hi am a 22 and gettign married in 6 weeks and i am really scared about the weddign night, i am a virgin but my soon to be husban isnt
i just dont know what to do or how to do it and i dont want to jsut see how things go b/c i want it to be the best night of my life
help!!!
2006-12-25 14:29:06 · 17 answers · asked by gettingmarried2316 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
my bf is 25 and will it hurt ??
2006-12-25 14:35:53 · update #1
Wait for your wedding night. To marry him you must trust him. There are no expectations on the night after your celebration. Enjoy your celebration, your honeymoon and life is going to be wonderful
2006-12-25 14:38:25 · answer #1 · answered by Tonia 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Had been living together before hand so not virgins.... As for the wedding night we were both so tired but I couldn't stand the thought of not having sex on my wedding night so maybe not are best night of the honeymoon but we managed to have it and then a nice long sleep after words with some great sex in the morning......
2016-05-23 06:49:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
to be honest... it's possible that you'll both be too tired to do ANYTHING after the wedding. But....
There is no book on HOW to do it. There is no right or wrong way. Practice makes perfect, as cliche as that is, it is true. Being a virgin, you probably don't know what you like, love, dislike about sex yet so really you won't know until you try. You two getting married means that you're going to have a lifetime together, during which he will have to learn what pleases you and vice versa.
Chances are, the first time is NOT going to be the best sex night you'll ever have. But it can be wonderful nonetheless. You have to start somewhere. The more you explore together, the better it will get.
What matters is being with the person you married, whom I presume you trust and love and feel safe with. He knows you're a virgin so hopefully he will be sensitive to your feelings. Most importantly, be honest and open about what you do and don't want to do. Don't be afraid to speak up. Men LOVE when women are not afraid to at least talk about what they like and don't like. But just try and let go of your fears, relax and know that you're with the person who loves you and wants to be with you forever. You will see what a wonderful intimate experience it can be, and something to look forward to doing again and again and again... hehe that's the only way i can think of to put it.
2006-12-25 14:48:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 7⤊ 0⤋
You are a Virgin will make your husband understand why he should take it easy on the very first night. Let things go where they will in its own way but do not plan the night whether to have sex or not. Sex is there for the rest of your life. But your husband should not just go for sex the first night if you do not want that. Let him know how you feel.
2006-12-25 15:39:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you will be rewarded on your wedding night for waiting. You only have 6 weeks left so definately hold out for it! Your one in a million for doing this!
On your wedding night, tell your husband that your scared, be upfront with him. Chances are youll both be more comfortable with him on top, kindof guiding you. Remind him to be very gentle, as im sure he will be.
It wont be the most comfortable thing, but "great sex" will come later (i mean its very doubtful that youll climax on the first time). Sex is the closest two people can get and you will enjoy this time just being close to him in this special way. It sounds lame but its true. Its natural for you to be scared, but I admire you for what youve done, and I think you'll be rewarded with a wonderful wedding night and a blessed marriage. God Bless and Good Luck!!
2006-12-26 18:44:55 · answer #5 · answered by Christines256 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sex on your wedding is gonna be something special that you will enjoy. As far as you nit being experienced, that's ok because you body will take over and know exactly what to do. Will it hurt? probably but not in the way you are thinking. You get a pap smear and if you can endure that you can definitely endure sex. Just lay back and enjoy the ride.
2006-12-25 15:04:48 · answer #6 · answered by Dana S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the wedding night should be one of the most anticipated night and a memorable night for most married ladies. however, this night is not mend to be the actual night your husband deflowers you in the case if you are a virgin. since he is not a virgin, he should have his own experience about dealing with women himself. a great husband usually understands his wife's feelings or desires and vice versa. despite certain cultures that makes it compulsory that the wife loses her virginity on the first night of marriage, in this 21st century, the women too has the right to choose when and how she wants to have sex. sex is a very intimate matter especially to people who are newly married and never had sex before. the first night would be a great night if the couple use it to deeply explore and understand each other better by using effective communcation between each other. if the wife thinks its too early or she is not physically ready to have sex on that night, then the husband could wait for a couple of days more or till she is completely ready because in any ways she is his wife and obviously the couple would have sex sooner or later as she belongs to him. sex shouldn't be just a duty of the women to fullfill the husbands sexual desires, it should work both ways. communicate and don't be shy about your feelings, he would understand. wish you a great married life.
2006-12-25 14:56:36 · answer #7 · answered by nadya159 1 · 3⤊ 1⤋
It might hurt if you've never used tampons or if your bf is large. Tell him to go slow and have an hour of foreplay first. Bring some lubrication too like Astroglide just in case. Don't be scared. If you love each other it will be wonderful.
2006-12-25 19:50:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all I am sure your soon to be husband knows you are a Virgin and if he really loves you like he should love you by wanting to marry you then you should have no worries about your first night with him.
2006-12-25 17:23:01 · answer #9 · answered by Mimi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I were so tired we didn't even "consummate" our wedding! It was hilarious, we woke up with our wedding attire on!
As for what to do, believe me, it all comes naturally. You'll know what to do...it's like breathing..everyone knows how and no one has to show you!
Good luck and I hope that you have a wonderful long lasting marriage. We've been married for about 5 years and it's been tough. However, if you rely on communication and honesty...you will not have to seek a divorce.
2006-12-25 16:40:30 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is one problem that I can see in what you wrote.
EXPECTATION.
You want this to be the best night of your life.
While you feel this way it is impossible for you to perform to the standard you will after you know his body really really well. Nor will he live up to your expectations either.
Lower the bar in what you want and expect and you will love it what ever comes your way!
Yes it will hurt but not as much as you imagine... and afterwards you will understand what they say when they say
"It hurts but in a good way."
mmmmmmmm
2006-12-25 15:37:36 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋