There is this guy that I've started becoming really good friends with and my mom thought we were going out. I've tried explaining to my mom that we're just friends and she doesn't seem to get it. I don't understand why I can't have a guy over to watch a movie or play xbox or something without having her sit right next to us. She says she's trying to protect me but I know him really well now and I know he's not going to do anything to me. What I want to know is how can I make her understand that he's a good guy and that we're just friends and nothing bad is going to happen? She also won't let me go over to his house or be alone anywhere with him so when he comes over to watch a movie or something my mom watches it with us. So my other question is how can I get her to let us do stuff alone so she's not always listening in on our conversations and so that I can have a little privacy?? We're both 16 and sophomores in high school by the way.
2006-12-25 12:54:30 · 6 answers · asked by sportzchic09 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
tell her a girl can have friends get over it
2006-12-25 12:58:50 · answer #1 · answered by Vamp_lover23 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Invite him to do something where you mom can get to know him. Like dinner or a casual family thing. let her see that he's an ok guy. try to explain to her your 16 and need a little freedom away from her to enjoy you friends. Throw in her face how she raised you a certain way and she has to trust that. Have a serious conversation.Make a deal about going out alone with your friend. tell her where and when and give a call during. Some times it's hard for parents to let go of the image of thier babies needing protection and grasping thier young adult being able to manage things on thier own.
2006-12-25 21:14:11 · answer #2 · answered by damalala 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have sons who are 17 and 19. So its a little differrent with boys. First of all let me start by saying your mother seems alittle over-protective. If you were my daughter I would let you watch t.v with a boy in the LIVINGROOM ONLY WITH LIGHTS ON. but i would give you some time alone. i would be right in the next room and come in often to make sure nothing going on. You need to talk to her and let her know how you feel. Let me just say that the boy may be your friend only, in your eyes, but i have two sons, and I hear them talk and boys that age always have something on their mind, and your mother knows that, but she still don't trust YOU, AND THERE IS THE PROBLEM. TALK OPENLY TO HER ABOUT HOW YOU FEEL ABOUT SEX AND WERE YOUR COMING FROM AND MAYBE SHE WILL OPEN UP AND YOU WELL UNDERSTAND EACH OTHER BETTER.kIds these days even have sex in school, so she cant always be there,let her know that even if she wasn't there you wouldnt be doing anything and if he tryed something you could protect yourself and say no. Your mother sounds like she may have been a victim, maybe this will be the chance for her to teach or tell you something. good luck
2006-12-25 21:16:09 · answer #3 · answered by Vikki M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you had a boyfriend or started dating someone (but not this guy), your Mom would probably be convinced that you are not romantically interested in this friend.
By the way - this guy friend of yours is definitely interested in you. Thought you'd want to know.
2006-12-25 20:59:04 · answer #4 · answered by Johnny Q. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your mom is over protective.
2006-12-25 21:31:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her to eat penguin **** you *** belonker, that will get her attention, then tell her what you just told me
2006-12-25 20:58:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋