Why can't I get a boyfriend?

Question

I am short, funny, a sense of humor, have a cool laugh and an all around cool person. I am a naturally flirter. I like a guy and I think he likes me back, then in the end, he doesn't. What is wrong with me and how can I change it?

This one guy who is two years younger me has a crush on me. But, lately he doesn't really talk to me anymore and doesn't seem interested! What should I do?

Answer 1

You might be trying too hard. That is what happened to me. Don't focus so much on "getting" a boyfriend. A guy doesn't want to be "gotten". Relax and have a good time. They are attracted to you because you flirt, make them laugh and have a nice personality and you are cool. If a guy starts to feel pressure to be a boyfriend, he might back off.

Let things happen naturally. Hang up the phone early and save some things for next time. End a meeting on a nice note and walk away. Pretty soon, the guys will just keep coming back for more.

Answer 2

There is nothign wrong with you, but here are some things that will help you get a boyfriend

If you do not already know him, then introduce yourself. Let him know you are there! If he is interested in you enough to want to get to know you better himself, he will add in some conversation eventually.
Show interest in his life. What's his favorite sport? TV show? Song? Movie? Find out and you will have something to talk about.
Make it easy for him to be friendly and talkative with you, but not overpowering.
Invite him to a party or event that you think both of you would enjoy together.
Be friendly with him alone until he makes it clear that he really likes you, and wants to be around you.
Just be yourself and let things unwind themselves.
At the end of the date, see if you really liked it or if you want to go on another or not.
Tell him that you had a nice time (e.g. "I had lots of fun. We should do this more again!").

Answer 3

I don't think there is anything wrong with you. You describe yourself as a great catch for any guy. This guy that you are talking about sounds like a piece of you know what. If you did date him he probably wouldn't treat you as good as you deserve. Best of luck to you though with finding a boyfriend. There is someone out there for you.

Answer 4

There is no magical powers to meeting the "right person". I never heard of a life ending , because there wasn't a significant other.

You move on and find someone else.

Answer 5

it is clear that you were flirting with this guy and that made you believe that he likes u.In actual fact,most guys and some ladies do not like to have relationship with people they flirt with.This guy may have thought about his security.Everybody wants to have a secured relationship,being much of a flirt ,only a few guys would take this risk of relationship with you.If you like a guy,flirting too much with him might raise red flags in him to scare him off.I for instance don't want a guy who flirts too much with me or anybody because i consider such a guy to be looking for a hook up and nothing serious with me.I believe lots of people think the same too.if you like a guy,keep it real with him.You have a good personality and so don't let this flirting stuff come between u and ur heart.Good luck

Answer 6

ive had this problem. ive been told im a mack and girls are always like ur so sweet and cute i hope i find a guy like you. or a girl would be so lucky to have you. then im like yea im right here, its very annoying. i just give up and when i dont try i get everything i was tryin for and failed at. so um i say just go for a lazy approach.

Answer 7

Be nice but don't be to obvious and try not to flirt to much or act concieted.
Just pray about it the right guy will come don't rush yourself you have your entire life to find a boyfriend.

Answer 8

you may have good qualities that attract guys to you, but maybe you're falling for the wrong guys. or maybe you don't let those good qualities shine. continue to go to social gatherings where you know there will be many guys and talk to them. keep a positive attitude, and hopefully the guys will gravitate to you and want to be your boyfriend.

Answer 9

Maybe because your tying to hard, lay back and chill girl. What guy wants a girl that seems like shes desperate

Answer 10

1) KNOW WHAT YOU ARE LOOKING FOR.
This is really important, because once you get a boyfriend you actually have to spend time with him! That can be a huge drag if he doesn't have the right qualities to make you happy. Make a list of qualities that your ideal boyfriend should have, such as intelligence, looks, sense of humor, a passion for music, or respect for other people's feelings.

2) BE READY TO LOVE A NEW GUY.
Do a self-check and make sure you are over old hurts and disappoinments in love. You're ready for a new relationship if you can put aside any grudges or crushes on old boyfriends, so you're ready to move on.

3) PUT YOUR BEST SELF FORWARD.
Attract the type of guy you're looking for by emphasizing your best features and downplaying negative qualities. Make the most of what you have, both physically and mentally. For example, if you don't like your flat chest but your thighs are nice and muscular, show off your best assets in cute minis that focus attention on legs. Another example: if you're not an Einstein at math but you are a caring type of person, go out of your way to be helpful to others and let that compassion shine.

4) HAVE A LIFE OF YOUR OWN.
Boys can sense when a girl is desperate for a boyfriend, and it makes them run in the other direction. Bottom line: boys want to hook up with girls who seem like they don't need a boyfriend to have a good time. If you appear to be happy, fun to be around and confident in yourself, guys will take a second look at you. Yes, boys like good looking girls, but beauty only gets you so far. Most boys with any dating experience know that it's better to date a fun and interesting regular chick, than a boring beauty queen.

5) TAKE A SECOND LOOK.
Consider any unattached guys at your school or work, or even the sons of your parents' friends. Maybe you think you're already considered everyone, but think again and really keep your mind open about guys you already know. Do any of them have the qualities that you want in a boyfriend?

6) GET INVOLVED.
One of the best ways to meet new guys - and to get to know them better - is to get involved in school activities. Find out what's offered at your school, such as clubs, teams, sports and other after-school activities. Join activities that you enjoy or that you are sincerely interested in, so you meet people with similar interests. From soccer to drama to yearbook, most schools offer many opportunities for teens to get involved. This can be an amazing way to meet new guys, expand your horizons and widen your circle of friends at the same time.

7) WHEN YOU'RE INTERESTED, SEND A MESSAGE.
If you have your eye on a certain guy, let mutual friends know about your interest in him. Ask someone you trust to discreetly tell him about your crush.

8) FLIRT.
Flirting really is a girl's best friend. Once you've set your sights on a cutie, take things to the next step by learning to attract his attention with flirting. This can help you become friendly with him, and you can learn to send the subtle signal that you're interested in becoming more than just friends. Get Jellybean's best flirting tips in her Flirting Guide: CLICK HERE.

9) TRY THE DIRECT APPROACH.
For bold girls, sometimes the direct approach applies. This doesn't mean walking up to your crush and saying "I like you, wanna go out?" which is highly risky and could backfire. Instead, be bold in the right setting, such as asking your crush to dance to a slow song at the school dance, or telling him you had a dream that you two were a couple and it was soooo sweet. His reaction will let you know if he's interested!

10) KEEP YOUR EYES OPEN.
Love can surface in unexpected places and at unexpected times. Keep your eyes open wherever you are and learn to look beneath the surface of guys. Remember, the right guy for you is somewhere out there, and he's looking for you too!