I love my girlfriend but I hate the fact that she is a club hopper. She and I want to marry each other but I'm afraid her clubbing is going to result into a conflict in our relationship. Is it O.K to marry a woman who loves to go out? I know she's not cheating but.. . . .the club hopping makes me curious.
2006-12-25 15:08:42 · 8 answers · asked by Fundough 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Only if she is going with a group of friends in the same gender that she is and all they are doing is drinking, catching up on gossip, checking out guys but not flirting or hooking up with guys and just letting off steam from their daily lives. Or if she was at gay clubs with gay male friends doing the same activities. As long as she is the third wheel, knows she's the third wheel and stays the third wheel going home at three am. to you and she does these outings on a weekly or monthly basis it should be okay. If she does this almost daily then she is kind of out there shopping around and it's a sign she's unhappy with her life with an unhealthy dose of escapism. In which case she should talk to a therapist to find out what's bothering her.
Even in a healthy relationship both you and her will both need some time away from each other and just relax with your respective friends. Some people relax with golfing or fishing or even shopping. Other people relax by hanging out with friends and club hop. If she's club hopping by herself then she is trying to create a secret life for herself because she's not being satisfied by her actual life. If you like to go to clubs as well then do it together but on a weekly or a monthly basis. Club hopping is for people who are single and want to meet new people or for attached people wanting to revisit that time early in their adulthood when they were single.
2006-12-25 15:26:02 · answer #1 · answered by Emily N 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should marry her before you resolve this issue. If it bothers you now, it'll make you insane after you're married. It will become the topic of alot of fights. Sounds like you're ready to settle down and have a life together and she still wants to be a party girl. Wait until she grows up.
2006-12-25 23:15:58 · answer #2 · answered by mjm52 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you should not marry her at this time. If she is club hopping, she is obviously looking for something your not giving her. You say she is not cheating, but there must be some part of you that is a little insecure. I say she is looking for something that is not at home.
2006-12-25 23:33:07 · answer #3 · answered by Sammy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well that is a good question but there is a limit to every thing if you both passed a point where you can trust each other then it would have been easier to you answer this question i think you need to strengthen the bond b/w you and your girl and tell her to stop being wild and wait for the results i am sure she will listen to you
2006-12-25 23:13:42 · answer #4 · answered by khanaliimran 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That would bother me...not going out but always wanting to go out without me...I mean you need some away time, but you can abuse it...plus in that setting...yikes I dont like that at all...
2006-12-25 23:13:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a personal thing.If you don't like to go clubbing this will certainly pose aproblem in your marriage."look before you leap".
2006-12-25 23:13:46 · answer #6 · answered by maivas229 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't worry, life brings its own demands on your time.
Consider joining her once in a while. Eventually, you will both move on to other things.
2006-12-25 23:24:50 · answer #7 · answered by pheelingud 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not without risk.
2006-12-25 23:12:25 · answer #8 · answered by thresher 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋