I'm 15 and I use school as an excuse as to why i dont date. (My excuse is true) yet i feel lonley sometimes and even though i get asked out i just can't bring myself to say a fudgin simple yes!!! people think i play hard to get, but i think i'm actually a coward.Sometimes i doubt if i even want to be with someone right now..I'm so confused ..any advice could really help me..thaks
2006-12-25 15:46:13 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No, you are not a late bloomer - that is so rude to say.
You have pride in yourself - most likely you are more mature
than most of the girls and guys that are in your school.
Don't say "yes" just to fit in. It takes courage to say "no".
Do what you think is most important for you, if it is school,
homework and studying, than so be it. When you are ready
to date someone, you will know and also find the right
person, that will not make you feel bad about who you are.
2006-12-25 15:56:53 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take your time. If you don't feel right saying yes then don't. You got a lot o time, and when the right person will come along you will have no problem saying yes. But if you just say yes to someone just to say yes, then you might miss that chance for the right person. You dont need to prove to anything to anyone, i saw to many people rush into things and then regret it. And about being lonly, ye that true, people need other, so find close friends who will hang out with you, those who have same interests as you, those who care, and will help you remember " a friend can stick closer then a brother"
And if you don't feel right about being with someone right now, then don't!
The best thing i can say is just pray about it!
2006-12-25 23:53:52 · answer #2 · answered by And the truth shall set you free 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this helps make you feel better, I didn't go out (i.e date) til I was 16...
You don't need to use excuses to avoid going out, just say right out that you don't want to go out, and if the guys can't take it, that's their problem.
It's normal to feel lonely sometimes, and want to be by yourself other times. It happens to me too :)
By the sounds of it, you just want someone (or maybe just something) to hold and cuddle. I'm single at the moment, but i like being single, because then I'll have even LESS things to worry about. Of course, there are times when I crave a bit of loving and want to be with a certain someone, but who doesn't?
I think you should just spend more time with family and friends, make a tighter bond, so that one day, if you do go out, at least you know your loving friends and family will be there for you when something goes wrong.
Best of luck, much love~
2006-12-26 00:22:15 · answer #3 · answered by Unefemme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if it is true that you considure school more important than so be it. Besides it is. As to being a coward, that is ok. You dont have to go out with anyone you dont want to. Just find a guy that is willing to just be a cool friend to you. If you want romance in your life but are afriad to date, why not make it a group date with a bunch of your friends that may already have boyfriends. Dont go to romantic places and such till you feel like it. Have fun, go to the amusement parks and such. Just make sure to go to only places where you can be supervised. Guys can be trouble and just want to use you.
2006-12-25 23:57:27 · answer #4 · answered by rezruf 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well if you're not ready to, then that's your thing. No one can rush you into anything. I felt like that too, I was always walking around campus, and everywhere couples were holding hands or just together and it made me want a bf. But when i got one too soon I broke up anyway so it's better if you wait till you really feel like you can share something nice with someone else =) But have you ever thought what makes you so afraid of having one???
.....hmmm...=D
2006-12-25 23:52:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let anyone pressure you into dating if you're not ready. If it's something that you're not comfortable with, that's perfectly okay, and you don't need to be ashamed!
Take time to get to know people as friends, hang out with big groups of people, and get to know a lot of different kinds of people. You're only 15 -- you definately don't NEED to be dating yet, and I think that focusing on schoolwork is a perfectly fine reason why not to start dating now. Good luck!
2006-12-25 23:51:04 · answer #6 · answered by wnk 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it just sounds like your not ready for that step yet and its perfectly ok!!!! you shouldn't do things just because others think you should. wait till you are comfortable and then it will be fun for both of you. dating isn't something your expected to do, its something you choose to do. and when you do it will good for you not others!! GOOD LUCK!!
2006-12-25 23:50:40 · answer #7 · answered by onyx maiden 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it is normal to use school as an escuse but if you dont want to go out with and they have a problem with that f**k them.
2006-12-25 23:50:20 · answer #8 · answered by daffy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're not ready to date ..there isnt' anything wrong with that , you are a late bloomer..
2006-12-25 23:49:47 · answer #9 · answered by red 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋