Please help me find my faith after my 2 month old daughter's death?

Question

My daughter died on 6/19/2006. She was 2 months old and a preemie. She never even got to come home. I need to believe that I will see her again and I want to have more kids but why did God take my baby? I did everything right and her death was totally unexpected. She was fine until she got a stomach infection. Please help me. Especially with the holidays here I ask why everyday.

Thank you all for the kind and honest words. I think what I need is to just do what David did and live. Ironically my husband's name is David. The answers I seek are with God and I will work to find them and Him. Thank you again.

Answer 1

King David in the Bible lost a newborn. He prayed and prayed when the child was sick, and when the child died his servants and family were afraid to tell him, because they knew how David loved and wanted the boy to live. But he guessed what they were whispering about, and he got up and began trying to continue with life the best he could. When they asked him how could he do it, he said, "He cannot come back to me but I can still go to him."
Your precious daughter is in the arms of Jesus today. She is fine. And she wants you to be like David, to continue your life the best you can, serving God the best you can, like He did. David and the child's mother had other children, and one was Solomon, the second-wisest man who ever lived. They also had a son named Nathan, from whom Mary the Mother of Jesus descended.
See, though the young son died, God still had plans for David, and for David's children yet to be born. And God still has great plans for you too, and for the other children you will bear. So seek Him. Those Who seek Him find Him. Read the Bible. Go to church. Pray for Him to reveal Himself to you. As you pray and seek Him, he will lift you up in His arms and give you the supernatural comfort you need to continue on. And though He did not take your daughter's life, He will now take your life and make you a better mother, friend and comforter to others because of what you have been through.

Answer 2

First, please accept my condolences. I cared for a baby girl who died at less than 2, that was in 1988. I still grieve. By God's grace caring for her when no one else would. I was given a daughter the same year The sick child passed on a Friday, our daughter was born on a Friday. I was made aware of this before it happened.

It is natural to grieve. Even be angry. the only thing I can suggest is that you pray about it. Ask God for understanding.

We cannot see into the future, perhaps there was something in hers that might have caused you extreme hardship or regret.

It is very difficult when children and babies are involved. We ask ourselves, like you. Why? What did she or I do wrong?

Life is so very fragile, and so many things can go wrong. I share in your grief.

Be most assured, that your daughter is safe and happy. NOTHING can ever harm her again! As I remember the loss of my foster child. I say to myself, she is bouncing a ball in the halls of heaven,
jumping up and down in the clouds, and maybe even playing with my girl.

Take courage. I will be praying for you. May God richly bless you.

She gets to see the Face of God for all eternity, and sit at the feet of Jesus.

Donald

Answer 3

You will be in my prayers today...

If I had a one sentence answer, I would be glad to give it to you. I went through the lost children at birth twice. It is not an easy thing.

Everyone dies. Sometimes young. Things can change that, including faith. But to abandon faith over something that is going to happen to everyone at some point is not reasonable.

I have seen the things that my other children have experienced. I have a son who was born with a bad facial deformity - and makes his living as a stage actor in spite of it. I have a daughter who was kidnapped from her place of work, raped, beaten, and left pregnant by it - who recently meet and married a wonderful man who loves her and her son with all of his heart. I have a daughter who fell off a mountain and walks with difficulty, using a wheel chair much of the time - and is a fashion photographer with her own chain of studios.

I have witnessed God take what should have been "tragedies" and turn them around into triumphs too many times. It has only strengthen my faith. Even the death of both children. I am assured that they have been spared the pain and suffering that is too often a part of this life, and gone straight to loving presence of God Himself. I miss the good times that we could have had together, to ahead to better ones to come.

Through it all, I have learned to run to, not from, God when things like this happen. He alone can offer comfort and strength.

As I said, you will be in my prayers today...

Answer 4

My daughter was killed with 5 other teenagers on 7/19/91. They were coming home from our church camp in Tennessee. Like you, I had many questions I wanted God to answer and I didn't understand their deaths either. The holidays, her birthday, and the day of her death are still the toughest days of the year, but time does help. I can't give you the answers you seek. I can only tell you of my personal experience and how in the tragedy of it all that I was somehow changed for the better. You see, I was not a good person or father and my daughter was. Although I still grieve for her, I made a decision to live a better life and to be a better person in her honor. I went to the camp that she attended and was embraced by her friends and they helped me discover true life. Although my experience is not yours, I primary want you to know that regardless of the details of losing a child, there is hope. Hope and faith that I'll meet her again. Find a support group or a church family to love you and help you continue on in life's journey.

Answer 5

Precious woman, mother, and child of God. I cannot answer your question. If I was able to, my name would be God and not Terri. I'm deeply sorry for your loss. I will not even pretend to understand the depth of pain that you must feel. I know you did nothing wrong. It was not your fault that your daughter went home. My neice was a beautiful 17 yr old girl when she went home to God. It was five years ago and I still have no answer as to why she died. God loves you. And He loves your daughter. You WILL see her again. There have been things in my life that I went thru and have gone before God and yelled at Him for. WHY?!!!!! WHY?!!!!! And God was silent. Just when I got angry enough to throw the towel in, I remember another time that God was silent. When His beautiful Son hung on that cross and cried out, "My God, why have you forsaken me?" God was silent then. I don't know why your daughter died. I know that God will help you through it. Some people will tell you to just hang on and don't lose your faith. My prayer is that you will be real and honest with God as you go through your grieving and healing process. I pray that He will comfort you in a tangible way. I will keep you in my prayers. Please contact me if I can be of any help. I know there are support groups that can be very helpful during this time for you. More than anything, I pray a supernatural peace will encompass you and carry you though.

Answer 6

I am so sorry to hear of the death of your very young daughter, and I understand that it is very painful to you. It has been six months, and perhaps you should find some help,in order to release this child into the arms of our Lord. We do not always know why some are called home this early, while others much later. You have a little angel in heaven, and believe that at some time you will be united with her as well as the other members of your family that have gone home before you. My word seem inadequate for your loss., but be assured of my prayer for you, God Bless you

Answer 7

Death is ugly and painful. The death of a child is one of the ugliest and most painful things anyone can endure. God did not take your baby. Death did. God wants your baby to live - even more than you do. That is why Jesus came, as one of us - human, to face and defeat death. Now your baby does live because death is defeated. We taste its bitter, lingering effect, but it no longer has a triumphant claim on us.
You did nothing wrong to cause her death. There was nothing more you could have done to prevent her death. It is a tragic fact that death is part of life still. One day it wont be. That is the day for which we wait and pray.
On this holy day, we see the lights and remember that darkness is overcome. And even as we cling to hope through our tears, so God clasps us ever closer to eternity. Our tears of pain are held in the heart of God until one day they shall adorn our tiaras as the sons and daughters of the Eternal One.

Answer 8

I lost my baby when he was 3 months old to SIDS. Jan. 8th it will have been 7 years since he passed away. Its something you will never forget for sure. The only thing that got me through it was God and knowing I will see him again. I know the pain of just wanting your child with you and wondering why this happened to you. We are not supposed to understand why it happened. Only God has that answer. There is nothing anyone can say to make you feel better. I know i will see my baby again. This may sound silly but on his birthday I pray and ask God to tell him happy birthday or I love him and Christmas or whenever I start thinking about him. I am sorry you have to go through this. When i lost my baby i was a month pregnant with my daughter. It was very hard for me to go through that again but I did. With God all things are possible!I feel your pain. You are in my prayers. :) If you need someone to talk to my email is [e-mail].

Answer 9

I am so sorry for your loss. I can not even imagine what it would be like to lose a child. One thing you need to remember. YOU DIDN'T DO ANYTHING WRONG. I wish there was some way I could make it easier for you.
Keep believing that you will see her again. As for why GOD took her, only HE knows the answer to that. . I know it must hurt something awful right now. I will be adding you to my prayers that it will get easier for you and that you will have another little
one to love.

Answer 10

I'm sorry for your loss....but the good news is that the gospel IS the good news. Your child has eternal life. She died before the age of accountability. ( age 8) therefore, she was without sin and has eternal life. She is in heaven right now with the Lord and all your family who have passed on and probably with the children that yet still will come to your home. She gained her body and even though she didnt come home, she did what she was meant to do and that was gain a body. Her mission is over. That means she must have been a very special spirit that the Lord did not leave her here ( and yes that was HIS choice). So with that.. he sent YOU a very special spirit.

Feel good that you will see her again. Families are forever. That is the gospel plan.

You will have other children as the Lord see's fit and you will grow to understand and love them as he loves us. That is part of why we are to be parents, so we can understand the Love the Lord has for us!! For he is OUR parent.

Take the pain to the Lord in prayer. I know he understands the tenderness of a mother who has lost her child. That He understands remember? he saw his own Son be murdered on the cross. He understands the pain.

God lives and so does your child live on. Rejoice in the fact that the savior's sacrifice has taken the sting out of death. You will see your child again. Live so that you may.......

Many blessings and hugs to you.