Ok here is some background... She moved in with me my husband and our four kids because she didn't like where she was living before. I made my husband choose her or me and our kids because she was smoking in our house and my son and i have lung problems she disrespected me on a daily basis. When i said i wanted her out she would say well i'm calling CPS because you two are the worst parents ever. Well long story short we asked her to leave but we gave her 3 weeks to find somewhere else. She leaves the day before christmas. Tells my sister in law that we kicked her out that day and she made us change our christmas plans as a comprimise we had christmas at my sis in laws house where the m-i-l was also. We got there she started in on me again making her son feel guilty for his choice and telling my son to call her by her name because she is no longer his grandmother. She is still making our lives hell what should i do about it? Get a restraning order or just ignore her til she dies?
2006-12-25 14:41:08 · 22 answers · asked by mystic_rage879 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
also she is a grown woman with a bach degree in teaching but left that because she couldn't get along with her boss the principal. She wants her kids to take care of them like she took care of them when they were younger. Her famious words I can't believe i worked 2 jobs busted my *** for those years raising you people and this is what i get for it disrespect.
2006-12-25 14:44:35 · update #1
You and your husband have to be united on this, because she is trying to tear you apart. A restraining order is not necessary at this time. It will be time for that if she continues to contact you when you ask her not to. Which you and your husband, or your husband alone, will do. Toxic, toxic person. (1) Get away from her, (2) tell her to stay away from your family (3) Have a great life.
2006-12-25 14:48:18 · answer #1 · answered by Caper 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first it takes only 3 immediate family members to have someone committed...
your mother-in-law doesn't sound crazy just a control freak and likes to lay a guilt trip on her kids...personally i think that is very wrong... you take care of your kids and do what you have to do because you love them not to use it as ammo in a self-pity party later
To get respect you must give respect...and it sounds like your m-i-l is a very disrespectful person...those are her grandchildren she is smoking around..(you and your husband did the right thing by kicking her out)
she isn't crazy she is just an old mean hateful bitter women
and people like her never change and will make your life miserable every chance they get if you let them...just stay away from her
but be prepared to deal with her telling the family of how you hate her and its your fault her son and grandchildren never want to be around her....and she will do this at every opportunity
I've been in a similar situation as you and it can be a nightmare
2006-12-25 16:23:23 · answer #2 · answered by mother of teenagers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, i think i know your mother-in-law already... try reading the word.. social-path .... which means insane, they know what they are doing but think it is right because they choose to think that way. don't worry about your in-laws- your brother-in-laws and sister-in-laws know her quite well, no need to save face. I think you are a good parent, thus you got rid of a person that would have messed with your childrens head. As for your husband, show him this, and tell him I said you are saving him from punishment. (Yes, your wife loves you) Let your mother -in-law threaten all she wants, thats how she was when she was young and in the end those people die and never change. That's why her husband left her. He just could not stand her. Best thing to do with those people is stand your ground and avoid them, change your phone number. save your kids emotional pain. If he wants to see her let him go there alone. You stay at home. Never have lunch with someone that threatens you. Love yourself more.
2006-12-25 15:07:17 · answer #3 · answered by bankone1111 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like my mom, who has borderline personality disorder. She lied about that too, but to get her out of the crazy ward (LOL!) we had to sign her papers. It was the first I ever heard of it, and I was thankful TBH, because I lived with it my whole life.
She *is* TOXIC, and it's better for you guys not to be around her. She'll try to pull the whole guilt trip over and over, don't fall for it. i personally don't contact my mother, and we're all very patient when she contacts us. She did live with us for a year, in the biggest bedroom and not contributing anything, my kids had to sleep in the living room to give her 'room'. Thankfully I got pregnant, and there was NO way that she could say she needed the space, after all, she was working and making plenty of money by then.
The biggest problem is all the lies she'll tell everyone else. all you can do is be patient and hope that logic wins out. It took about twenty years, but my baby brother (who has always taken her side against me) finally has seen the crazy. It's been a big relief and saved our friendship.
2006-12-25 15:06:30 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be glad she is out of the house before she can cause more problems. She's family, and nothing is going to change that, you might as well just ignore her until she dies or try your best to avoid her. I have to deal with two cousins I hate who aggervate the hell out of me so I'm sure you can deal with a crazy *** mother-in-law.
2006-12-25 15:03:03 · answer #5 · answered by eharrah1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your mother in law is my aunt. No really....
Since she has moved out and I am assuming that your husband choose you over her then I would cut her out of your life.
If you have done nothing wrong let her call CPS. They will see nothing is wrong and she might get in trouble for making a false report.
If your sister in law is on her side let her be, You dont have to have her in your life either.
Just try to remember that your mother in law is trying to be hurtful and mean and trying to manipulate you and your husband and you wont let her. GOOD FOR YOU!!
Either she will see that she is being mean and stop or she will still be mean and out of your life.
Good Luck.
2006-12-25 15:07:47 · answer #6 · answered by LadyCatherine 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she sounds like a real whack job. You did right by kicking her out. She sounds like a manipulator, and she is in the wrong. Be glad shes out of your house, and have as little to do with her as possible. If she makes a pest of herself, tell her to her face that you dont care for how she behaves, and if she can't improve, you dont want to see her. Nothing like honesty. Its always the best policy. You are always right in telling the truth. Thats my take.
2006-12-25 15:22:31 · answer #7 · answered by Penny P 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well one thing for sure she sure would not be smoking in my dam house.With the problems you 2 have totally no respect at all.I would have to give her a piece of my mind.And your husband has to quit being a chicken &tell her to stop disrespecting you.
2006-12-25 16:01:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get her some help fast or life is going to be miserable. i personally would tell her like it is and go about my merry way. Been there, done that and I do not regret telling her to mind her own business and stay the hell out of our life.
2006-12-25 14:57:24 · answer #9 · answered by Judy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the mummy for sure is an enabler. human beings in the present undertaking with the "insane" individual can no longer help them. they should hit backside and convey themselves back up. everybody has a diverse backside. i could record the rattling divorce papers and pass directly to a chuffed healthful existence.
2016-10-06 00:34:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋