i cant kiss anyone, i really want to but cant do it. even if someone tires to kiss me, especially on the lips i turn away or try to avoid it at all costs. i really want to kiss but i cant, plz help my fear.
2006-12-25 16:40:49 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
Hi there!
Many others have this fear also, so I want you to know that you are not alone.
Most of those that have this fear are "germaphobics". Do you have a basic, but uncontrollable fear of germs? Wash your hands a lot?
If this isn't you, another cause could be a fear of closeness with another human being. Are you able to hug someone? If not, that will tell you were your fear of kissing is rooted.
Have you ever been "forced" into a kiss? Maybe on 1 or more occasions? This also can instill the fear.
Whatever reason applies to you, you can get beyond the fear by facing it head on. Do you have a trusted friend you can try practicing this with? If not, in privacy, practice kissing, with a mirror. Don't feel weird about doing this. Every female that has ever lived did this to prepare for their first kiss. Others kissed their pillows. Then there's practicing by kissing your hand... as to feel how it is to kiss warm skin.
I hope some of this helps!
Good Luck! :)
2006-12-25 17:14:08 · answer #1 · answered by Sandra Dee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a natural response. Don't try to force yourself to do something you're uncomfortable with. Even though you may feel that you want it, your gut seems to be telling you that the time just isn't right. Give yourself a while to get used to the idea, wait for someone special to share it with, and when you're ready just let it flow. You can't force things like this, and when you try, it only makes the experience more awkward.
Of course, there is another approach... You know how when you want to get in a pool & it's really cold, sometimes you just have to run and jump in before you can give it a second thought? Well, apply this to your life. Find someone who you trust, explain your problem, and just spend an hour or so with them working on over-coming your fear! It worked for me..
Best of luck!
2006-12-25 16:46:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
hey buddy yeh, I have the same problem, well sorta.
Anyways you need to figure out what is more important to you kissing- or whatever is holding you back. What are the costs of doing this that you are talking about? You need to think it all through yourself! I don't know if anyone can really help you- this is something YOU have to figure out!
best wishes!!!!
2006-12-25 16:45:26 · answer #3 · answered by paige b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
exposure yourself to the experience slowly. printed word to picture. movie/ t.v. show to people in front of you. and so on.
2006-12-25 17:01:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have the same problem but i cant even ask a guy out !!! that just means your shy!!!
2006-12-25 17:34:01 · answer #5 · answered by Elizibeth-Hope 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋