Why are guys so attracted to the idea of threesomes?

Question

I was just wondering because my boyfriend brought it up a few subtle times, and I do not like that idea....

Answer 1

You didn't mention your age or age bracket but I would put you maybe at late teens or early 20's ,,,, No matter ,,,, Most guys in this age bracket or even older ,,,,or up to 30 and even older aren't mature enoiugh to realize or understand what the word commitment is or means ,,,, It's always I do until they don't want to anymore and then they leave for greener pastures when they've lost interest in where they are at now ,,,, The way I see it is that you have to make a decision here ,,,, If he's expressed the desire to engage in a sexual situation with someone other than yourself then you definitely need to question just how genuine his feelings are for you ,,,, Don't do anything with or because of him now that you aren't willing to do for the rest of your life with him ,,,, This guy is letting his glands do his thinking for him ,,,,, That's obviously more important to him than what he should be feeling for you in this relationship ,,,,, In fact if he wants someone else besides you then you don't really have a relationship anyway ,,,, If he truely loved you the way he should then the last thing on his mind should be sex with anyone else ,,,,, He should be bending over backwards to prove to you that you are his only desire ,,,, You said he's brought this up several times ,,,,, Think about it ,,,, Where is his mind and what's in it ? ,,,, Certainly not you or your feelings ,,,, Obviously the most important thing to him is this threesome and his perverted desire to satisfy his lust ,,,, If you were in his mind and first and foremost the way it should be he wouldn't even think about this sort of thing let alone approach you about it ,,,, His suggestions prove that he doesn't have any respect for you what so ever and that he's just selfish and self centered ,,,,, He sees you as a play thing and nothing more ,,,, It was time for you to move on the first time he talked to you about it ,,,, As it is ,,,, You don't have a relationship with him any longer if in fact you ever did have in his mind at all,,,, A relationship should be fun and exciting not what you have with this jerk ,,,, He's trying to use you and make you look like a fool ,,,,,And you would be if you agree to this ,,,, You don't need this crap ,,,, There are plenty of other fish in the pond so to speak ,,,,, Go fishing ,,,,, find some one that's fun to be with and comes trouble and problem free ,,,,, they are out there ,,,,, all you have to do is find them ,,,, This guys questions to you about this firmly displays where his mind is at and his apparent lack of respect for you ,,,, He evidently doesn't care what kind of situation he places you in ,,,, Were I in your place I would drop this guy like a hot rock ,,,, Like I said earlier ,,,, Your relationship with him was over the first time he even mentioned this ,,,, Stay with him and he will keep asking you about it ,,,, He won't leave it alone ,,,, And you are always going to know that it's always in the back of his mind ,,,, Who knows ,,,, If he's talked to you about it then it's probably certain he's with some one else or has been with someone else behind your back already ,,,, He probably has this other person in mind as the third party to this affair ,,,, Don't let him do this to you ,,,, Get shed of him and stick to your guns ,,,,, don't let him talk you out of it no matter what he says or does ,,,,, Guys are good actors too ,,,,, up to and including tears ,,,, You are better than that and you certainly deserve better than the crap this guy is trying to dump on you ,,,,, Deep down he must think you are stupid because only a stupid person would agree to this sort of thing ,,,, This whole thing proves just how stupid he is ,,,,, Look at this guy real close ,,,, Would you want him as a potential father to your children ,,,, You have to think about how much you love your children before you have them ,,,, What kind of a situation would you bring them in to with a jerk like this ? ,,,, What if he got both you and this other girl pregnant from this encounter ? What would he do and who would he choose to be with ,,,, I think that if that happened and he had to make a choice he would just take off and neither one of you would see him ever again ,,,, And could you actually sit there on the same bed and watch him having sex with some one else ?? ,,,, Girl you have allot of thinking to do and decisions to make ,,,,, You may or may not have been looking for someone when you met this guy ,,,, There are others out there that wouldn't dream of asking some one they loved to engage in this sort of thing ,,,,, Prove to him that you aren't a play thing to be used or trifled with ,,,,, Get rid of him and do it quick ,,,, His glands are doing his thinking for him and they don't consider STD's either ,,,,, Never settle for second best when it comes to relationships either ,,,,

Answer 2

Sex and discussion about sex with your partner should be as open as possible. But while you think it maybe just once or twice thing, you have to first think what he would think. If he likes the idea, is this something that he would want more than once or twice. And if he does, are you going to be ok with it? If he likes the experience a lot, he may either want more of it, or there is also the possibility that the woman you introduce into the relationship may become more appealing to him than you and if he's really a one woman type man, it may become hard for him to trust where his feelings should be directed- towards you or her. So if you do it, be sure you have answers to those possibilities first. Of if its only for once, introduce it to him as ....for once only and never again, i want to try this, would you try it? But make sure you have his agreement on it that its a one time experience. He'll appreciate you're openness and honesty. (this is all advice just from a sexuality standpoint, not religious, societal taboos etc)

Answer 3

There are several things that attract men to the idea of a threesome.

First, there is just the physical/psychological makup of guys in sex. More girls mean more turned on. A guy lasts twice as long, gets it up three times as often, and feels it twice as intensly when there is more than one woman. It doens't take a guy real long in highschool to realize that one girl turns him on quite a bit, but two is more than twice as exciting.

For some guys, it's also a status thing. Sex and power go hand in hand. Consider, the phrase, "I got screwed" means someone exherted power over you and you couldn't control it. So if a guy "screws" more women, he has more power. More at once is even more power.

Also, a threesome is pretty purely about sex. Believe me, I'm as much into the flowers and chocolates, romance and music, etc as anyone. I love to romance my wife, BUT, it takes lot of work, a lot of time, and a lot of energy. Sometimes (not always, but sometimes) I just want what I want.

An idea that guys have told me is good but I've never experienced with my wife is also the idea that they can get competitive, each trying to "do more" to please the guy than the other. I've never experienced that, but that does sound interesting.

Another thing that attracts some guys (like me) to the idea is the idea of help. Seeing my wife with another man would make me jealous, but still, pleasing her myself is a lot of work! Having another girl there to help when I get tired can be nice sometimes, especially when I don't have to push the other girl out of the way, just join in wherever there's an opening. It goes the otherway, though, too. Tying back into the competitive aspect above is also the cooperative aspect, when the two girls try to do things to please the guy together.

Answer 4

I've had threesomes many times and it can be good only if you're all into it and feel comfortable with each other.Every ones different.
I could tell you why I specifically like threesomes but I'm afraid someone might read it who I don't want to read it and they may attempt to report me for sexual content.Besides I don't want some little kid reading that stuff.
If you really want to know some answers then you obviously have an interest somewhere in your mind or you wouldn't be asking or reading this.
As you can see I've obviously kept everything privet with my thoughts so far.If you really want the real low down to the nitty gritty answers then email me at [e-mail] and I may respond with things you might like to hear.

Matty G.

Answer 5

Studies show that since the days of cave man (animal instinct) men have wanted to spread their seed (so to speak) as far and wide as they can. The idea of a three some tugs on their inner animal, their primal instincts, to be with the most women possible. What i suggest is that you tell your boyfriend that you don't like the idea, and to stop suggesting it. If he doesn't like it, or if he gets mad at you, he is the one with the problem. that means he is the one who doesn't know what monogamy means, and you might have problems in the future. unless he's just kidding of course.

Answer 6

Its every (well not every but most) mans fantasy just to have sex with 2 girls at the same time. It is just a fantasy lots of men get over it some people act on it. It honestly can be fun.

Answer 7

As a guess... I would think that it is a fantasy which has evolved through the sexual revolution... but is rarely put in practice.

Lets face it... your average man has his hands full trying to satisfy one woman... much less two.

I think that a big part of the fantasy is to watch the two women making love to each other.

Answer 8

how you are going to fell in the morning?

It's about the values that you have if you don't like the idea, just find out what are the true values of your bf, if are not the same let him go. You are better of with some one that have your same values.

Answer 9

O.K maybe he is strong enough to satisfy more than one women and he really wants to have two in his bed?

I am not ought to the idea but some answers that say men can't satisfy one women is really pissing me off

Answer 10

Tell him you might do it if it is a GUY GUY GIRL threesome. See what he says
I think a threesome would be fun, 2 is better than 1.