Some people on my job are havinng a potluck dinner and when asked if i would attend and bring something, my answer was no. The potluck is going to be on my day off. Is it rude not to attend even if it is my scheduled day off?
2006-12-25 14:37:11 · 19 answers · asked by Changed 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
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2006-12-25 14:39:55 · update #1
No, I don't think it's rude. Just say that "I'm sorry, I already made other plans" - it IS your day off, after all. After spending so much time at work with people, I find it very difficult to spend outside of work with them. When I'm off I want to be with my family, not the slacker from the next cubicle. It's better to just say no and move on, rather than say yes, and then dread the event......
2006-12-25 14:41:40 · answer #1 · answered by matty.. 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Not rude, but not good for your standing, either. I completely understand not wanting to go--I'm the same way, and did the same thing. And caught a little resentment. I was a little less "in" and a little less... trusted isn't the right word, but it wasn't good. I don't think it's fair that people are unhappy by employees not attending a "party," but the reality is that it gets noticed.
I have found that the right balance is to have a reason and a regretful smile when you decline, don't decline two in a row, and bring some snacks for the break room the week following the potluck. And be sure and ask everyone how it was when you come back, and act really interested. That'll get you forgiven quickly.
Enjoy your day off and good luck!
2006-12-26 00:52:27 · answer #2 · answered by Amanda L 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on HOW you refuse. If you told them you had already made other plans. That would be fine. If you refused & looked at them like they were idiots for even asking - that could be pushing it.
In the long run, it would be nice if you could attend SOME work-related events, like pot-luck meals. Such events tend to help build morale & shows everyone that you are part of the team on more than just a 'I do my work & go home' level.
Such events can also be good networking times when you can catch up on work-related chat you may have missed or connect with people in the company you don't see on a regular basis. These types of interactions can be critical as you advance your career with the company.
I know of some people that even make stuff off for the lunch or dinner even if they can't stay for the whole thing or come at all. I don't cook, I usually bring drinks, chips or breads.
2006-12-25 22:44:52 · answer #3 · answered by bionicbookworm 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You are right to decline the invitation to the potluck, didn't they know that it was your day off? Will you be paid for your time at the potluck?
It is not rude if you do not attend on your day off, and it is not even rude if you choose not to attend and you were working on that day. It is your prerogative, now if you are trying to get a promotion, and be seen as a team player, you'll jump right in on everything, otherwise, enjoy your day off!!
2006-12-26 23:26:17 · answer #4 · answered by Lottalady 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it is not rude if you advised your co-workers that you will not be attending. So please don't feel its rude, its your day off and well they understand that you may have made other plans. What would be rude is when there is a pot-luck and each peer is to bring something and a peer does not bring anything and is the first in the food line, this makes me see red.
2006-12-26 01:59:11 · answer #5 · answered by tnbadbunny 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not rude, its your day off. It might be rude if you were working and just said no. But there is no reason to come to work just for a potluck.
2006-12-26 15:30:58 · answer #6 · answered by kitkat5 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pot lucks are nasty, eating food from peoples houses that you wouldn't otherwise visit is not my idea of fun. I have refused to eat even when I was present the day of the event. Just think of how many people you see leaving the bathroom withut washing up, these are the same people cooking the food. Once we had a lady bring a cake that her bird left footprints on. Enjoy your day off, ingesting germs is not my idea of fun anyway.
2006-12-25 23:03:34 · answer #7 · answered by act as if 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. I think it is up to you if you want to attend it. I didn't go to my company's Christmas party last week b/c it was to end late and I had to be at work the next morning early. Plus I really didn't feel like going.
2006-12-26 00:24:26 · answer #8 · answered by Michelle G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not at all. Just say you thank you for the invitation, but you have other plans. Be vague, don't come up with anything too elaborate or contrived. That's exactly what I did for one party this year and no blood was shed. :)
2006-12-26 05:28:05 · answer #9 · answered by Nicole F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not rude at all, it's a job and there's no reason to come in for something like that; unless they want to pay you triple time.
2006-12-26 07:21:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋