I want to save my friends life she is emo what should i do?

Question

I have an emo friend and she cuts herself all the time :(..... I want to save her life and cunsult her with a teen help line..... im only 12 and I want to save her life. Should I talk to my middle school counselor and make it anonymous? Because one daty she might cut herself real hard with a blade and pronounce herslef dead at the hospital. She is my best friend and she is cutting herself because of parental cheeting problems she says. What should i do! Now everybody is turning emo which is my friends and i want it stopped. She cuts herself with her cats nails and scissors plus razors. When she comes to schoool she has high blood marks and they are still bleeding. She could bleed herself to death. This is conserning me with the problem. Alll my friends are doing this and please help me out here. In all my conversations with them they mention suicide! Please help me badly with this situation! thx! srry bout the spelling im only 12! I dont want this to continue any longer! Thank you muc

Answer 1

I am not sure if that would be a good idea to talk to the school counselor at this time. I do think that her parents need to know, so that they can get her into outside therapy. The school don't always need to know, cause sometimes they are the worse gossips. That should be left up to her parents and doctor, and therapist. This is a very serious thing that she is doing, and she is doing it for a reason. I am happy that they have a good friend like you that is looking out for her best interst. Cause i can say that right now she don't really care about her best interest. She may be using cutting to get a release, and she is finding that the release that once lasted a long time, now is hardly lasting at all, so she has to cut more and more. She is trying to cope in this way, and it is a very unhealthy way to cope, as you already know.
So before she can do any more damage to herself, tell her parents, and if that don't work, tell someone that will get her help, cause i agree with you . She needs help now, before she ends up cutting in the wrong place. She may be pissed at you for a while, but in the long run she will thank you later for saving her life.
Cause if she did not have a friend like you then she might already be dead...So try the things i have said, you can even call a crisis line and they can set up a time to see her, or even have her brought to them from school. Cause it is their job too, to keep her as safe as they can, and to help her to stop coping with her problems this way. I wish you all the luck in the world with your friend.

Answer 2

Listen i am 14 and i know how you can help your friend. Don't go the counsler because he will get you and your friend in trouble trust me. Then at you age many people find out that they are witches. I did when i was 12 and i almost no problems now. Let your friend write me an e-mail and i will show her the way of the witch. Now teenagers are very emotional and they need support from thjeir parent and since your friend can't get support from them you have to do the suporting. You must convince her that she is a witch and she can change whatever is happening with her parents. Then show her how to do spell and stuff here is a site that has great spells and all of them work www.witchesmagic.com Have you and your friend write an e mail and i will tell you everything you need to know

Answer 3

I can almost guarentee you that none of these girls actually mean to kill themselves. There are two problems that lead to this behavior. 1) the need for attention, and obviously they're getting it. Show her you love her anyway, tell her she is worrying you and that she doesn't need to do this to get you, or anyone else to pay attention to her. and 2) teen conformity. With emo, cutting, and depression now glorified in the mainstream community, people think things like cutting are cool. It gives you a certain sense that you are just that much more hard core than everyone else, and it sort of validates your problems. I got like this in middle school, and unfortunately I never really got better. I stopped doing the stuff to get attention and to conform to what i thought was cool and bad-a$$, but once you start that behavior, it always sticks with you. Try talking to your friend and tell her you are really concerned. If that doesn't work, it may be time to talk to a school counselor. It isn't ratting her out if you are trying to help her.
Also, I started saying before that I'm almost positive this friend doesn't actually want to kill herself, but rather just wants attention and a temporary release from her troubles and to see her pain on the outside rather than hidden on the inside- I still stand by this, but this doesn't mean disregard it. I was that way, but one time I accidentally almost did kill myself when I didn'tmean to because I cut deeper than I meant to. Lots of the suicides that happen weren't even meant to be followed through with, but people commit themselves to things they don't even realise the severity of.

You are a wonderful friend for caring so much about her. If I had had someone like you, maybe it could have turned out better. Please do all you can to let her know you care. Thank you!

Answer 4

Omg!! I have also a friend that is emo and the best way is to talk to her,comfort her, have a sleepover or something! Cry your eyes out! Tell her to stop because youre worried about her!! Go to the mall HANG OUT TOGETHER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I also have a emo friend and this really helped!! She needs to know that she has a best friend by her side who really cares about her because when you guys talk she feels more open! When you see more cuts or bruises say What are you doing?!?
I care for you and love you and this is what you are doing?? Are you really ready to die!?!
I'm not really sure about that counslear cause she might have even more promblems and she might cut herself more and more! But its worth a shot!!
And for your other friends ask them whats their promblems? Ask
if they are really having issues or asking for attention!
I hope this really worked!! You seem like a real good friend!

Answer 5

Tell a trusted adult. A school counselor is the best way to go. If her parents are having marital problems this will make it worse. Be brave so that your friend can get help. This is a serious act and she'll probably need counseling to get over it.

Answer 6

Please, whatever you do, DO NOT get the school involved. It is not their business, and they can easily throw a student out if they feel they are mentally unstable. You're friends need immediate care, but schools typically make the situation worse, rather than better.

However, I think it's wonderful that you are such a caring friend. Talk to your parents or a trusted adult. Let them handle it from there. Cutting is a dangerous form of venting one's emotions. It is highly unlikely that any of your friends will actually kill themselves just by cutting, but it is a symptom of severe depression that requires intervention from an outside party. This behavior can quickly lead to more destructive ones, such as drug and alcohol use, or even suicide.

It may anger your friends in the begining, but eventually they will understand that you are only trying to help them. Stay strong hun!
I pray that you and your friends are safe and get the help you need. If you ever need to talk, please feel free to message me.

Answer 7

Cutting is becoming far to common among young people, half the time they are unaware of why they do it, but in the end they are suffering needlessly. Of course consult the conselour or a hot line, if her parents dont notice--that is just awful but too common among parents nowadays. Pray for your friend.

Answer 8

She could be doing it for attention. If she's wearing short sleeves or whipping or sleeve up and showing off her cuts, then chances are, she's looking for attention.

It's really very difficult to kill yourself with cutting, It's a cry for help, not a suicide attempt, and most of the time, it takes awhile, and a lot of emotional strength/pain to manage to cut deep enough to need stitches.

You should go to your counselor, or to one of your parents. She may be angry at you when you do, but in the long run, she'll appreciate what you did.

Answer 9

I had this problem when I was about your age too. Go to your counseler. These problems are far too big for you to handle, and your counseler has had schooling for this type of stuff. Also, your friend is not emo, she's probably depressed.

Answer 10

She's emo. She's not going to kill herself. Cutting is just a whiny way of getting attention. Stop being her friend.