She swears at me, talks to her friends about different ways to kill me. Her boyfriend also hates me. She once walked into my room with a bag. I said "whats in the bag?" and she walked closer and when she was as close as she could get she put an evil look on her face then I knew I should run. We already had supernanny come but that din't help. Her she had her 1st kiss with THIS guy today and wont tell me about it. She already di REALLY grownup things with him. Is it normal for that? she is always with him to. well please help me!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-12-25 14:43:20 · 17 answers · asked by Cooliest 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
start acting like a parent quit trying to be her friend, take her to a therapist, GROUND HER and ENFORCE IT be a damn mother you raised her that way deal with it.. get professional help if you cant handle it
2006-12-25 17:59:32 · answer #1 · answered by demoness_6969 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From what im hearing i think you need some serious help. I watch supernanny on tv and she straightens the kids out pretty good but once she leaves you cant go back to normal life like before. keep the rules inforced and i would keep 24/7 watch on her two. 8 years old and already has a boyfriend!?! way to young and to have done ADULT things with him (not good). If i were you i would get rid of her boyfriend and have a serioous talk with her and not let her get away with stuff like that. I would consider counceling or something along those lines and show her whos boss.
2006-12-25 23:04:11 · answer #2 · answered by aaronzhunt 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i may only be 12 but i know that you shouldnt let her control you. you are the parent for a reason, hun. and if she isnt listening to you, imagine what she will do when she is a teen. she is dangering u and others around her. maybe supernanny may not of worked, but u gotta step up to the plate. if she hides things, and hopefully the " very grown-up things" arent what i think the are, but if she comes in with a bag and has an evil grin, do something. take her to a jail cell for a night alone and she will not like it, and telll her thats what it will be like if she is like the way she is. call a boarding school for girls only, and take her there. it is NOT NORMAL!! if i was like that, i would be in a jail cell. that is violent behavior and should not be taken lightly.if i was in ur situation i wouldnt just let her skip away tra-lala, i wouldnt let her go "play" with her boyfriend. i know im not nanny, dr phil, or oprah or anything, but this is common sense lady. im praying for u and ur daughter, may God be with u cause ull need it.
-Mariah
2006-12-26 04:59:24 · answer #3 · answered by Mariah 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a serious situation here. First I would suggest counseling for both of you, and you need to follow through on what the counselor suggests.
Also, do NOT let your 8 yo be along with boys if she is misbehaving. This is atrocious behavior. You need to strictly monitor her tv viewing, as I've found that when young girls watch inappropriate tv they become interested in boys when they are 8. This is not normal, and it is not desirable.
You need to build a positive relationship with your daughter. You need to tie strings in the relationship by taking time to listen to her and spend time with her. Play games and have outings and take walks and such. Most kids I know would rather spend time with their parents than with other kids.
2006-12-26 01:06:45 · answer #4 · answered by Cris O 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jeez...no offence but that kid needs help fast! I am 14 and havent even had a boyfriend yet! you need to be more strict with her. Sorry but its true. if she wont listen to you and keeps saying shes going to kill you threatin to do something horrible that would devastate her. that might knock some sense into her. also try talking with the guy. and just to let you know, no matter how much stuff she has done with him he's not a real boyfriend. shes probably just doing it to make you made. also try ignoring her. Hope she stops being so bad! good luck
2006-12-25 23:18:58 · answer #5 · answered by kurzez_incokerated 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why do you think she hates you?
Maybe it's her way of showing affection.
You know she really hates you if she stabs you in the eye with the jagged edge of a broken whiskey bottle while you're sleeping.
Even so, you have to consider that she might be having a bad day.
Just talk to her or buy her affection with cash.
Stop being so selfish. Your daughter is 8 and almost an adult.
Let her stay out all night once in a while. Let her boyfriend spend the night in her room and don't look in on them. Show her some trust. Try to be a good dad. Buy her expensive things and give her money. Let her drive your car.
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2006-12-25 22:53:43 · answer #6 · answered by Me 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
This youngen shouldnt be doing grownup stuff with an older guy, this is called satutory rape, you as her parent can press charges against this guy because he vioulated your daughters innocense, she is way to young to be exposed things of adult nature. you should get in touch with a local youth hotline to get m ore depth on information and talk to a Youth Correctional Officer, you may want to take that route, if she's also making threats to kill you. try and talk to her, ask her why she hates you so much? and what can you do to make things better. If she is not satisfied with your choices then you would have to take action with the authorities, this being on the level of unconditional love. you must not clue her in on your actions to better her attutude due to it may make matters worse. you may also want to file a restraining order on the guy she's with.
here's a list of some helpful information:
http://www.helpmyteen.com/index.html?helpge=at+risk+youth+gag&gclid=CLfd2-_qsYkCFQx1YAod8mrfOg
http://www.parentteenguide.com/?gclid=CNO97MvrsYkCFQgQYQodaWl0Qw
2006-12-26 23:47:54 · answer #7 · answered by bryteyes808 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What the hell??? You are the mom, you need to take control of this little girl. Remember that she will only do what you allow her to do. No more time alone with this boy. I would tell her from now on she will not see him outside of school.
It is way to early for her to be doing grown up things. My daughter is ten and she is still to young. Put the fear of god into her, you don't have to hit her to do that.
2006-12-26 00:11:56 · answer #8 · answered by hthr_1974 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow! she's too young for a boyfriend.]. she should be AT least 11 or 12 to have one (no farther than making out). Why is ur 8 YEAR old acting like she's 13 (or 16, or 18, or 20)???
But if she's doing "adult" things with him, then you should just send her to a mental institution, and just leave her there, and restart ur life.
2006-12-26 18:38:19 · answer #9 · answered by The_Pink_One 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your daughter is too young to date at eight but that is your choice ( not hers). I would remind her about what the bible says about respecting those who gave life to you. I would also not show that you are NOT afraid of her and that you have the power to have her institutionalised ( even if it is just a bluff). Ring up some instituitions and get some pamphlets sent to your home and conveniently leave them lying around the home :)
2006-12-26 01:55:51 · answer #10 · answered by ANASTASIA_NIKOLAIEVNA_ROMANOVA 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You also have a 10 year old that is having sex with people and an 8 year old that hates you. I think that says something about your parenting.
I hope you are lying or somebody intervenes, you are ruining those kids
2006-12-26 11:19:52 · answer #11 · answered by Mariah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋