I need some help, Three months ago I meet this girl who is perfect, I mean she is the marrying kind, the woman every man wants to marry, she´s really pretty, slim, sweet, nice, funny, etc. But I don´t know why I started to freak out, even dough she has never brought committement up, I freaked and I just stopped calling her. I feel bad and stupid and like a real asshole for doing this to her because I know I´m about to loose the greatest woman I have ever meet but I can´t help but freak I´m really afraid of committement I guess, but what can I do, I don´t want to loose her but I just can´t help to push her away even dough I reeally like her and miss her, so HELP what can I do?
2006-12-25 14:12:44 · 9 answers · asked by john m 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Call her. Expain to her that you were intimidated by her (and im using this as an example) beauty, perfection, her greatness...her purity. That she is everything you wanted and she scared you. Be flattering. If she is as great as you say she is...she will listen and she will understand. What do you really have to lose? Besides...women want the truth...and if you give her the truth..you let her know your an honest man...and you are capable of expressing your feelings...two things women look for. If she doesn't understand..then least u did all u could do. but, be a gentleman...make a settle deal. "If you dont like me at all after 3 dates you dont have to deal me with anymore" kinda thing. I dunno..be creative.
2006-12-25 14:17:48 · answer #1 · answered by * Kittles * 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Good Lord, John. If you "can't help but push her away", you're not ready to be in a relationship with her. If you're afraid of commitment, then don't commit. But do the right thing, and tell her the truth.
You know John it sounds like you're just too young to be in relationship with someone even if she's as great as you say. Take your time and when you're ready, you'll meet another great girl. The world is full of them!
2006-12-25 14:22:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you just need to tell her how you feel about committment. if she's that great then i'm sure she will understand. also she doesn't deserve to be given the cold shoulder. heck she's probably wondering what she did wrong--i know i would be. give her a call tonight and tell her merry christmas and hope she had a good day. start off with that. it will mean alot to her. good luck :)
2006-12-25 14:19:04 · answer #3 · answered by lala 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you have to make a big come back and hope she forgives you ...then you need to tell her the truth tell her you care for her and you want it to work but you want to take it slow...this way she knows from the start..just dont expect her to let you get away with too many freak outs
2006-12-25 14:16:33 · answer #4 · answered by Catie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-18 23:51:00 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your not ready for a commitment now. the way i know that is because while listing her qualities, you wrote "pretty, slim", both of which are physical attributes. people who really want to commit do not care about those types of things. if she was in an accident today that disfigured her face, would you still want to be with her then?
2006-12-25 14:17:36 · answer #6 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After only 3 months you don't need to make a commitment.
Just continue to get to know each other and learn about each other.....in 3 months you've only touched the surface.
Stop stressing...your relationship is very new.
2006-12-25 14:17:02 · answer #7 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call her. Explain to her that your afraid of commitment and thats why you didn't call. Tell her that you want to take it slow or whatever. She will understand thats why you didn't call. Its always better to be truthful then lie or act like nothing happened. I promise she will really apprciate if you don't lie and tell the truth!
2006-12-25 14:17:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call her and tell her that you are a balless wonder. But I am sure she has already figured that one out. That and I am sure she has already moved on. So get out the old Playboys. You blew it. Loser!
2006-12-25 14:21:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋