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I guess this is more for those who are or have been engaged. I have been engaged for about 1.5 years and I have to say that for the past year our sex life has kinda died off. I can say that it is not him but its me. It is rare that I am in the mood, where as before I would mainly initiate, now he does it and he works hard to get me to play along. I am wondering if this at all normal for engaged couples, I had heard this on the radio, but I want to hear what other people have to say. I really hope our married life wont be like this. Im not sure what happen between the time we got engaged and now. Please help!

2006-12-25 13:28:49 · 7 answers · asked by cib0385 4 in Family & Relationships Weddings

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You need to get a physical and make sure it isn't a health related issue. If not then you need to rethink the upcoming marriage. It will be the same or get worse when you marry.
If you are this unhappy being engaged then marriage will be miserable for you. It isn't fair to either of you. Plus, sooner or later he will get fed up with doing all the work and feeling useless as a sex partner and look elsewhere for his needs.

2006-12-25 13:32:17 · answer #1 · answered by Pantherempress 7 · 0 0

i notice that your first year after being married things kind of die down. Mabe the fact that you've been engaged for so long is almost like being married. If the problem is with you, then the only one that can answer that question is you. Have your feelings changed toward him? Do you feel tied down or uncomfortable? Or maybe you are just stressed and sex or intimacy isnt a priority. Evaluate yourself and your relationship and sit down and talk about it. It sounds like you still love him. Communicate your feelings.

2006-12-25 13:36:02 · answer #2 · answered by JustaFriend 2 · 1 0

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2016-10-28 08:54:54 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0 0

If this happened to you after you got engaged, maybe you have some deep negative feelings hidden somewhere about settling down. Tell him (anyway you know how) that you need more time to relax and think this all through. Then temporarily give him the ring back, and tell him to hold on to it for you. You should "feel" the answer in no time.

2006-12-25 13:33:34 · answer #4 · answered by INDRAG? 6 · 0 0

You haven't mentioned your age but fluctuations in hormones can cause disinterest in sex. Have a hormone panel done by a physician.
If you rule out a physical problem, try going for a few couples counseling sessions. Could be lack of communication? Could be stress from planning the wedding? Whatever the case, it never hurts to lean better communication skills.

2006-12-25 13:38:23 · answer #5 · answered by weddingqueen 5 · 0 0

Sorry and this may not be what you want to hear but you guys really should have waited to have sex.

2006-12-25 16:35:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

It shouldn't be normal. It's one of those things that you have to work at if you want it to be satisfactory to you.

2006-12-25 14:34:24 · answer #7 · answered by Cinnamon 6 · 0 0

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