand it I love him but I'm not copeing at all. We use to date years ago and I do care about him but I have my standards and I'm not changing If he won't bath I'm not putting out for him. I told him this is whats bothering me and he left Christmas eve I'm sad but I can't change the way I am. He says he is hurting bad but not enough to fix it I guess Its a shame because we do get on good together.

Answer 1

He's a loser. Just by you asking that question, your standards are way better than his. Move on, now's the time to find someone else.
I hope you X-mas wasn't ruined. Keep you head held high and drive on.
You got it girl.

Answer 2

Hey, I'll be mad at myself if I were like that! Honestly, I do not like anyone who get drunk on a constant basis. Not that I have anything against drinking but one should be able to control oneself. Drinking is fine, but need it go to the extend of drunk everytime? But since this is the only problem that you are facing, why not give him more time, compromise and meet each other half way, you stop nagging at him everytime he gets drunk or everytime he refuses to take a bath. An for him, at least he takes an innitiave to get drunk less often and bathes more often. Honestly, your situation is almost in a stalemate unless the both of you compromise

Answer 3

No, I wouldn't be mad because that loser would be dumped and sent on his stinky way. Good for you for having standards and sticking to them. There's not that much love in the world and life's too short to go through that on a continuous basis. He obviously doesn't have any respect for himself to go on living like that.

Answer 4

I understand, I am going through a similar situation, only, mine lacks the emotion, he just doesn't care. I don't know how to get through to him, and i am running out of energy just trying to keep myself together. I have decided that for my health and well being, I am going to end the relationship. He is not what I NEED in my life, though it breaks my heart, I know it is for the best.

Answer 5

Usually, not bathing for long periods of time is a sign of mental illness. Coupled with his excessive drinking, you are headed down the wrong path. Seek professional therapy as soon as possible.

Answer 6

I already get inebriated very just about each and every evening. in certainty, i'm inebriated precise now. So i do no longer think of lots could replace for me. yet i think of adult males do because of the fact they prefer the exhilaration and this is extra relaxing. this is not because of the fact of a spouse, this is because of the fact this is relaxing and nicely ..... if we had a boys evening out the girl immediately thinks we cheat so despite we can stay residing house and occasion with ourselves!

Answer 7

You are looking at trouble. the guy does not care about himself. So how can he care about you. There are a lot more guys out there that will do better for you. Kick him to the gutter and look for a new one.

Answer 8

You have great taste in men. One thing I can tell you is that people don't change for people. People can only change for themselves. He needs therapy for his alcohol dependancy. And you have to evaluate what's making him drink. People don't drink exccessively because it's fun, something is going on that he's trying to escape or some pain he wants to alleviate.

Answer 9

If he cannot care for himself, how do you expect him to care for you? The hurting will go away but there's no telling if he will ever get sober and decide to clean up his act (so to speak).

Answer 10

If both of you really love each other...then each must be willing to compromise for the sake of the beloved but if not....then better go on separate ways. Happy holidays!!!!