I dated my ex for about 5.5 years. We broke up for the last time about seven months ago. Things between us since then have been tense, to say the least. I started dating my current bf a month after the breakup (bad, I know), and am happier than I've ever been.
The ex and I have a lot of mutual friends, and I hate that only one of us gets to go to any get-togethers. He's told me in the past that he doesn't want to be around me. Do you think a Merry Christmas and a friendly message might work towards repairing the relationship? I don't care so much about being friends with him since we have so little in common now, but I do wish we could be at the same place at the same time without any sort of drama. Ideally, I'd like him to be ok around my current bf, since he is very much a part of my life and will likely remain so, but I don't want to ask too much.
2006-12-25 14:50:06 · 10 answers · asked by Ehlena 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just wanted to add that it is near impossible that my current bf would feel jealous if I spoke to my ex. He and I both know that he has nothing to worry about in that department.
2006-12-25 14:59:16 · update #1
I'd be tempted to pronounce this relationship dead on arrival. By all means be civil, but don't count on your civility to "repair" anything. I see the stickiness, though, since you have mutual friends and could end up in the same place at the same time. But if you can't occupy the same space without drama, I'd say that unless you have children together, there's no real reason to have contact with him. I hope things go better in your current relationship.
2006-12-25 14:57:12 · answer #1 · answered by cruztacean1964 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I think its a bad idea to contact the ex right now, when the timing is right for you to be friends it will just happen, if he can't stand to be around you, why would you think a phone call would be acceptable. Don't do it.............if you are truly happier than you've ever been before then it shouldn't matter to you whether or not you and this guy can be in the same place.
Besides if he is still that angry after seven months then he still has feelings for you and you bringing your current boyfriend into the situation wouldn't be a good thing. Maybe you should trying getting some new friends, that way you don't have to subject your current boyfriend to any drama.
2006-12-25 15:03:57 · answer #2 · answered by Monie D 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I say NO.
Making that move will only lead to him responding, and then more tenseness and dragging the whole thing out even longer. Just let it go. You and him are over. You have a new relationship to concentrate on and besides... you should be enjoying your time with the new BF and not holding on to the old baggage of the old relationship.
I say the sooner you let it go completely the happier you will be in the long run, not to mention your new BF who might feel hurt if he thought you still have feelings for the old BF
2006-12-25 14:55:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well first off, I would not bother to even try to repair it, because he is acting very immature about the whole situation. You guys are broken up, and obviously you have moved on, and I am sure he has too. And if he needs to be soo immature about a little freinds get together, then don't waste your breath. He will come around when the time is right. It seems that he is just trying to see if he can get you to run back to him, and beg and plead, those stupid little high school games! And honestly it is not worth the hassel. Just live your life to the fullest, and he will come around when he gets off his high horse.
2006-12-25 14:55:42 · answer #4 · answered by tuffchevy86 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
A friendly little message is not a bad way to help out your situation. Being cordial doesn't hurt. Yes it may be awkward for a bit but that should cease in time. Good luck and Happy Holidays.
2006-12-25 14:58:36 · answer #5 · answered by mumra_06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't contact your ex! There's no reason in the world you can't both show up at the same function as long as you can both behave like adults. If you can't manage to be at the same place same time, then let him make the sacrifice. After all, he's the one that said he didn't want to be around you! Let him stay home! Maybe then he'll decide that it's not so bad to be in the same place wit you after all.
2006-12-25 14:58:12 · answer #6 · answered by Wicked 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
in case you know her handle deliver her plant existence to break the ice in case you have no longer talked to her in an prolonged time. The plant existence do no longer must be something huge, in straightforward terms a small arrangment will do. Write a short yet effective letter in a card and need for a telephone call. If she doesnt call, you know whats up.
2016-11-23 17:15:28 · answer #7 · answered by magnusson 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should not contact your ex. This has great potential to turn ugly and your new bf might not like it. You should leave well enough alone and move forward with your new man. Good luck and Merry Christmas.
2006-12-25 14:54:18 · answer #8 · answered by TRUST_ME 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't think trying to be civil would hurt anything. Go for it.
2006-12-25 14:52:58 · answer #9 · answered by Wiccan~Momma 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i think you should...
2006-12-25 14:57:23 · answer #10 · answered by Promise 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋