I just recently got back with my ex but I found out that he was going to ask out another girl the day after he told me he still loved me and wanted to be with me. I have asked him a lot of questions and for every question he just says "I'm with you aren't I? And that's all that should matter." I asked him why he still talks to her and he said because they are friends. I asked him if he'd tell her to lay off a little and he said he did and so to make him happy I started talking to her and then today I found out that he's only with me because I'm his first love and doesn't expect us to last and she's trying to win him back. Now I feel like he's really distant and he talks to her more than me and rarely returns my phone calls and never wants to hang out anymore. I'm pretty sure he's not cheating but idk b/c I live like a 2 hour drive away. Should I get out of the relationship now or what? I need advice. Please help!!
2006-12-25 16:04:10 · 11 answers · asked by prettyprincess 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell him he's not doing you any favors by being with you. Then dump him.
2006-12-25 16:06:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really have no first hand experience to give you, but logically i think you should prbably ask him straight-up, "What The Heck are you doing?????????!?!!" find out what his plans are, and tell him you want him to honest no matter what because finding out early on is better than walking in on him with another girl. Good luck with this one, and remember to tell him that you love him still, and keep a level head or you might mess it up. Again Good Luck!!
2006-12-25 16:11:09 · answer #2 · answered by Daniel B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he rarely returns your calls and never wants to see you, how does this make you feel? This "I'm with you - aren't I?" is simply his avoiding a truthful answer. Don't call him, just go out and find you someone who makes it clear that he wants to be with you. Someone who makes you happy, and preferably lives closer so you can have more time to develop a real relationship. Forget this wishy-washy dude whose trying to play both of you girls.
2006-12-25 16:21:58 · answer #3 · answered by bella 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're giving 100% to this relationship, but you don't feel like he is investing the same, then that's not fair to you and you should let him go. It doesn't sound like you two trust each other very much, which can also be a huge relationship killer.
2006-12-25 16:07:17 · answer #4 · answered by wnk 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let this dude go. it sound like to me you were his second choice and you should always be first dont settle to be his left overs. If he really cared he wouldve never did these things to you. theres a reason for everything why'd you all break up from the start. you can do better you deserve better. trust me.
2006-12-25 16:08:44 · answer #5 · answered by milly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Based on what you have written, as hard as it will be for you, you need to move on with your life and start a new beginning and find someone who will share there heart with yours. Good luck...
2006-12-25 16:19:10 · answer #6 · answered by blacktrain11 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
drop him. he doesn't expect you to last, and he's going to break up with you soon so he can be with "her". stupid buttmunch. (him, not you!) Then find yourself a better guy, and make him jealous - don't use the new guy JUST to make him jealous - you've got to actually like him too. oh, and if it wasn't Christmas, i'd say break with him today, but HA!! it's christmas, ain't it! merry christmas and a happy new year!!! =D
2006-12-25 16:11:33 · answer #7 · answered by Marina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you love him? if yes try your best to win him back before it is too late
2006-12-25 16:08:45 · answer #8 · answered by mimi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should ask him straight up. If he is, dump him.If not try to make the best of it!
2006-12-25 16:07:50 · answer #9 · answered by ClarissaKayeAnne 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move on honey. u can find someone else who will respect u and treat u better. he is azz. good luck.
2006-12-25 16:10:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋