I met a girl who lives 12 hours away. She's great, pretty and above all else, has a sense of humor. However, do long distance relationships work? Has anybody else tried it?
2006-12-25 15:45:25 · 19 answers · asked by Abegon 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
its always possible, if its supposed to happen it will, but if it doesnt, let it go
2006-12-25 15:47:53 · answer #1 · answered by stephanie f 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A wise person said that we are as faithful as our options. If you have a lot of options, then it's difficult to do without when you can easily have someone else. On the other hand, if you have the one you want and need and desire, then the other options may seem less than desirable to you. You also need to feel that the other person shares your passion for the relationship. It can be difficult, but it can be done. How into each other are you both? If you get really serious, then someone will have to make the sacrifice and come to the other person. Unless you both find a middle ground. how often can the two of you get together? If you can see each other like, every 2 weeks for a week at a time, then it may not seem as bad with phone calls, email and IM. If you see each other once a year, that could be tough. Military personal go years and musicians can go months when on the road. Truck drivers can go days. Its not uncommon, but the variable is the two of you. If she's the manager of a football team, then you may have a problem. If she's a dancer and all the guys around her are gay, then you don't have it so bad. Options are the key.
2006-12-25 16:27:13 · answer #2 · answered by Neptune 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Long distance relationships can be very hard. The lack of physical intimacy is a significant problem.
I've been in one long distance relationship, Santa Cruz to New York.
We started out in Santa Cruz, she moved to Santa Barbara and we broke up. Then got to together again when she moved back to New York.
I never actually saw her again... but we had a romantic relationship long distance for several months. Romance restricted to phone sex, relationship limited to how are you, what have you been doing, etc... we pretty much talked every day, which was quite expensive.
The most important thing in a long distance relationship is setting very clear rules... can we date other people, thus address one another's physical needs, or is dating others out? Setting times to talk (date long distance)... and if possible setting some routine for meeting up, one or twice a month would be a suggestion, more often if possible, less often makes things very hard on both of you.
Oh - I did have a relationship that also started out in person, but evolved into long distance when I went to college - we still saw each other occasionally, but the whole thing pretty much ended when her parents found her phone bill was like $200plus a month...
Anyway - I wish you luck, she sounds like she's worth it.
-dh
2006-12-25 15:52:56 · answer #3 · answered by delicateharmony 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ive tried it and it doesnt go very well at all. My sister has tried also and failed to and never tried again. I tried long distance for 7 months and the whole time all you can think about is what they are doing and if they are doing what they told you they were. And are they with who they say they are. Trust issues are the main thing in long distance relationship.
2006-12-25 15:49:27 · answer #4 · answered by blazin_cripz_2006_0wner.sheena 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, because according to the research, long distance relationship rarely works. But I'm sure there is at least a girl as good as her and lives less than one hour away from you.
Good luck
2006-12-25 15:54:21 · answer #5 · answered by misscandy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Long distance relationships can work if you set your mind to it, but that says nothing for the other person.
I met someone and he had to go to Europe for 2 years. He was mine then and he's still mine now that he's come back.
2006-12-25 15:50:38 · answer #6 · answered by Call Me Babs 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would never ever be in a long distance relationship. you just never know what the other person is really up to. If i were you, i'd get to know her first as friends to see if you can truly trust her. and then if you are up for it and can make the time comittment to visit her and she can do the same, go for it!
2006-12-25 15:47:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
one thing i will say is that if you like her and you have an idea where she lives and you have her phone # give her a call and chat her up and yes a long distance relationship can work
2006-12-25 15:51:20 · answer #8 · answered by cheyenne g 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Long distance relationships do not have a good track record.
2006-12-25 15:48:21 · answer #9 · answered by Monsieur Rick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not saying it would'nt work but long distance relationships are tough. I'm sure there is that someone special out there, closer to home. Good luck...
2006-12-25 15:50:06 · answer #10 · answered by blacktrain11 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have, and it doesnt work. Its hard to deal with the distance and often times its like when you finally get around to being with them all the time its not the same.
At least it didnt work for me.
2006-12-25 15:47:07 · answer #11 · answered by lovesicklust 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋