I work with a guy at a department store,and i see him about 2-3 times a week, and i am wondering how to go about asking him out, or turning our conversation into a date...
Do i not do it because if he says no i have to see him all the time, or do i go ahead and do and pray to go he dosn't say no and humiliate myself?
2006-12-25 15:14:02 · 17 answers · asked by jbrez9 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Be yourself, open-up and talk to him. Get to know him a little at work. Then ask him when you are comfortable. Don't worry about rejection. You are just friends anyway.
2006-12-25 15:17:05 · answer #1 · answered by Delta Charlie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way to do this is go out with a group of people from work. Have someone else you know invite him. This way you get to see what he's like and if he's already involved. If this does not work. Over the next few days that you do see him strike up a conversation with him and gradually get to know him. If he digs you, there's a good chance he will ask you out.
2006-12-25 15:44:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well how strong of friends are you? make sure he is not taken spend some time really knowing him and then after a while ask him to go to coffee or something with you not to the movies you wanna really get to know him first before you go out on dates but when the time is right just ask if he says no then ok still try to be friends its ok to humiliate yourself because i do it to myself all the time but its better to know then wonder years down the road what he would have said
hope this helps
2006-12-25 15:21:21 · answer #3 · answered by theo136 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its rarely a good idea to date somebody at work, but departement store jobs are rarely long-lasting, so what they hey, right?
Your safest bet is an innocuous group lunch and a movie down the road. If you have friends or friends in common at work this works well. A long string of group lunches, outside the store lounge, is a sure bet.
2006-12-25 15:20:42 · answer #4 · answered by AnswerGuy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well - that's a tad awkward...
Dating co-workers can get very ugly... getting turned down is one thing, but its much worse if the two of you need to work together after a breakup.
I have asked co-workers out, and I have been turned down (well sort of in one case...) and it didn't impact working with them afterwards. Nor did it affect our friendships.
I've also worked with a woman I was living with - which could get awkward at times, but was generally fine.
Personally, I don't see any reason not to go up to him, and just plain ask him out... 'Hey you busy after work? I was wondering if you'd like to go out?' If he says no, then no big deal... he won't even know you intended it as a date... and if he says yes... well go from there... ;)
-dh
2006-12-25 15:18:39 · answer #5 · answered by delicateharmony 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is unquestionably uncomfortable and ackward. If he's prepared to try this to her, then he could be prepared to try this to you. on the different hand as an worker it is your accountability to checklist an worker violating business corporation coverage. It would not sense large to be put in this place, yet you reported your self she needs to pass. Her boss in all probability won't be ready to convey at the same time the tips mandatory, perhaps he's no longer around adequate, and that i'm constructive she is on her terrific habit while the boss is around. needless to say they know she is violating rules, and that they desire to term her, yet at the instant he could want extra data. If she is violating rules she is making it available for her to be enable decide for those motives, so particularly she is doing this to herself. considering which you would be in mgmt quickly your self you will could desire to deal w/those situations and precise now this could prepare how nicely you preform below rigidity and what's asked of you. in case you quite are not comfortable then exhibit that on your boss, additionally enable him know your undertaking of her retaliation ought to she locate out its you and see what he plans to do to guard you. yet considering that she is a subject i could grant basically the data of what she violates an grant that on your boss. do no longer look at your self as a rat, yet which you're doing all your interest and what's asked of you via the boss - there's no longer something unlawful approximately his request, basically could make you sense awkward. HR supervisor
2016-11-23 17:17:45 · answer #6 · answered by maragni 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't - bad workplace etiquette. It my be against company policy to date co-workers. Besides- if you ever break up or have an awkward "Friends with benefits" sort of encounter, it will suck to have to see him at work from then on. You'll have to quit or feel sick when you go to work.
2006-12-25 15:17:22 · answer #7 · answered by Katie 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Try to get a group situation going...then you will get a chance to be with him and feel him out in a social setting without the risk...This Works!!!
2006-12-25 15:16:27 · answer #8 · answered by jdoug_sellers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get a small group to go out to dinner and ask if he would like to go. then just ease into asking about a second date if it goes well. but don't act desperate.
2006-12-25 15:17:03 · answer #9 · answered by linkielock 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just go up and talk to him......show that you like him....and if he says no o well you wont have to worry about him...i play bball and heres a saying but put it to your situation: YOU WILL MISS 100% OF THE SHOTS YOU DONT TAKE: i got that on a bookmark
2006-12-25 15:16:55 · answer #10 · answered by Sophie J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋