Today on chrismas day my mom and dad had a fight witch led to my dad hitting my mom .(He does that all the time) today my mom couldn't take it anymore and called 911 and they arrested my dad. And now we have to wait for the court i don't kno wat to do! Is my life going to be ok?,where to get money from?will my life be harder?,did my mom make the right decision?plz if u can relate to me answer my questions and help me cuz i really need it now. (PLEASE SIRIOUSE ANSWERS)if u want to alk to me privatley my email is "please_help_me_ineed_it@yahoo.com".Thank You!
By the way im 13 years old.
2006-12-25 13:10:19 · 14 answers · asked by Hurt 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I can assure you that you will be okay. Your mother did the right thing by calling the cops, not just because your dad hit her, but because she also wanted to protect you from him. I suggest that you and your mother contact close friends and relatives of yours so you can figure out how to bail him out. I also suggest you take the time to console your mom and talk with her. You both really need each other during this time. Good Luck.
2006-12-25 13:14:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Your mom did exactly the right thing. Why should she have to take this abuse from your father. I understand that you are 13 and scared but you have to understand that your mom's safety is the very most important thing. What if your dad hurt her so badly that she had to go to the hospital or worse, what if he killed her? Your life will ultimately be better with your father out of the house (I hope your mother does not let him come back and abuse her again). You can call a teen hotline in your area and talk this over with them. It would be so much better than emailing with people that you don't know. If you go to church, talk with your clergy or another adult that you respect and trust. Your mom should get a restraining order against your father so he cannot come near either of you. He in turn, needs to go for counseling and anger management classes. You and your mom need to stick together, be strong, talk with each other about what will happen next. The main thing is for your mother to be safe. Good luck to both of you.
2006-12-25 21:27:14 · answer #2 · answered by Santa's Elf 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen I know you are scared but your mom made the right chose your dad has a problem maybe your mom should have called the police sooner. also your second problem is giving out your email to complete strangers you are 13 you do not want dangerous people giving you advice. I am a mom and if my son gave out his email I would be really worried. Be there for your mom she will need it.
2006-12-25 21:47:11 · answer #3 · answered by iseemen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mother did the right thing. Too much abuse has been going on. It could ended in an very serious, maybe even death!
I would have done the same thing. You will be alright. Your mother will raise you to become an adult.
I been a sigleparent/mother for the last 10y and our daughter was 8 1/2Y when my husband, her biological father commited adultery and abandoned the family home.
God will take care of you and your mother!
I keep you in my prayers!
2006-12-25 21:55:38 · answer #4 · answered by Susanne R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur life will be good,and ur mom make the right action by calling 911.may be if he hit her again she may fall down on something and be badly hurted or he may hit her with something that can kill her.and now as u and ur mom r together u must be friends both of u need each other now.ur mom should talk with friends and relatives to arrange ur life.mom may find a work to get money.ur life will be hard in the begining,but it will be fine soon.
my yahoo messenger is "tim6630_2006" I will be happy if u talked to me.we will be friends ok.
2006-12-25 21:33:41 · answer #5 · answered by tim6630_2006 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES, honey, your mom DID the right thing. Sure it throws your family life into a roller coaster of emotions. But, YES she did the right thing. Hitting, or verbal abusing another...is NEVER ok for anyone to experience! It's happened in my family. It isn't easy, but it HAS to be done, so the "abuser" can get the help needed. Usually the "abuser" will never admit it, and get help...so it by needs be COURT ordered! Anger Management classes for a 52 week period of time will probably be manditated by the court. Other family members will probably best have their needs and emotions met by meeting with a "counselor" on an ongoing basis. This "talk therapy" is what other family members need in order to "heal" and move on with LIFE. Remember....LIFE is a JOURNEY....and sometimes "the seas are rough".... .. . BUT, we all learn from our "mistakes". Be FORGIVING.....and move on. I'd suggest that you attend a local church, first as a guest, then maybe even join in youth classes. (My local Baptist church has activities for teenagers and they are always supervised. This might be a good place to make new friends, too.) I've been through a lot.....been on the emotional "rollercoaster" for years....and "talk therapy" is helping us through it. Also, most important of all is my FAITH....that GOD is always with me, no matter what, and that I need to take my concerns to HIM in prayer and that HE will see me through the "tough times." I don't always understand WHY things happen, but I know that GOD knows, and that it is happening for a reason. I just need to go out for a walk....and think things through.
2006-12-25 21:30:56 · answer #6 · answered by Carolyn M 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My heart is with you and your mother sweetheart. Yes she FINALLY did do the right thing. Alot of women just keep on taking the abuse and they end up dead because they couldnt afford to leave. Think of it this way- your mom will not be hurt any more and thats a wonderful thing! Things will be alright for you and it will all work out. Things might be tight for awhile and your mom will have to be the one working and bringing in money now- just be there for her with lots of love and support. Good luck to u and god bless u both!
2006-12-25 21:22:37 · answer #7 · answered by cstinkerbell6969 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
she did the right thing women do not deserve to be battered.it is also best for you because you do not need to think that this type of relationship is OK or normal.if you have family ,grandparents aunts,uncles they might be able to get you and your mom in a safe environment ,if not there are social services who will look after you and your mom.it might be tough for a while,but he will have to pay child support for you and you and your mom will be much safer.away from him.many battered women end up getting killed ,then you would have no mother and a father in jail.
2006-12-25 22:06:28 · answer #8 · answered by ladyaspen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mom did the right thing. Don't worry--you are still a minor and the court will make sure you are taken care of. Just be sure not to blame yourself!
2006-12-25 21:26:30 · answer #9 · answered by Earnesty_in_life 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry you are going through this. Yes, your mom did the right thing. People who hit others do so because they can't manage their anger and need help.
2006-12-25 21:28:22 · answer #10 · answered by Kiss My Shaz 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋