do you think that its right for a father to get his oldest daughter a $30 giftcard to walmart when he gets one stepdaughter a laptop & a digital camera along with over $200 in clothes to abercrombie & victorias secret. and another one a computer with a digital camera and $200 to abercrombie.
is it fair that the daughter only got a small gift?
2006-12-25 14:30:19 · 12 answers · asked by Lindseyyy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
well lets see, he also doesn't do **** for me thats another thing.
his girlfriend doesn't work and those are her kids. i never get to see him or talk to him, he never calls me.
when i go to his house he treats me like s hit and never talks to me. he neglets me like i don't excist, and im tired of it.
its not about how much the gifts cost but its always been like this. for my birthday i got $20, my stepsister whos birthday is 5 days after mine got an ipod, and her sister got an ipod and it wasn't even her birthday.
so whatever obiousally im going to be p issed that i don't ever get anything
2006-12-25 14:50:05 · update #1
don,t feel bad gal, be calm and search yourself, try to see how to improve in your character or something you can do that will make your dad to be proud of you. may be next time he,ll be pleased to do anything for you.
2006-12-25 15:06:41 · answer #1 · answered by kelly 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm, I'm guessing you got a giftcard to Walmart, right? So, what's going on here? If he's buying his stepdaughters more than he's buying his biological daughter he might be trying to buy their affection. Or does he support you in other ways (pay for a car, college, even a college fund) and figures it evens out that way? This is just guessing on my part, because frankly, it seems pretty weird. But, nobody said gifts had to be fair. Nobody made a law that you have to be given anything, so accept what you are given with graciousness. But, I would be concerned about your relationship with your father. Wait for a while, then have a talk with him NOT ABOUT THE GIFTS, you'll only look greedy. Have you ever told him what it is about him that makes him a good Dad? Have you ever discussed your future plans and dreams with him? Of course, there's the chance that he's just a jerk. But he is your Dad, now what are you going to do about your relationship with him?
EDIT ADDITION; I read your additional comments, crud, and I was trying to be so generous. Sometimes a crappy relationship is just a crappy relationship. Enjoy your giftcard and whatever he does give you, but don't let it get you down. A schmuck is a schmuck.
2006-12-25 14:40:38 · answer #2 · answered by Caper 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been in the same situation. It was more because my dad let his wife, the step mom do the Christmas shopping. I thinks it should be fair. But sometimes my fair is not your fair. Everybody sees things differently. This year, my two daughters had the same spent on them. But because of the age difference, 6 year spread, the younger got "alot" of little stuff. The older got just a few things, and one really nice gift. A really nice stereo for her car. The older was a little put out. But money wise, it was fair. She didn't see it that way. Merry Christmas!
2006-12-25 14:58:50 · answer #3 · answered by krash 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one said life was fair. Fact is you are a older now, and things change. So you visit, what did your MOM buy you? What about their dad? Maybe they get screwed on the other end???
The year that I moved out of the house, both my stepbrother and stepsister got a TV with a built in VCR player. I got credit on my college card for meals. They got a ton of clothes, I got a jacket.
You can choose how to take this. you can try to understand your dad, or you can drowned yourself in anger. WHo are you hurting? Not your dad, yourself!
2006-12-25 15:12:51 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might be feeling like he should in a sense "kiss up" to the stepdaughter. I know, that doesn't sound super fair to me either. But, that was my first thought when I read this question. God bless! Have a wonderful New Year!
2006-12-25 14:33:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how ur feeling, my dad used to do the same thing. But when I told him how I feel, he not only relized his mistake, but stopped getting the kid gifts. So try telling him about it,
By the way, it might differ in girls, because this thing is between son and stepson.
2006-12-25 14:36:40 · answer #6 · answered by Night_Wolf 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life isn't fair. People aren't nice. Get used to it. You will have to deal with it for a long, long time.
2006-12-25 14:34:45 · answer #7 · answered by Lisa A 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If i was the daughter id have to speak my mind all kids should be treated fairly. but unfortunatly life isnt fair no
2006-12-25 14:32:13 · answer #8 · answered by Catie 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It isn't a question of if this is fair or not.
It seems that he doesn't want anything to do with you. Sorry to point it out.
2006-12-25 18:57:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you ask for a smaller gift? If not then confront him about it and tell him you think you are being treated unfairly.
2006-12-25 14:34:23 · answer #10 · answered by irish_lasie_95 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋