The last time we talked he was suppose to see him for Easter, but he never did. He missed his birthday and all holidays since including Father's Day and Christmas.He has been in and out of my sons life.He didnt even enter his life until he was over a yr. old.
He has been in and out of prison.
He is suppose to pay child support, but doesn't.
I took him to court, but got no where.They gave him visitation, but he never uses it.
My husband has been in my son's life since he was about 6 months old.
what can I do?please help.
2006-12-25 13:56:22 · 8 answers · asked by mommyof2 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
My best advise is talk to a lawyer!! I know that sounds cheesy but it is the best bet. Laws vary but there is a thing called abandonment. If a father (or mother for that fact) does not support a child nor has any contact there can be a petition for abandoment and that will void any parental rights the absent party has. I know of 2 cases personally that has done this with.
If you need the money I know alot of states have a child support enforcement agency that keeps track of payments and deals out punishment. For example (in Ohio where I live) if a payment is over 30 days past due they will issue a suspension on a drivers license..(the bad part is it isnt full proof.. for example he just would just have to make payment, not even the full monthly amount.)
I do not know how going through an agency would affect an abandoment case so like I said consult a lawyer. Call around there are some lawyers that will do consultations for free.
Good Luck.. Hope this might help a bit
2006-12-25 17:31:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband is your sons daddy the way things are going.. The courts will give the biologic father a chance to change his ways and be part of his childs life. You are looking at the "now" but the courts look at the childs entire life in the future.
Make it easy for your child. Provide a safe environment. If the biologic dad will get his act together, then he can start paying you support etc.
Signing off his rights as a father will probably make you feel better but he can change his mind in the future and ask for a reversal of the decision saying he signed off his rights but now wants to reconsider.
2006-12-25 14:10:55 · answer #2 · answered by QuiteNewHere 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is sad, I know your sons pain as I never knew my father until I was 15 but after visiting him for one month, he sent me back to my foster mother and my social worker said he didn't want me back. I again spoke with him when I was 23 and he had nothing but excuses. What is funny is even though he didn't love me I was beside him on his death bed and I am better knowing that I tried. I would just tell him that you want him to terminate his parental rights since he makes no effort to be a father. Then if you remarry your new husband can take on the job where he left off and repair the broken heart of your son and I pray that you find him a good dad then.
2006-12-25 23:22:44 · answer #3 · answered by Georgia Preacher 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
by employing "rights" i think of you mean custody. He can petition for custody any time he pleases. even nonetheless it is not sounding like there is an unquestionably custody case in any respect, so a sparkling one will ought to be conventional. new child help is SEPARATE in court docket. those duties won't be able to be "signed off" without approval of a choose. I dont care what piece of paper the father has signed. you have got agreed to take 0 new child help yet till this is complete by employing stipulation and related to a court docket order, then you definately can create a help case at any time till the youngster turns 18.
2016-10-06 00:33:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all always remember: even a dog can make puppies but it takes a real man to be a daddy! and it sounds like your husband is a stand up guy who loves your son and is taking wonderful care of him. You can always petition the court and try to get him to sign away his parental rights but he sounds like the kind of jerk who wont do it just to piss u off. Your son will realize that his real father is your husband! REAL father meaning the love- joy- and understanding as he grows. I never ever met my real dad- my parents were divorced when I was 6 wks old but my step dad raised me from 4 years old and up. And I never even thought of him as a step dad- he was my DAD he kissed my boo boos and loved me- not this strange man who gave me life! I know its hard- but just continue on loving your son and one day your ex will be sorry he didnt form a relationship with him but your son will know its not your fault!
2006-12-25 15:25:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
unfortunatly theres not much legally that you can do. He doesnt abuse the child so you cant take away parental rights. The dad has to sign off on his rights. Ive tried to do the same. Just keep pushing the child support if he sits in jail enough times you might be able to convince him to sign off his rights if you drop the child support case
2006-12-25 14:00:57 · answer #6 · answered by Catie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
unless you can prove that he is harmful to the child there is likely nothing you can do. enlist the aid of support enforcement to colleect child support.
maybe try pointing out to him that if he will allow your husband to adopt then he won't have the obligation of child support anymore
2006-12-25 14:00:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
these are all things you should have thought about before you laid down there....get it?????
2006-12-25 14:52:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋