What is this girl wanting? Why does she do these things? I have a management position, am 40 y/o's old, no kids and live by myself. I have a 19 y/o female coworker that has spent the night at my place several times this month, when she doesn't stay at my place, she calls me 4 or 5 times per day, we have never had sex, we have gone out to dinner 4 or 5 times together also. She has asked me "Why I want to date her so bad?" and I was thinking that she was the one wanting to date me. What do you girls think of this situation? Why would she ask that question? Am I not seeing something here? Is she wanting more than just friends?
2006-12-25 12:54:20 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Careful, Careful, Careful. What it seems to me is, you have a girl who is infatuated with you. I'm thinking there are no serious feelings here. Also, this could be a bad thing because, she sounds like she could be a bit of a crazy girl (mentally). If it is just fun for you right now, then so be it. As long as she is made very aware, that right now it is just fun and that's it. i think that is what your situation is. She is looking for some one to adore her. And some one who will show her attention when she needs it. I'm gathering that....... from the question that she asked you about wanting to date her so badly. She is looking to be desired. Just be careful. Have fun with it if you are okay with this situation, and be on the look out for any red flags.
2006-12-25 13:10:47 · answer #1 · answered by katienebraska 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So she's spent the night at your place (but never had sex) and you've "gone out to dinner" (are those not considered dates?). I would be very confused too. She may be wondering why you haven't put any moves on her and what your intentions are or why you haven't tried anything with her (this could affect or be affecting her self esteem). What are your intentions? You are both of legal age, so if you want a dating relationship with her, then go ahead. If not, you need to let her know.
It's extremely rare to be "just friends" with someone like that (the way you describe what ya'll have been doing) and it doesn't make a lot of sense to me. You don't seem to have clear intentions and that is what is throwing her off. You should think about what type of relationship you want from her and let her know immediately. Even if you are not sure, TELL her you are not sure. Tell her you like her, etc, however you feel, but aren't entirely sure and just want to see where it goes if that is the case, but really if she is spending the night at your house and going out to dinner, what do you expect her to think? Communication is the key for any successful relationship or friendship. Good luck!
2006-12-25 13:16:19 · answer #2 · answered by Nicole F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to just come out and ask her the blunt question--what's up with our relationship? What do you want? It seems like she really likes you. Do you like her? Okay, I'm a 25 year-old-female and I remember back to when I was 19 and how immature I was. I didn't have a clue what I wanted so it may be dangerous ground for you to try dating this girl. Ironically, I was totally in love with a 40y/o man when I was 19 as well, and I would keep dropping hints that I liked him, but he never really "got it" and I ended up feeling very hurt and sad. We're good friends now, but I really wish he had just said to me, "hey, you're young, and I don't think we would be good together, but lets be friends." That would have made a world of difference and would have saved me a lot of heart-ache. I hope this helps.
2006-12-25 13:17:59 · answer #3 · answered by spyhopper 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
seems quite obvious she's looking for more than friendship here. You could have been giving her wrong signals at the start, by allowing her to stay over this frequently. Now, you need to make it clear to her re the friendship.
2006-12-25 13:12:28 · answer #4 · answered by PikC 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm not a virgin and that i does not care the two way. they're advantages to the two selection, virgins you do not would desire to agonize approximately STD's and you sense particular being their first time, yet non virgins be attentive to what they're doing and don't make issues too emotional or awkward by using letting emotions get interior the way. i assume it purely relies upon. significant intercourse=virgin. warm, stranger intercourse=non virgin (:
2016-12-11 15:54:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay away from her. She is mental in some way. She wants to use you for something. STAY AWAY!!!
2006-12-25 13:12:06 · answer #6 · answered by amyth74 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sexist isn't it saying only girls can answer your question
2006-12-27 00:03:12 · answer #7 · answered by burtbb0912 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
where is the Cuevo at?
2006-12-26 02:33:15 · answer #8 · answered by jeans545454 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋