Normally this wouldn't be a difficult question but I'm a guy. My sister actually asked me to be a bridesmaid in her wedding. She thinks i could pull it off and it'd be fun and cute. She wants me to do it all too. Hair, makeup, nails, bra, panties, all of it, even a name.
I asked her about wearing a tux or dressing as a guy wearing the same colors and standing up there with her and she really wants me to wear the dress. She just thinks it'd be great and that the wedding wouldn't turn into a circus or anything.
I'm only 5ft 11 and weigh 135lbs and hair is light brown and goes down to my shoulders so i could probably pull it off but i've never even dressed as a girl before. I'm 19 and have a girlfriend and she said it'd be sweet to do that for my sister since she wants everybody in the wedding and this is the only position left for me. PLEASE HELP! suggestions and advice please!
2006-12-25 16:54:05 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I think you and sis have been playing this dress up stuff for a long time. I would love to have a sister like that. I am a guy that loves to dress female, and I think you should go for it. It would be a once in a lifetime opportunity.
2006-12-26 12:36:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
She's your sister and you love and accept her....Real, it's your marriage ceremony, however don't be a kind of "bridezilla" ladies....Speak to her and find out what she would in finding comfy to put on. Probably she looks like she can be on display carrying the costume if it is anything that she would not in general do. Years down the street, what's going to be extra main to you? Visually entertaining the visitors at your wedding in that all the bridesmaids "fit" or having your sister as part of your wedding? There are many unique patterns of bridesmaids apparel out there, not just the common dress. I was once at an awfully stylish wedding just a few years in the past, and the one bridesmaid used to be wearing a stunning pantsuit. As in your snap shots, as long as every person is generally colour coordinated, why must it topic? Do not let this ruin your huge day or your relationship with your sister. It is going to be a wonderful occasion whether or no longer she wears a dress. Take care and let us know what you and he or she decide. Just right luck.
2016-08-10 02:52:56 · answer #2 · answered by girtman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You would be forever memorialized in wedding photos. It sounds really tacky, and totally lacking in decorum. It really seems freakish and I can't see how it would not turn into a circus. The fact that she wants you to have a name seems to indicate she is just looking to fill a space on the bridesmaid side, and is not actually cherishing your participation in her wedding day. In other words, it's not you she wants, it's just a warm body who'll look great in the (probably hideous) dress she has picked out. Some brides get so bogged down with the details they can't see the forest for the trees. If I were you, I'd offer to light the candles, or pass out programs. You shouldn't be the free entertainment at her wedding. People forget what a wedding is; it's not just a day to dress up and act like a princess, it's the day you make a covenant to another person. Let's keep a little dignity in the ceremony, otherwise, why bother?!?
2006-12-25 19:01:46 · answer #3 · answered by oolishfay 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No way, you sister is acting like a Bridezilla. the only "postion left for you" is as a female NO! So what if there is an extra usher, one bridesmaid can walk with two guys, My sister did it at her wedding, when we were short an usher.
Who's paying for the wedding, your parents? Are they in support of this, I doubt it. But who knows?
But it is really up to you, do you want you future brother in law to heckle you forever about this, and remember there will be lots of photos to remind you later.
I'd tell her you will wear a tux, and if there is "no position left for you" well then I guess you will just not be "in" the actual wedding party.
Yes the Bridezilla will pitch a fit, be prepared.
2006-12-25 17:33:28 · answer #4 · answered by mscyngrim 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think Its disrespectful of her to ask you to do that. Weddings have changed alot over time. There not as formal as they used to be. Brides have men on their side now and Grooms have girls on their side as well, but that doesnt mean that she has to go to the extreme of asking you to wear a dress, bra, panties, getting your hair and make up done if your not comfortable doing so. I think the tux matching the bridesmaids colors would be very nice and not humliating. Standing by your sisters side is what should matter to her. Not what you wear.
2006-12-25 19:40:53 · answer #5 · answered by Jen 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She's your sister and you like and settle for her....authentic, it is your wedding ceremony, yet don't be one in each of those "bridezilla" women people....communicate over together with her and discover out what she could discover delicate to placed on. consistent with danger she sounds like she could be on show donning the gown if it somewhat is something that she would not oftentimes do. Years down the line, what would be greater substantial to you? Visually suited the travellers at your wedding ceremony in that all of the bridesmaids "experience" or having your sister as part of your wedding ceremony? there are a number of distinctive sorts of bridesmaids clothing available, no longer in basic terms the classic gown. i replaced into at an extremely stylish wedding ceremony some years in the past, and the only bridesmaid replaced into wearing a suited pantsuit. As to your photos, as long as all people is enormously lots colour coordinated, why could it rely? do no longer enable this ruin your special day or your relationship along with your sister. it's going to be a suited experience whether or no longer she wears a gown. Take care and let us know what you and he or she settle on. good luck.
2016-10-18 23:58:22 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is the most idiotic request that I have heard of. NO, don't dress like a girl! If you did that, everyone would be laughing at you. This is supposed to be her day, not a sideshow. If she wants you to stand by on her side, then insist on wearing a tux. Otherwise, you could be an usher or extra groomsman. If she can't think of something you could do, then decline to be in it. Have some respect for yourself.
2006-12-26 09:48:12 · answer #7 · answered by Cat Lover 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can tell you love your sister but DON'T DO ANYTHING YOUR UNCOMFORTABLE WITH. I understand it's her wedding and you just want her to be happy but your idea seemed a lot better (just wearing the same colors as the other bridesmaids) Not to be mean but that whole idea sounds a little creepy. Try telling that story 40 years from now! :)
2006-12-25 16:59:35 · answer #8 · answered by Actually it's Ashley! 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
thats pretty wierd-no-one will notice the bride, they will be staring at you...shes crazy to think otherwise. I damn sure wouldn't be staring at the couple during the ceremony for sure! Are you uncomfortable with it? if so-then don't wear the dress, get a suit or tux and if she wants you in the wedding she may just have to deal with you not cross-dreessing. I know this is her day and all, but thats just plain wierd.
2006-12-26 03:28:55 · answer #9 · answered by ASH 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
since you asked to wear a tux...something about this plan must not sound right to you...don't do it
it may sound like a great trick now but on wedding day no one wants tricks...it wont be as fun as it sounds or as cute
wear a tux and stand with her or the groom
but don't wear a dress!
2006-12-26 01:25:51 · answer #10 · answered by Library Eyes 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unless you enjoy cross-dressing, this is inappropriate for her to ask of you. Otherwise, you should wear a tux that compliments the bridesmaids dresses.
2006-12-26 23:52:20 · answer #11 · answered by wisegirl1204 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋