I am having problem with a man who is secretly flirting with me even though he is married and I am intersted in a single man. He trys to sabatoge my efforts to show my interest in the single man because he is an unfaithful husband and very jelouse of my freedom. I want to date a particular man that I highly respect and this married guy keeps hitting on me around the single guy to make me look bad in front of him.I hate his attitude what should I do? He hates it when I am around his wife because it makes him nervous that I may tell her, what can I do????
2006-12-25 13:43:36 · 21 answers · asked by java348 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell the single guy about it, ask if he can help you make the married guy jealous. I feel sorry for his poor wife.
2006-12-25 13:46:09 · answer #1 · answered by Miss Metro 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I know your predicament on this nasty married guy. The simple step for you to take is to avoid contact with him. Usually a married man keeps on lying not only for a single word but continuously shadowing the previous lies he made. what was just you experience from him should keep you aware that he is not worthy to try, coz in the first place he is unfaithful to his wife who is the same gender as you are.
However, for whatever you do in trying to avoid him never let him down in front of anybody or making him shy, I might guess a man always on his ego and never give up on something that he was being challenged. I am a man also and I know those strategies are getting more deeper once you allow him to mingle with you and allowing him to have a contact with his eyes will make you soften and melted into his soft spoken and convincing words. So be wary and avoid him at all.
2006-12-25 22:07:05 · answer #2 · answered by nurrasid 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell the guy you are going to tell his wife if he doesn't stop. The next time you are with the single guy and him together and he does this in front of the single guy say something like "why would I be interested in a married man like you when there are so many hot single men like ______ (say the other guy's name) that I could spend time with? Leave me alone!" Then take the other guy's arm and ask him to get you away from the married guy.
2006-12-25 21:48:28 · answer #3 · answered by graff_monster@sbcglobal.net 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
He sound aggressive so if you threaten him he may show aggression in a negative way. I doubt that he'll hit you, but he may say something designed to hurt your feeling. If you tell his wife he'll just deny it. The guy you like, talk to him in private. If you can't find privacy just slip him your number and ask him to call you. Then explain the situation, but don't be too forward because that intimidates some guys. If you 2 start dating the other guy will fall away, but you should let the married guy know that you're not interested in him in that way and become buddies with his wife. Ask her who does her hair or something.
2006-12-25 21:58:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anthony G 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all...where is this happening? At work? At home? At this married mans home?
If it is happening at work the line has been crossed and the whistle needs to be blown.
If this is happening at your home the problem lies with you and not the married man.
If this is happening at the married mans home...same as above. You should do everything in your power to stay away from this jerk. And whats more is WHY WOULDN'T YOU!?! He is creepy and staying away from creepy is a good thing.
If all else (meaning the above) fails...and I don't see why it should...then you must tell the married mans wife. Furthermore: If this gentleman is staking you then call the police.
2006-12-25 21:49:27 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Have you tried telling him you are not interested? That might be a good place to start. If nothing else...when your single man is around and the married man tired to 'hit on you' when he leaves make a comment to the single guy like..."man I wish he would just leave me alone". Then you single guy will get the drift...
2006-12-25 21:46:31 · answer #6 · answered by ~Just A Girl~ 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Confront him in front of the guy that you like. If he comes on to you just state the simple fact, "I'm not interested in dating a married man." Next time you see him alone tell him you will do the same thing in front of his wife if he doesn't smarten up.
Somehow he is getting the idea that it is OK to speak to you like that. Make it clear that it is not OK.
2006-12-25 21:48:35 · answer #7 · answered by CapeCodGram 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well 1st of all would express my feelings to this married man how he makes you feel. and if he still continues the next step is his wife and if she does not believe you get a video camera and hide it and secretly tape him then show it too her.you possible could get him for sexual harassment also.Don't let him screw up a possible good relationship.Good Luck
2006-12-25 21:51:15 · answer #8 · answered by Dew 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell him to back off or you will tell her, I can guarantee that will get him to stop. Let him know how you feel about his immature views on his marriage and you have no interest in him, especially due to the fact that you are looking for someone who has a higher view of relationships than he does.
2006-12-25 21:45:46 · answer #9 · answered by happily married ( : 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Any time the married man starts to come on to you, no matter where you are, very loudly say to him, "What are you saying? You want me to do what? Quick, I must find your wife right now!" Do not encourage this lout!
2006-12-25 21:46:19 · answer #10 · answered by maggiepirsq 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋