You are in a very scary and dangerous situation. Those type of guys are just nuts. I dated one. I was followed to stores, had windows broken out, tires slit, was constantly getting threatened to be killed. I could go on and on about all the nutty things he did.
Restraining orders did no good, he would be gone by the time the police arrived. When they did find him, he would just deny everything.
All I can advise you to do is to avoid him if at all possible. Hopefully he will find someone else, and harass them instead of you (that is terrible, but there is no way to stop him, so it might as well be the next victim). Let your family know what is going on. Do not go anywhere alone for the next several months.
I do feel sorry for you, I wish no one ever had to go through this.
2006-12-25 14:40:29
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answered by maamu 6
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Sounds like my ex husband. Notice he's my EX husband. I remarried several years later and I am happy.
The thing about these sociopaths is that they can show such a sweet side, you know the side that brings you flowers and tells you how much he loves you and things will be better, and the side that is totally selfish, noncaring and lacks empathy.
If you really want my advice, run, and run quickly. No good can come out of this. Thank God you don't have children with this, because I did, and believe me the childrren get caught in the middle and it is just horrible. If you think he just treats you this way, realize he will treat your children this way too. It's sad.
Good luck. Get out now.
2006-12-25 14:38:53
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answered by Anonymous
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If he is a sociopath, then he wouldn't really love you. He won't experience things like faith, love, or empathy. He can pretend to because he's seen others experience them.
Also the person you think you know probably isn't what he is. He will have a compulsion and talent for lying. Let me guess, all of the times you've taken him back he convinced you through some plausible excuse? Practice makes perfect.
He isn't coming back because he actually misses you. It's probably just for sex. He's probably designated you as a practice girl. And/or he likes to push your emotional buttons because it amuses him and gives him a sense of power over you.
As for killing you, he probably wouldn't, because there are consequences. I don't mean "moral" consequences, I mean legal ones. Once getting back with you is more trouble than it's worth, he'll get bored and move on.
2006-12-25 21:31:43
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answered by Vu 2
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Call the non-emergency police number listed in the front of your phone book and tell the responding officer what you have just told us. Do what they say. BTW, they are going to be very strict about what exactly determines a sociopath so you'd better be very sure about your terminology. (My local police educated me about, "I have been burgled," vs. "I have been robbed.".)
If you don't think that they take you seriously, and it has been known to happen, take out a restraining order. It is not like a barbed wire fence, though, you know. Go to the library, or local women's center and ask if there's a list of places that help women in your situation. They usually have local resources - women's newspapers, etc. that carry ads or even show you where to look in the phone book. Call these places for tips on how to protect yourself - locks, behavior, etc. Good luck.
2006-12-25 14:53:39
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answered by Casperia 5
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2016-10-18 23:51:44
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answered by ? 4
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Most likely he won't kill you! there's a saying that says The brave will live until the coward allows him too!! meaning......... Put your foot down and let him know that this is it!! but you have to cut him off completely. If he still doesn't get it get involved with the law.I'm pretty sure he's not going to like that and he will leave you alone....... TAKE CARE & GOOD LUCK!!
2006-12-25 14:47:18
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answered by mamachula01 3
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Do yourself a favor. Don't take him back and get away from him. Tell him you want nothing to do with him. Call the cops if you really think your life is in danger. Do not play around with people like this because in the end it could end badly.
2006-12-25 14:37:13
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answered by clarnely_2001 4
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Kinda hard to say what he might or might not do...I dont know him and you didnt say anything in your question that indicates sociopath whatsoever...me and my ex broke up a few times and neither of us were sociopaths.
2006-12-25 14:35:59
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answered by Anonymous
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I think you should be honest with him...as gently as possible and then keep your eyes open...the media skews people getting killed because they never reports the millions that break up and don't have any ramifications...but always be aware...and remember the signs aren't always obvious...remember the neighbors who have said "He was such a nice, quiet boy."
2006-12-25 14:38:27
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answered by jdoug_sellers 2
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Yes they are possible to get rid of don't answer the phone when he calls. call the cops if he comes over get a order of protection against him. get a new man that is like a bad ***
2006-12-25 14:40:08
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answered by IceAngel 1
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