I think he really likes me but i feel like we just don't connect at all. Now im totally into this guy on my ski team so much more than ive ever been into my bf. Also im going to formal with a different guy that my bf doesn't know about yet but hes not the guy you get jealous of or anything. Anyway the guy i now like will be at the dance with a girl he doesn't like (he told me this) he got locked into it. i want to take advantage of this chance with him but i dont want to hurt my current bf how can i break up with him without hurting him and should i spring myself into a new relationship? Help! I need advice!
2006-12-25 15:11:21 · 9 answers · asked by Skierstar 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
My bf will not be at the dance
2006-12-25 15:15:42 · update #1
im 16 years old
2006-12-25 15:18:21 · update #2
im 16 years old
2006-12-25 15:18:22 · update #3
sorry if my problem is confusing
-i have a bf
-i like the guy from ski team a lot
-im going to the dance with just a friend of a friend i dont really know well but hes nice
- at the dance i want to spend time with the ski team guy
- ill make sure my original date has a partner if i leave
2006-12-25 15:29:58 · update #4
Just be honest with your current boyfriend. You don't have to tell him about the other guy. Just tell him that you don't feel like things are working out and that you want to move on. Then you can do as you wish at the dance.
But if you are going to try to get with this other guy why you still have a boyfriend that that will make you a cheater and that's not a good reputation to hold.
Make sure you do what feels right in your hart. Also, if you are going to a dance with a guy and you just leave him to dance with another guy all night that's mean also. Even if you are single and not dating ether of them. Make sure they guy you go to the dance with knows what you plan on doing as well.
2006-12-25 15:23:04 · answer #1 · answered by dohm84 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't cheat. Go with the one you like best and believe is the best for you. If you hardly see the guy your with now and you have found someone you see frequently then I'd try and get with the one you see most. But that isnt always the route to go if the one you see less you have strong feelings for. So anyways if you are wanting to go to the dance with a different person but you arent completly sure that they are the one for you I'd go to the dance with them and see how you connect once you have figured out which one you are connected most to and have the most in common that is the one you need to be with. If its not the guy your with now and you have to break it off then the easiest way of explaining without lying would be saying that you need to be in a relationship where you actually get to spend alot of quaility time with your partner and not in a sexual way either. Tell him that you just dont click with him the way that you would like to. Tell him he is a great guy and that he deserves someone different rather than you so he dont feel as bad. I hope this helps a little
2006-12-25 15:22:11 · answer #2 · answered by blazin_cripz_2006_0wner.sheena 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you don't really like your boyfriend no matter what happens. First thing you need to do is break up with him. It happens. There were no promises of eternity, right?
I'm a little confused ont he dance thing, but it looks like you're going ot a dance with a guy that isn't really your boyfriend and you want to connect with the guy form the ski team. Then sit at a table for four. Double date it. It won't hurt for you to dance with him. Maybe the other two will hit it off.
Anyway, don't take a drive like one of the otehr people said. Arrange to meet him again another time. I know you think you like him alot, but you still need to get to know him better.
Remember, tact here is important. You need to be considerate of everyone, your boyfriend, the dance date, the ski team guy. So don't try to play the field. Each of these are people, with feelings, and deserve respect.
You do too, so don't let them abuse your right. If you are straight with them about who you are and what you want, then they have to understand and deal with it on their own terms.
So have fun, I hope the ski dude turns out to be cool!
2006-12-25 15:25:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should both leave the dance early and "take a drive somewhere" and see what happens...
If he is as into you as you think he is, then I am sure there will be some fireworks going on---just make sure to park somewhere place don't visit---it's real obvious whats going on when they come up to a car and the windows are all fogged up---especially in the cold...
2006-12-25 15:14:37 · answer #4 · answered by matter2003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well , the same interest make people together .your interested in dance was a good things to do ,it's one of the way to make the couple happy together .you was right he was not connected at all,talk to him your interest and make him understand that you really happy if you can dance with him,you shouldn't stop the relationship but not make new special relationship .. just...like that , you can enjoy your dance with out hurt anybody.you are not hurry right.
2006-12-25 15:35:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
naw son,, stay single.. its more fun.. that way you can be with
the guy at the dance, the guy on the ski team, ect.. well not
be w/ them, juss hang out w/ them without your current b/f
having a fit
2006-12-25 15:14:47 · answer #6 · answered by chelsღ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you cant do it without hurting him...but you need to be honest completely about it and give him something that will help him with future women...advice, something...
2006-12-25 15:14:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not cool to lead a guy on if you aren't interested in him...
2006-12-25 15:16:34 · answer #8 · answered by Chuck J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how old are you...... anyway you should just be honest
2006-12-25 15:13:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋