I dated this guy for some time. Although it was a long distance relationshop, we stayed in touch almost everday. I know he really liked me a lot. Our relationship was at a point were I was ready for an engagement, but he was not. He said that he still wanted some time to think about us. Although he was 99.9% sure about me, he was not there 100%. I was tired of waiting, so I told him that if cannot commit 100%, then I dont want to see him anymore. He was not ready for that, so I said at the moment that if two months down the road, both of us still have feelings for each other, then we will rethink. He never contacted me after that, but over the weekend, he finally got in touch (it was exactly two months and 1 week since we last talked). He said that he has dreams about me. Does that mean that he has been thinking about me or missing me this whole time? How can I approach him and ask him where he stands right now. I dont want to see him if he is not ready for engagement.
2006-12-25 15:09:24 · 6 answers · asked by smiles 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think that pressuring a guy to make a decision is never a good thing, he has to figure out what he wants on his own. He probably has been thinking about you, and maybe decided he really wanted to commit to you, but take it slow. You don't necessarily have to wait around for him, just live your life and don't dwell on him. If he wants to be with you, he'll let you know.
2006-12-25 15:19:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure about this one. I guess it would depend on what he did for the 2 months you where apart. If he used that time to sleep with a lot of women and party a lot then it just goes to show he is not done being a "boy" and he is not ready to grow up and be a married man. You don't want to marry someone who still wants to be single. It will drive you crazy!!!!
2006-12-25 15:23:01 · answer #2 · answered by dohm84 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl you are not being fair to this guy. the fact that he loves you is huge! he even waited two months like you asked and now as you suggested you are supposed to "re-think". just because you are ready to commit to marriage before he is ready does not mean this is the wrong guy for you. be patient and give him the space he needs. you are sending messages to this guy that if he marries you you will be controlling and everything has to be your way(that is what you are doing in this situation) and that rightfully should scare him! you need to learn now that throughout marriage you will need to wait at times for each other to be ready. for example you should not begin your family until you are both ready
2006-12-25 15:20:03 · answer #3 · answered by David C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're having a long distance relationship with him, you need to get "nearer" to him and talk. Talking over the phone and internet is not the same as being with someone in person for an extended period of time, and you ABSOLUTELY need to do that to see whether or not he is actually the one for you.
Good luck.
2006-12-25 15:14:13 · answer #4 · answered by vamedic4 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hun, be onest with him, don't beat around the gush. Nothing is better in a realationship, then honesty.
2006-12-25 15:15:33 · answer #5 · answered by tuffchevy86 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he isn't real sure he wants to be with you. Do you really want to spend the rest of your life with someone that isn't 100% sure he loves you??!?!?!?!
2006-12-25 15:12:29 · answer #6 · answered by Chuck J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋